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What do you do with really hard feelings? Not just anger. But tremendous anger. Not just a bad mood but a feeling of strong depression. A tremendous fear that shakes you physically and mentally. 
How do you get through these feelings? How do they survive? 
Psychology has an important concept called "the containment of emotions." The meaning of this concept is to carry the  feelings and hold them within us without collapsing. Just like Michal, who carries very turbulent water. 
But when our emotions are too strong we can not always contain them. Our experience sometimes when we experience strong emotions is that we can not stand these emotions. That they are too big for us. That they would hurt us, make us mad. That we might collapse from them. And this is not an easy experience, to say the least. 
So how do people cope with difficult and strong emotions?
Sometimes we do an acting out of emotions. That is, we express them through action. For example, we eat three slices of honey when we are very depressed. Or throw a flowerpot to the floor when we are frustrated and feel dead. Acting out of this kind of feeling is not a good solution to dealing with difficult emotions, but it sometimes happens to us. Sometimes acting out can be more positive - like washing the house when we are depressed. 
Another solution is to think among ourselves in a more rational way: what will get me out of this difficult emotional state now and implement the possible solution. (I wrote about it in my book "Tools for Happiness.") Such possible solutions are, for example, telling a close person about our distress, doing something that will pamper us, or write to ourselves what is bothering us,
The relaxation exercise we love. 
Another solution is to decide to contain the emotion. Carry it, until it passes. Henry Kristall, a psychoanalyst, has found that people who carry their feelings more easily are those who believe emotions are like waves. These people believe that emotions come, become tall and strong, but then pass. Buddhism also gives an image similar to the harsh emotions. In Buddhism, the negative emotion is likened to a cloud that darkens the light as it passes, but it passes. When he passes, the sun will rise above us, emotionally. In this way of coping, we can try to ease our suffering in non-destructive ways during the emotional experience, but at the same time we will tell ourselves that we will soon feel better. Passions pass. Because emotion is not eternal. That naturally the cloud will pass and the sun will rise. 
And what about you? How do you deal with times of really difficult emotions, experienced as almost unbearable? 
You can share here. I'd love to read. 
Then with a blessing of reasonable coping  with our feelings I will part with you,