Honestly, I am very happy to read your story.
What is the reason. I am one of the cigarette addicts, even though I hate, I have even tried to stop smoking, but I myself smile.

Life shows different characteristics in each circumstance, so it is essential to act with awareness and intelligence for each of them.  No matter how much "you help to cover john's basic needs", he must understand that his progress is in his hands.  Talk to him about what hope he has to undertake a project to get ahead.

It is unfortunate that the world has been modern but there are still those who have no place to live, the rich become kings and the poor become servants of the king

Humans are created by god with the same degree born from the womb of a mother, so we do not need to distinguish between us and others, help each other, support, and also understand each other's conditions experienced by an individual in his family or group

The solidarity of fellow human beings is very much needed in groups because if we share with each other it might help those who are in trouble for money, housing and others

Es más difícil sacar la pobreza de la gente que a la gente de la pobreza, si bien ayudar a una persona que lo necesita, es más que hacer bien una responsabilidad para quienes podemos hacerlo, muchas veces cuando la ayuda se hace permanente se crea el hábito de esperar a recibir y no tratar de valerse por sus propios medios, se crea la dependencia, al igual que el cigarrillo o el juego, esperar a recibir sin esforzare por ganar lo que se recibe, se hace un habito. Algo de eso se puede ver en mi país, el gobierno ha acostumbrado a mucha gente a recibir beneficios por los que no se han esforzado, y ahora los usa para controlar a esa gente, claro en este caso se actúa de mala fe, por parte del gobierno, pero aun cuando se actué tratando de hacer un bien, el constante dar, sin exigir un poco de responsabilidad o esfuerzo por cambiar o mejorar, conduce al hábito y el habito al vicio. Esa es mi humilde opinión al respecto.
La verdad que decir que hacer es difícil, Pequeño John es un adulto, como adulto debe asumir responsabilidades, sin embargo su forma de vida lo ha llevado o obviar esas responsabilidades, tal vez exigirlas en este momento a cambio de continuar ayudándolo, sólo lleve a que se aleje, pero en realidad eso demostraría también su interés en cambiar. Condicionar la ayuda no creo que sea la mejor medida, pero como dije antes el dar, aun con buenas intenciones sin pedir un poco de compromiso con mejorar de las personas, suele conducir a la dependencia y el vicio.

Congratulations @done!
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**Thank you for sharing a very valuable and meaningful lesson, this is very interesting and wonderful**

This story is very interesting, it really is a very good work that you are doing. There are moments that inspire you to do that kind of thing and you found it. I congratulate you and I await the 4th part of this story.

In part 6 of the story comment late because gina did not warn me. It's good that this time it worked well.

As an ex-smoker that you are, you can tell him about your experience, how things improved when you quit smoking.

Regrettably as now he has a money, he spends on cigarettes. I think I would tell him that if he is going to use the money for cigarettes, I will not give him much money from now on.

Regarding his family status, it is very complicated to give an opinion with so few details. But his emotional emptiness is very big. It is a subject that he continually avoids.

And I believe just like you, as long as there is no more drastic change, I would not take it home.

Greetings, friend. Blessings.

Hola @done realmente muy loable su acción para con las personas necesitadas y grandioso que sus hijos adopten los valores que usted le transmite. Little John dio también lo suyo al mostrarle agradecimiento a su acción. Espero la continuación...

john is trying his level best in that situation form his point of view never giving up

(I hope you understand Spanish, I did not write it in English because the Google translator changes the words and sometimes it changes the meaning of what you want to say, if you do not understand Spanish, you let me know and I'll put it in English ... but I use is the Google translator)

wao, es dificil... pero sabes que es mejor enseñar a pescar que darle los pescados..... porque cuando les damos los pescados, se crea la dependencia, y luego es dificil la independencia. 

Lo mejor es aconsejar a John, explicarle lo bueno que sería que lograra un trabajo, lo malo que es el fumar,  lo importante que sería conseguir un alquiler.  El problema es que el lo entienda.. y también explicarle lo importante que es para un ser humano su independencia...
(espero que entiendas español, no lo escribí en inglés porque el traductor de google cambia las palabras y a veces cambia el sentido de lo que se quiere decir)

Thanks you @done for you posting, good luck always.

the story is very useful for many people ... hopefully you are in a state of success always yes my best friend.
Thank you @done for posting a true story part seven. 
Good job @done

I like this kind of story, it is important to reflect a little consideration for others who really need it. excellent, I congratulate you on such a good post

You always make a lot of people smile and be happy, when you post a lot of people who like it, because your story is creative

Great to read the first part really nice to learn from it will be waiting for the second part of this story

If I see that around me, it must be touched by my heart to provide assistance to the little boy because I have lived in distress

When we have succeeded in getting happiness it is appropriate that we also try to help others get the same thing. I appreciate what you do for little john and I hope you will succeed..
Continue @done

@done, in my opinion in past **Lottery** was an **Crazy** aspect because everyone were participating in it so that they can hold effective money in less time, and in my opinion some people became successful and some ruin their life in **Lottery**. And great to know that you've left smoking and i think it is an effective decision.

**Addiction** is really painful aspect because it's an process where people say to themselves as today it's last day for this activity and from tomorrow i will bring the new change, but in most of the cases there is no **Tomorrow Of Change**. But if we see more **Will Power** incase of **Addictions** then for sure people can come out of the addictions.

And yes, in life, less is more and when we have less then we see more importance in our **Holdings** and when people hold more and more then for sure the phase of **Importance** depletes because most of the times we hold or we buy things which are actually not our need but we buy it because we hold **Attraction** towards it and that's why after sometime we lose excitement in these aspects.

Wishing you an great day and stay blessed. 🙂

Humanity never ceases to look and go for the father side of things from our own personal human endeavors and goals to technology that we use, we just wanted to get better than our current state.

I guess that little John just takes his situation not being hopeless after all because of the money he had from you and with that his attitude also changed @done

@done In the case of health in cigarettes is indeed provoking debate. But, it's good that smokers also know other factors that cause illness, for example from lack of exercise or an unbalanced lifestyle. Because basically, health matters for humans are a matter of how to live a balanced life, not friends.

@done For pregnant women, toxins from cigarettes interfere with the growth of the placenta and cause premature birth and low weight when the baby is born, depending on how bad the mother smokes, So, it is highly recommended for pregnant women to stop smoking.

@done For pregnant women, toxins from cigarettes interfere with the growth of the placenta and cause premature birth and low weight when the baby is born, depending on how bad the mother smokes, So, it is highly recommended for pregnant women to stop smoking.

Simplicity is a true gift, it is like a child who sees something that surprises him, his face is a poem of great happiness, but over time the same thing that gave him happiness before today is not enough, we always want to improve and it is not wrong only that it is fair to expect from oneself not from others. It is easy to demotivate when you have exhausted the resources and more if you are running out of ideas, what would you do is analysis question observe to what extent I can influence a person positively, however it is difficult because we are not machines to know which are the faults and solutions. Help economically must have a limit, you must help to act to have ideas, a person with clear ideas, with tangible goals and objectives can recover much easier, I think you should find a reason to make John believe in an idea, a reason why which fight, goals and objectives which follow and fulfill.

Very outrageous, children are left to sleep without protection from their parents.
As we know, parents care for their children independently

As I mean continue reading, it doesn't seem nice to me again, this little John has been changing everything, I mean his new character which is picked up, one thing I observed about you is that, you don't give up on something easily, the nice story of this part is when I read you quit smoking, addictive is not something to that is easy to deal with really, have Seen many with addictive stuff, when they go out of old ways, unknowingly they found themselves eating their vomiting! Glad you give up on smoking, and you are not impressed by him, to smoke back, even though you feel it, but not to go back with smoking again. 

As per give and take! I think in this aspect, you need to change his mentality by orientating him what you want him to do, how he can be independence to take care of life own his, I remember you early mentioned about something like investment what did he thought about that, but I think he didn't going along with you in spirit, he should be the one to properly remind you about to teach him how to catch fish in the sea and not just waiting you are coming to feed him with first(sorry to use that words) but honestly that should be his main thinking and not picked up old life! 

But, as early said, you are not a type of person who will give up easily, with your time, advices and orientation perhaps he may pick new life style.

Eish next part I will see what will happen, I just hope this little John will not throw your efforts into Moody and make you feel badly...

With more advises, and interaction perhaps you may change him to better..

Thanks for share.

interesting story, I like this dear friend of @done

Spent the last several days in Vermont, didn't manage to get online again until yesterday- but I have to say I'm excited that the rest of the story is here for me to binge read! On to the next...

A smoker comes to the doctor's practice, then the doctor advises him not to smoke and says:
Doctor: "How many years have you been smoking?"
Patient: "30 years I smoke"
Doctor: "One day how many packs of cigarettes do you spend"
Patient: "Two packs of cigarettes usually"
Doctor: "How much is the price of a pack of cigarettes?"
Patient: "10 Dollars"
Doctor: "Try to see the big building over there!" (While showing out the window
Then the patient sees it.
Patient: "really a beautiful building expensive"
Doctor: "Try to count one day you spend 2 packs of cigarettes at a price of USD $ 20 and for 30 years you smoke. You will be able to buy the building, if you keep it"
Patient: "Doctor smoking no?"
Doctor: "no"
Patient: "Have doctors been able to buy a luxury building"
Doctor: "No"
Patient: "Same as me"