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Dealing With Jealousy by calaber24p

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Dealing With Jealousy
Jealousy is a human emotion that no matter how much you have, it wont ever completely disappear. Even the person with the best quality of life in the world is jealous of someone. The key is to try your best not to let it get to you and have it change your personality. Jealous is mostly an outcome of your perspective on life in many different ways. For example, eventhough I have made more than enough on my bitcoin investment that someone would be jealous of me, I still cant help thinking β€œI should have bought x coin when it was x dollars, id be living in a mansion by now”. 

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I wish I could program my brain, stop it and say, β€œhey asshole, be thankful for what you have, many people could change their lives with that”, but its harder said than done. The problem with emotions is most of the time they are irrational. We cant control when we are angry or happy, no more than we can control when we get jealous. It is how we respond as people that ultimately shows our real character.

I made this post mostly today because as the prices rise on the whole cryptomarket as a whole, im sure many of our friends and families are letting jealousy turn them into mean people. I personally have people in my life who I know are upset they havent invested, which is why I never talk about crypto much anymore. I dont want people to feel bad and I dont want to taint a relationship off of something stupid like money. 

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Part of jealousy is that human beings find it very hard to genuinely be happy for someone else. Its something I try to work on daily, but even fall flat. There were friends in college I was and in many ways still am jealous of, because of their look or how smart they are. This is a natural feeling, but we can not let it get to us. In college I had a very good looking friend who basically could easily get a date and I ultimately stopped hanging out with him. He didnt rub it in my face, but I felt like shit personally when I was with him. I felt inferior and its important to realize that empathy now.

If you have people in your life that arent as fortunate as you, dont bring up things that will upset them. Most people should work on not letting jealousy take over their thoughts and actions, but we are only human. Both sides of a relationship need to work, watch and listen closely at what is going on in order for it to succeed. 

-Calaber24p
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@caminito ·
@calaber24p thanks for sharing these insights. Jealousy could be critically harmful to both sides. Hope to have as less jealous people in my life as possible )
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@jamestrue ·
I don't think jealousy has anything to do with the other person. Jealousy is the absence of self. When we feel jealous, it's your chest saying it misses you. Typically, our identity point gets drawn outside our bodies and into someone else's pocket. This happens for all kinds of reasons but the reasons are distractions. You're not an asshole, you just stepped out of your body. It becomes easy to fix jealousy when we listen to our body and understand what it means. Mine felt like a vacuum in my solar plexus. I used to mistake it for hunger. Big mistake.
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@kylaki ·
I sometimes struggle with jealousy just like anyone else but the thing I find that helps the most is knowing that a person may have something I desire but they may also have something else I don't want to deal with. 
For example I have a super wealthy friend which I am sometimes jealous of all her traveling, fancy clothes and beautiful houses but I would not want to have to deal with the insincerity she struggles with in a lot of her relationships. 
I have another friend who is unbelievably gorgeous *and nice and funny* but also has health problems that a lot of people don't know about.
So even if you think you might want someone else life if you really looked into it you might find you don't want all the pieces to their puzzle.
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@musclegirlfusion ·
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I agree. I deal with this daily and social media doesn't help. But what I have learned is we all have something someone else is going to want and we need to remember that.   Thanks for the post. Need to keep it on the forefront of my mind
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@calaber24p ·
Yeah social media sadly is people showing their best selves, so everyone looks good. No one posts when they are at their lowest.
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@raharachte · (edited)
First: I love your topic and your post.
Second: I am not a hero in writing English.
Third: I like to debate, don't make it personal. Enjoy.

"If you have people in your life that arent as fortunate as you, dont bring up things that will upset them"
Its funny, because making this post will make people also jealous.
My opinion: There is a factor why they are jealous. Ask it. Why are you jealous? They will reply and only listen. And tell you understand there feelings.

I like your post because you are bringing in personal stuff. So we can be 
jealousy about your x Bitcoins.

"Most people should work on not letting jealousy take over their thoughts and actions, but we are only human"
Your opinion is you must work on not letting it take over. But were are your tips and tricks how to do this?

I'll give one tip. Just let every emotion bee there where it is. But just sit on a chair and let the emotion be there. It does not matter if it is Negative ore Positive. (example) When you make jealousy a negative thing it will be negative and you will die from it..   Be jealousy and know you are and accept it. Its ok!

What is really the reason for you writing this stuff?
Next time you are jealous find out why you are. Watch and listen to your self. Analyse yourself and understand that your mind is playing a game.
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@rumal11gaming ·
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Is hard to deal with this, what i recommend is to take it easy cause at the end , you will be imaginating false histories, stressing you for something that is not what you think and you will be damaging yourself and the most important thing (Your relationship), so at the end i prefer to be alone than being with someone that i need be checking or investigating cause is open mind (open legs, we never know).
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@calaber24p ·
yeah its easier if you dont have these expectations you acquired through societal norms. To each their own.
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@shariarahammad ·
I agree I agree with you completely that I will always be with you to do what I am saying
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@thesteemster ·
Well since I don't now you personally I'm not envious but inspired. I own large amount of Vergecoin and other currencies. I expect them to go to the moon and then I will be the one dealing with this.  I have read that the Greek Tycoon Stavros Niarchos was envious of other tycoons. So no-one is immune to this . My friend doesn't have money but he is tall ,broad shouldered and handsome and other men are jealous of him. So there is no escape from it.
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