昨日自己又犯了一個老毛病，在朋友講述一個新的觀點，一位台灣心臟科名醫推廣背後式的CPR，會比傳統的CPR降低肋骨斷裂的機會，我當下就提出不合理之處的懷疑，因為與自己曾學過的都不一致，但事後上網查證，是真的有這件事情，雖然還未被廣泛推廣。 --- 當然這種醫學的知識我並非專業，也不知道對與錯，只是朋友當下是一個分享新知的心態，我卻懷疑是內容農場出來的訊息，我的心態在那個時候是封閉的，只因為現在網路上充斥著假消息，我先入為主的認為與過去經驗差異過大的認知，就很大機率來自吸引點閱率的內容農場。 其實更好的處理方式就是安靜的聽完，事後自己去查證，而不是當下想要挑出不合理之處，其實這也只是一段閒談，並不是甚麼需要證明自己的機會，講贏了也不會帶來甚麼好處，假設這則訊息真的是假的，講贏了也不代表甚麼，頂多給朋友帶來我是對的，但態度很強勢的感受。 --- 想起之前提到的證明自己，也許這種想在言語之中顯現自己的知識正確，也是一種好勝心態，但實際上並不會對雙方太多好處，頂多在他人心中留下知道得不少的印象，但言詞鋒利帶來的負面印象也不少，實在不是一個好的人際交流方式，增加了摩擦也容易得罪他人。 每個人都會是某方面的專家，也許不同角度帶給自己的觀點是一生受用，減少打斷他人的話語，得到的或許會比我想得還要多，也不需要把自己的經歷與他人去做比較，每個人際遇都是獨一無二的，當別人在講述自己的經驗時，應該給予尊重的去理解，而不需要認為自己的情況更特殊，他人的情況是小巫見大巫。 --- 有些人會說，要懂得適時推銷自己，讓別人知道自己的優點在哪，但用在與家人友人之間，更需要的是理解與關懷，當與這些親近的人交流時，重點永遠放在自己身上，像個演講者一般，自顧自地以自我為中心，是無法建立起雙方的交流，講述自己今天又談成了甚麼大生意，過程是多麼的驚險，運用了話語的技巧，都比不上一句關心他人的話語有效。 一些溝通專家也提到，雙方在交流時，都該適當的給予對方發表的空間，像是記者提出問句時，很多時候都會用為什麼或如何的開放式問句，讓受問者有空間去闡述自己的想法，同樣的在與親友人交流，也不應該只有封閉式的問答，"你害怕嗎?""你開心嗎?"可以改成使用"你感覺如何?""你是怎樣的感受?"等等，畢竟我不是當事者，無法清楚的知道對方想法。  Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@beckerworks?utm_source=unsplash&utm_medium=referral&utm_content=creditCopyText">David Becker</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com/photos/0J_dP7tm0Iw?utm_source=unsplash&utm_medium=referral&utm_content=creditCopyText">Unsplash</a>
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