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<center>Last week I had an incident with the boyfriend of my sister. I was writing about [it](https://peakd.com/hive-168869/@bulldog-joy/when-the-weekend-starts-like-that) in the [Weekend Community](https://peakd.com/c/hive-168869/created).</center>

<center>Talking about the incident helped instantly and the support and encouragement have eased my resentment.</center>

##### <center>It is easy to forget that **WE ALL CAN HAVE A BAD DAY** and</center>

# <center>Words are a powerful weapon!</center> 

### <center>We often tend to forget how much we can hurt with them.</center>

<center>But am I free of it? Have I not hurt people with words?</center>

<center>I sure have, and it is often only when being hurt ourselves that we feel the destruction.</center>

<center>Not only with the recipient, but also with the giver, it is destructive for both sides.</center>

<center>**Why? you may ask. The one receiving the words is the one getting hurt.**</center>

<center>True, but when you look deep inside yourself, has it not hurt you also when being ugly to another person? Are you really feeling good when hurting someone else?</center>

<center>It is a false feeling of satisfaction that may occur for a certain time but after a while you feel bad about yourself.</center>

<center>And then? What's next? How can you come back to a healthy state of mind?</center>

<center>One key is </center>

# <center>***Forgiveness***</center>

<center>Often people are unable to forgive, especially when being hurt emotionally.</center>

<center>Not just only the one who hurt them, but also themselves if they were the ones hurting.</center>

#### <center>Forgiveness can only happen on both sides, it is the hardest but yet most powerful part of being hurt. </center>

<center>It is healing for both sides.</center> 

#### <center>Forgiveness removes suffering. This is where the value arises. It relieves those who are forgiven, but also those who forgive.</center>

<center>While it is true that forgiveness can only happen when you are in a good state of mind, it is something we need to practice not only for others, but for ourselves.</center>

<center>I can be forgiven by someone, but if I don't manage to forgive myself the suffer continues.</center>

<center>**In my stories case I choose to forgive after talking about being hurt. It maybe not have happened if I would have been in a different state of mind, but it was a conscious decision of mine.**</center>

<center>I did so because I didn't wanted to have the negative energy wobble around anymore. It had to be my decision to begin with because I was the recipient of the negativity.</center>

###### <center>By choosing to forgive I released myself from my own anger about the situation and opened the door for better vibes. </center>

<center>I was confident that even within the boyfriend of my sister the situation was working. That he knew he was overdoing it.</center>

<center>This morning I opened my door and found an apology without words.</center>

https://files.peakd.com/file/peakd-hive/bulldog-joy/23vhqQFVJe1xm6pcw1SnSSwqByfTTpCRGiAX7yUyW7tntNfB1pKUCgb3tnDEDDHCUWLxk.jpg

<center>It was an old paper bag. I opened it and a nice, warm, self baked bun was hidden inside.</center>

https://files.peakd.com/file/peakd-hive/bulldog-joy/23yJSu68AaY9i5J7yrKqmZiPsiJYqvgddNP4nEUiLRwT4gn72sonQorLCMeeexijQN1fJ.jpg

<center>It was indeed an apology without words, at least that's what I was taking it for.</center>

https://files.peakd.com/file/peakd-hive/bulldog-joy/Ep7w2BuKdmaipFgWy4SaQfeFgXuFEwjEkEBZSCVKU3HiCHksPVUvbskVzcFhsLWk4PN.jpg

<center>Looks tasty hu? It was still warm, just out of the oven. Healthy because selfmade and with good intentions.</center>

https://files.peakd.com/file/peakd-hive/bulldog-joy/EpLhud7g7Wp5QcjYHrGxRrDC2CeGwE9hcMRs3o2WJk2DrVTc3EKGbHj1uT8yZDndmQG.jpg

<center>So by choosing forgiveness days before the bun ended up in front of my door, my morning started in a tasty way. </center>

<center>**Sometimes apologies can happen without words, a little gesture is doing its thing as well.**</center>

<center>If I wouldn't have been forgiving, I may wouldn't have been able to enjoy the bun. Maybe it wouldn't have been there. </center>

<center>The energy was cleared by forgiveness because I didn't resonated with the negativity.</center>

<center>I'm not saying it's easy and that I will be able to do so all the time, but the last week showed me that it was the best choice for myself and I ended up having a good, tasty morning.</center>

# <center>Do you have a choice to make?</center>
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