Some people communicate aggresively but aren't aware of it,  for they think that's hownit supposed to be, what do you think one can do to make them see reason and understand the balance?

Hi @aggroed, I have been an assertive communicator throughout my life. It is not an easy task to balance as that would mean trying to balance between those people who mostly sits either on the passive or the agressive side. But after awhile you will get a positive result of doing that and surely it is gratifying as being assertive means a win-win situation for all. Peace 😊

I just had an interesting experience with Twitter this morning. A financial writer who I read each week, followed me on Twitter some time ago. I was quite chuffed, as I respect him as a writer, but certainly do not agree with everything he has to say, particularly in regards to Bitcoin and cryptocurrencies. But hey, I accept not everyone has the same perspective I do. I actually cherish that. 

Anyway, this morning, he tweeted an article from the Daily Beast stating that journalism was under attack from Trump etc. Now, I follow the media fairly closely and have written articles critical of the ABC (Australia's ABC) especially in relation to its one-sided coverage of the Syrian conflict. 

So, today, I simply retweeted this finance writer's tweet commenting that journalists have been lying to us since before Trump even became a presidential candidate. It was not a personal attack, I was simply stating (what I believe) to be a fact. It was a comment on the current poor state of journalism. 

Result. He instantly blocked me. Why? For expressing a differing opinion. There was no malice in my tweet. I was not critical of the writer in any way. I was just stating what I believe to be true. 

Here is my response to the original tweet which was a play on words of the original tweet:

"We'll look back at this time as the time journalists were at their most delusional. They have been lying to us long before Trump's candidacy."

I guess in this world of social media trolling and climate of extreme political and idealogical partisanship, it's not always easy to determine what will trigger someone. Even a professional communicator. 

it's all about a clear and balanced approach, which is what assertive communication seems to be all about. Why is communicating well so difficult?

When you encounter a problem, try not to see it as an attack against you, but as a dispute that needs to be resolved. Share your thoughts and thoughts as they are. @aggroed

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Your first sentence has said it all. Balance is indeed key to maintaining good and healthy communication etiquettes. And I personally do think assertive communication is the best kind of communication there is(Ceteris paribus). Thanks a lot for sharing.

Soo be Assertive!!
I get the point!.... Assertiveness i can say helps creativeness because you need to find ways to not compromise your desires and other people's desires as well

Your Are Good AND i am Agree this post

Certainly the assertive Communication between the actors is the target; however I think it is very important develop the communication in a comfortable ambient that help us to reach an effective conversation. Simply is a detail that I wanted to add. Greetings.

Being passive is bad because people can take advantage of you

Being aggressive is bad because people can notice it, and stop hanging out with you. 

Being assertive requires a certain balance from our part, but it’s the best way of communicating. Besides, it can help us achieve our goals in life.

Well Im sorry but I don't agree with the way passive speaker have been ridiculed that they lack confidence.

Well said.  I tend to think folks who are passive or passive aggressive tend to hold  lower self esteem while the aggressive type operate on guts to hide the lack of self esteem.   Well worth the read.  Thanks.

your post is very beautiful, may I mintak to upvote my account

Your thought is good....I also agree with you...

First Happy New Year and Great topic and logical analysis Thank you for your efforts and we need your support

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Really good info , the key to so much is communication, many wars have begun over the inability to communicate... Good topic..

haha sound like anyone you know :   )

Balance is key!

When I was in the University, I had a professor that having to options he would choose a mix of both, because no matter the problem, if you take your solutions and mix the best parts of them, you will find a better solution that the ones you had in the beginning, this knowledge has helped in every aspect of my life not just communication alone.

i was on mspwaves trying to make friends, this guy rondon with the joker/ronaldmcdonald avatar tries to browbeat me into accepting racism as a fact.  

they had me install 'ishowu' software which is a potential virus.  i think you were promoting them and i saw you on there.  

are you going to say 'ishowu' is a legit requirement for operating obs and that it's cool with you if their sr. mods believe black people are inferior?  

i dont think anything is wrong with being critical btw.  simply asking questions should not ever be offensive.  if you are afraid of questions, you are weak indeed.

All these communication styles have there own advantages and disadvantages.People who are Passively communicator are more sensitive then others because they truly understand others feelings so they try to avoid all things which may hurts others.
Assertive communicator are some time soft speaker and some time react strongly its depends on their Mood and Situations.While Aggressive communicators are less tolerate they reacts with out thinking.This is I think very damaging  thing.

Balance is truly the key, one need to listen before speaking, understand after assessing every word before reacting, so as not to be called passive or aggressive for our words are more or less like a loaded gun, ready to shoot at what direction pointed to

Nice post brother.

Being assertive gets the job done!

Ah yes! Balance is key to most everything. Sometimes I probably should work on decreasing the passiveness and swap it for a bit more aggressive to be in that middle assertive category! Nicely put!

I'm agree with you... thanks for share @aggroed 

Great post, deserves an up vote from me :)
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Well @aggroed, 

Some surveys and studies i came across during my university life and according to those; 
Nature plays about 20% role while 80% role is of Nurturing in one's life.
*You become what you see and feel.* Three approaches of life you talked about are of great importance and you logically proved why **ASSERTIVE** approach is the best. 

Actually life is all about managing the situation. Sometime you have to become *Passive*, while sometime you need to become *Agressive* but key lies in being *Assertive*.

This is a major psychological debate you mentioned in this blog and this symbol shows the perfect philosophy how to manage your Life
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Thank you so much for teaching me this best approach to manage the life.

Keep sharing such innovative and informative philosophies with us.

Stay Blessed!

you are right,tnx for sharing your thought.@aggroed

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Totally agreed with your writings !

Communication and the way we use it in every day life is very important.  Thanks for sharing!

frig communication. im a furry. im just going back to ggrrring and waggin mah tail. label at will