1. Accept the fact that it's all over.
One of the most important aspects of moving on is accepting the cold, hard truth that not everything was meant to be, no matter how much you try to make it work. A huge part of why most people find it hard to move on is because they're still clinging to that small ember of hope. They keep thinking that maybe if they give their former partner some time, they might come back or if the circumstances change, maybe it'll work again. I'm telling you, if you gave it your all and the relationship cannot be saved, then it's time to move on. This puts you in an endless cycle of hoping and hoping and hoping until you finally drain yourself out. It can be a struggle at first, but opening your heart to acceptance is the key to start the process of healing.
2. Go out there and make yourself worthwhile.
A break-up can undoubtedly shatter our self-esteem and leave us sulking for days. But staying locked up in your room and weeping for hours and hours won't do any help. It's okay to cry your heart out, but it's also important to go outside and do things that'll make yourself worthwhile. Go out with friends and family. Be physically active to keep your mind healthy and distracted. Remember, you're not alone in this and you don't have to isolate yourself from everyone else in order to heal. Just promise me to stay away from alcohol. I swear it'll make things worse.
3. Forgive the person who hurt you.
Forgiveness is about releasing all the anger and resentment towards the person who hurt you because if you hold too tightly to the hatred, it will rot your innermost self and it'll continue to control your thoughts and emotions, making you feel sick and disgusting. It's about giving yourself peace and freeing yourself from the confines of anger. Revenge is not the answer to move on because fighting fire with fire will end up burning you altogether. Let go of the emotions and set yourself free because you deserve to be happy.
4. Reduce contact with the person as much as possible.
This is very important in order to speed up the process of healing. There will be times that you're tempted to reach out and call or message the other person but I hope you remain strong and remind yourself that you have to move on. Avoid stalking their social media accounts to see if they're dating someone else. Stop yourself from looking back at the photos where you were still together. Everything that reminds you of the other person, clear it away from sight. Holding on to these once precious moments will only make it harder for you to move on.
5. Lastly, realize that there are people out there who are willing to treat you better than your ex.
When a relationship ends, we tend to fixate our eyes on the person who left us as "the one" and we couldn't dare imagine living for the rest of our lives without them, much less be with someone else. But this is one of the main reasons why people get stuck living in the past and forbid themselves from seeing better opportunities in the future. Trust me, there are a lot of people out there who are willing to give you the love, care, and affection that you so rightfully deserve. I want you to give yourself a chance. To give other people a chance that what didn't work out now may serve as a fresh new start in the future. I do believe that moving on takes a considerable amount of courage and it won't happen in an instant, but I believe with all my heart that you can overcome this because I know you deserve to be happy again with someone better.
Best of luck and keep fighting. There will be better days.
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