***Ever sat down to reflect on your life and realized that the things you once desperately craved for, no longer make you happy?
Well, that’s me right now.***

***It might sound so weird, but there was a time I was genuinely scared of being single. The thought of actually staying alone used to terrify me. I had this overwhelming fear that I would end up lonely, with no one to talk to, no one to care and definitely no one to share life’s moments with. 
Back then, being single felt like some kind of punishment. I literally believed I needed to be in a relationship to feel whole or secure*** *(what was I even thinking 😂)*

***If anyone had told me back then that I would one day find peace of mind in being single, I would have laughed in utmost disbelief or worse still, called them a liar. Because how could something that used to keep me up at night thinking, now become the very thing that now brings me peace? But here I am.***

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***Looking at my life right now, there’s this unexplainable peace within me. It’s a peace no one truly understands and honestly, that’s okay because not everyone needs to. 
I’m not sure how long it’ll last though, but for now, this moment of solitude has become one of the most peaceful times of my life.***

***And no, it’s not the type of peace that comes from giving up or resigning to fate. It’s not some kind of forced acceptance. It’s the type of peace that came after a deep self-reflection and with that, I literally got the clarity that revealed that this is exactly what I need right now. 
Not because love or relationships are bad, but because I had been too focused on finding comfort in someone else when I hadn’t yet found it in myself.***

***There is this feeling of freedom you get when you realize you’re not feeling emotionally indebted to anyone; not having to constantly check in, not feeling guilty for focusing on myself, not having to explain every decision you make. It’s not selfishness; it’s rather called self-discovery. And in this phase of my life, I’ve found the space to grow, to dream, to plan and to simply be me without any form of compromise.***

***I’m not saying I’ll be single forever. Of course, life is unpredictable. But for now, in this period, I’ve definitely found a version of happiness that doesn’t need validation. And that, to me, is absolute peace.***

***So yes, it might seem really insignificant to others, or even weird; but right now, my peace of mind lives in a place I once feared and that’s being single. Honestly, I’m going to cherish every moment of it.***


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