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"A relationship is worth fighting for. "
I really ran the gamut of relations in recent years. Or, perhaps it would be better to say that I've mastered them.
I have had people publicly and persistently attack me with very nasty and unjustified comments. I have had people completely vecherkovskiy me out of your life because I refused completely to have a relationship on their own terms. I felt cheated in many cases. I even had people generously give me, but with the expectation that I would reciprocate, thereby putting unnecessary pressure and expectations on me.

Don't get me wrong, I blagosloven many wonderful relationships. But I have a lot that I would prefer to do without them. Even bad relationships have given me a few important lessons about relationships. Here's my top three lessons learned from unpleasant to me.

You are responsible for the feelings of anyone else.
I have someone who accepts everything I do personally. No matter how harmless my action or comment, they are almost always perceived it as a personal attack and react emotionally or with anger. First, it was incredibly frustrating to me, because I don't want to be constantly hurting people, even if I do so unintentionally. However, I finally had to learn that, as they interpreted my actions are not my responsibility. My job was to be good and balanced. If they decided to assume that it's bad, it just wasn't my fault, and I couldn't blame myself for it.
The opinions of others do not matter nearly as much as you think they do.
Eleanor Roosevelt once said that "no one can make you feel inferior without your consent." This is something I struggled with for a long time. "But they bilitec terrible for me!" I would argue internally. "They hate me! How could I be okay with this ?? "The truth is that for every person that dislikes you, there's another person who thinks the world of you. And I would argue that the opposite is true - for every person who holds you in high esteem, there is another who couldn't care less about you. In the end, I had to admit that I never forced anyone to love me. I had to learn to love myself, to appreciate people who appreciate me and let all the other comments roll off me like water off a goose.
Guilt or obligation is not the appropriate initiator of the relationship.
It's really a big conclusion for me. I have a lot of people in my life who are constantly trying to make me feel guilty in relationships with them because we are family, we know each other for a long time, etc. As someone who has a very strong sense of loyalty it's hard for me to ignore those requests. However, the sad fact is that no matter how close you have to be in a perfect world, someone, sometimes it's just not a healthy relationship.
Instead of the collapse of their guilt, much more useful thing to make your opinions. Tell them that you will not tolerate, and if they cross your borders, put some space between you and them. How I did it, I experienced the opposite emotions of sadness and relief. Sadness about the loss of what could be, but mostly frivolous relief in the knowledge that such toxic people no longer have full access to me and my emotions.
Life is all about how you look at it. What happens to you does not matter, as you interpret it. You can allow people to push you, controlling your emotions with their guilt and unkind words. Or you can choose to ignore it and continue to live your wonderful amazing life. You will not be able to stop the actions of others, but you definitely can change how they affect you!