As long as I am not in the "Drama", I must admit that on occasion I enjoy watching other peoples drama. Why? Simple it reminds me why I never want to be in one, and I can stop watching the drama when I want to.

I hold a lot of hope out for the children being born today and over the next few years, they are going to possible be the first ones to grow into a new kind of society. Society has pretty much run it's course, just as the early man and family expanded and became a clan, then a tribe then a village, then a town, then a city, then a state, then a country.

Along each step of the way attitudes changed and society was born, during each of those changes above society grew and help the progress of change along. Now change is helping society progress to it's next level, people are relearning that yes the wants needs and desires of the one are just as valid as the wants needs and desires of the many. balance is in the process of being restored in my limited view.

Oh, yes. At one point, I'm also tired of toxic people. Because they spend my nerves. Now after meeting with these, I try to ignore them. Of course, if this does not apply to work. In order to achieve success, you have to set tasks with higher than your goals.

Dear @chekohler

Great read. One of those posts that make me switch on my brain. Thanks for that.

> I really am trying to rid my life negativity and toxic people which of course isn't always the case.

Very true. I'm doing my best to remove toxic people. But unfortunatelly when your closest people, those that you love - if they are surrounded by some toxic ones then it's really hard to avoid them. 

> I know your mom and dad told you, you're so damn special and you can do anything you set your mind to... 
> You're not special

You nailed it.
It indeed amaze me how often people around us think that they are special. 

> most people really only keep you around for the benefits

Again, very wise words. I realized that years ago. Partly for that reason I'm trying to be very supportive in real life (and here on Steemit) to people who I want to stick around to. Im fully aware that if people will think that they can benefit, then they will "keep you around". As sad as it is.

Of course there are some who value friendship and loyalty and everyone should learn how to recognize such a people and invest in building healthy and mutually supportive relationship with them.

ps.
I wonder what made you think about all of this. You seem to be quite upset. With some real drama, perhaps? Hope you're well buddy.

ps.2.
I hope you don't mind that I will share this post with few friends. I found it really interesting and worth stopping by to read.

Yours
Piotr

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My dear @chekohler, very strong words you have here brother, but a lot of reason in what you write.

People have become very interested in these days, few are those who come without any interest in between. But even so, I believe that not everything is lost and not everything is negative my brother, there are people in your environment who value you, respect you and care about you for what you are not for what you can give (in my case), family, brothers and genuine friends, we should only understand that it is a small group but it is there and you should not belittle them.

> I also realize that it may come with regret or you may feel unfulfilled trust me you're getting off lightly. If they owed you something, still had something of yours, let it go. You just won freedom from drama and that is worth any cost in my opinion.

I am one of those who think that people always deserve another opportunity, there are queines who have a recidivist behavior and they constantly disappoint you, those are easy to identify and isolate, but there is a truly important group that we must value.

It is my opinion friend, I hope you are well and you can have jessie.

Pr EV

Hello @chekohler!

It's a lonely world if you stay away from all people. How will you know if they are toxic or not? People have needs and will look for where to satisfy them. It is obvious that everyone only cares about their own problems. Otherwise, there would be no world hunger, no war, no pollution, etc.

If you think about it, we love drama, otherwise, there wouldn't be so many movies, books, and plays telling dramatic situations.

There's a character I remember when a toxic person approaches me.

https://i.imgur.com/7H5GrUp.jpg

Thanks for sharing https://i.imgur.com/iqZBAh1.png

Dear @chekohler

You know life is a world that does not stop and is always turning, in the middle of that circle that turns and turns at some point that will return to you and if it does not return it was never yours.

That phrase I read a long time ago is not mine, but when I finished reading your publication that was what came to my mind, for that reason I share it with you.

Only you can say if it is appropriate or not, but if not, I want you to know that I understood each of your words.

I would like you to read my publication is not related but I think you may be interested.

[ "Believe in the Word"](https://steemit.com/life/@lanzjoseg/believe-in-the-word)

How do I deal with drama? Ignore it and leave it.  We are all selfish and we all think about ourselves even if we deny it.  We use people or need people for our own sake.  Our level of patience and caring and kindness and tolerance and such differs from person to another.  I only have a handful of people I care about because they have been "tried and tested" to be called real friends.  I guess it is true what the golden rule says.

I dunno. I'm pretty convinced still that I'm a very special snowflake. 

https://media.giphy.com/media/rCDk9E3Szskus/giphy.gif

I agree wholeheartedly that the best (and often the only) way to deal with toxic people is to move on. Walk away. Ignore them. 

Trying to reason with them or just speak with them is usually an exercise in futility. So, don't waste any time with them. Just move on.

It took me years to learn this, but I learned well, from experience. I moved on. In fact, I moved all the way to South East Asia. Which has proven to be an effective way of "dealing with toxic people." That is, I left most of them behind in their various "advanced societies." ☺

Let me thank @crypto.piotr for sending me memo and also for sending me the link of this fantastic, thought-provoking article!

A perfect @CHE(C)KohlerMATE! 

A great blogpost reflecting the pains and difficulties of each one of us, which made it worth a great, interesting read.


"I really am trying to rid my life negativity and toxic people which of course isn't always the case."

Friend, shall I tell you something? I also thought it the same way, but the sour truth is that the fault lies in us in most of the cases.  I am not generalizing it and am telling this fact keeping myself in mind. 

I also thought that am pure and the people around me are filled with negativity, but I came to knew that my negativity spilled out and made me feel that way.  

At another instance, when my mind was filled with happiness and positive thoughts, I found the people surrounded by me are also filled with the same stuff.


".....and most people really only keep you around for the benefits, they will extract until they cannot anymore and move on."

It is here that I must say that I am very, very fortunate to have one selfless friend by the name of Mohan.  He never expected anything from me in return albeit having done a lot to regain my lost flat from my fraudster uncle and unscrupulous builder.  


" If they owed you something, still had something of yours, let it go. You just won freedom from drama and that is worth any cost in my opinion."

Golden words @chekohler.  If someone cheats us, we will make it a big issue and forlorn for it for quite sometime.  We will have to take things in the right perspective.  Whatever we lose, we lose it on the basis of our previous birth's pending transactions. 

Means that if we have cheated somebody else in the previous birth, that same incident will repeat in this birth to haunt us and to settle  the pending transactions in this birth.  What I mean to say is that we will lose exactly to that very same person thereby finishing off that process that has been continuing from the previous birth!

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@chekohler. Tu post es un  escrito agradable, precisas en una forma simpática la necesidad de alejarse de las personas que no nos convienen. Y me place informarte que Yo no soy Jessie, jajajaja. Tengo opinión propia y me considero con derecho a expresarla.
Que tengas un buen día.

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@chekohler Your post is a pleasant writing, precise in a nice way the need to get away from people who do not suit us.
 And I'm happy to inform you that I'm not Jessie, hahahaha. I have my own opinion and I consider myself entitled to express it.
You have a good day.

HEY!
DID YOU KNOW THAT STEVIE WONDER HIDES A HARMONY IN HIS LEFT HAND?

DO NOT TALK ABOUT YOUR PARTICIPATION IN "WE ARE THE WORLD" (MJ & friends).

"The sky is to look at it not to interpret it",

### I would never play a 'Fender' that had previously played "Hendrix",
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I hope you find a solid answer for your publication
especially in future times ...

You have my support 100%
regards
@chekohler

Agree, I’m Ray Charles to the bull$h*+

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A great read people should just mind their own business and avoid interfering with the lives of other, spreading negativity is the worst. I'll try to be more positive around others.

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I keep a lengthy list of people to kill...

Kidding! Nobody on the list is worth murdering so I just do voodoo and black magic 

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Hello @@chekohler, 
Toxic people are better left in their toxicity! 
From my little experiment, I learnt that they tend to behave better around you when they know that you are capable of being toxic (to them) but choose otherwise.

Warm regards to @crypto.piotr for sharing!

I'm tired of toxic people. Because they upset my nerves. Now, after meeting these people, I try to ignore them. 

Of course, if this doesn't apply to work, or people close to you, then we have to make the sacrifice of hearing them and trying to help them. 

In order to succeed, tasks must be set that go beyond their objectives.