Hello and welcome to the twenty fourth day of the June 30 days writing challenge. If you want to know all the details about this specific challenge, have a look at the introductory post. In short, I will be posting every day a short tip, or technique, or opinion, something that you can call a "life hack". Feel free to join the challenge and post your own life hacks. I will do my best to upvote each day at full strength (about $3 at the current STEEM price) 3 posts tagged #challenge30days (leaving a link to your posts in the comments will also help).

# It's Not "Who" The Person Is, But More Like How He/She Acts

It may seem strange to present this as a life hack, as it's more like a behavioral code, but, with a little exercise, incorporating this approach into your daily routine is possible. And the benefits are tremendous.

You see, one of our basic cognitive faculties is "labeling", or using a single word for a certain set of meanings, or shapes, or objects. We may look at a Prosche, a Ford, a Tesla or a Honda and, to all of us, they will all be "a car". Or we may look at an apple tree, a cherry tree or an avocado tree, and they will all be, before anything else, "a tree".

Putting things into boxes allows us to make sense of our surroundings very fast, and it really speeds up our decision making process. 

But this comes at a cost.

Some stuff cannot be put into boxes. Like humans, for instance. We're the result of such a complex set of factors and our actions are influenced by a gazillion of reasons that we can simply cannot be put into a box. We're an ever changing, "all singing, all dancing crap of the Universe", to quote Chuck Palahniuk (the guy who wrote the book after which they made "Fight Club", if you don't know who the guy is).

At our core, we all want a single thing: to be happy. All people are yearning to be happy, but, given our different upbringing, current context and another few thousands factors, we may describe this "happiness" in very different words. 

But deep down, all people are the same: they all want to be happy. Hence, they're all ok.

Their actions, on the other hand, are very often off, even within very short time frames. Now the person in front of you is calm and you're having a polite conversation, now he's triggered by some button you didn't even know you pushed with your remarks and the person becomes stiff, or maybe even violent. But it's the same person, you know. Only his actions changed.

Or, when a person displays a consistent set of actions, like being aggressive, for instance, we tend to label that person as being "violent". That person has a dominance of violence, but he's not _inherently_ violent.

Separating the persons from his actions will make it impossible for you to think in terms of "that person is an idiot" and move to a more nuanced approach: "that person is ok, but he is really _acting_ like an idiot now". 

And probably the most consistent benefit of this is that you are now able to really feel compassion towards all people (because all are ok).

And, when their actions are not in sync with your core values, you may just feel compassion towards them from a distance. A long enough distance so their actions won't hurt you, but still compassion.

I'm really curious to read about your life hack today. Leave a comment with a link to your post, if possible.

# Previous Posts In The Challenge

* [June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Twenty Three: Thinking In Scenarios](https://steemit.com/writing/@dragosroua/june-30-days-writing-challenge-life-hack-day-twenty-three-thinking-in-scenarios)
* [June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Twenty Second: Working Out Your Improvisation "Muscles"](https://steemit.com/writing/@dragosroua/june-30-days-writing-challenge-life-hack-day-twenty-second-working-out-your-improvisation-muscles)
* [June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Twenty First: Decluttering - Set A Lifespan To Every Object You Own](https://steemit.com/writing/@dragosroua/june-30-days-writing-challenge-life-hack-day-twenty-first-creativity-set-a-lifespan-to-every-object-you-own)
* [June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Twenty: Creativity - Go From A To B In 5 Mental "Fractures"](https://steemit.com/writing/@dragosroua/june-30-days-writing-challenge-life-hack-day-twenty-creativity-go-from-a-to-b-in-5-mental-fractures)
* [June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Nineteen: Write A Short Story About Your Future Self](https://steemit.com/writing/@dragosroua/june-30-days-writing-challenge-life-hack-day-nineteen-write-a-short-story-about-your-future-self)
* [June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Eighteen: Pop Out Balloons Fast](https://steemit.com/writing/@dragosroua/june-30-days-writing-challenge-life-hack-day-eighteen-pop-out-balloons-fast)
* [June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Seventeen:Replace Re-Action With Action](https://steemit.com/writing/@dragosroua/june-30-days-writing-challenge-life-hack-day-seventeen-replace-re-action-with-action)
* [June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Sixteen:The 5 Minutes Meditation Box](https://steemit.com/writing/@dragosroua/june-30-days-writing-challenge-life-hack-day-sixteen-the-5-minutes-meditation-box)
* [June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Fifteen: Create - And Maintain - A Morning Phrase](https://steemit.com/writing/@dragosroua/june-30-days-writing-challenge-life-hack-day-fifteen-create-and-maintain-a-morning-phrase)
* [June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Fourteen: Improve 1% Per Day](https://steemit.com/writing/@dragosroua/june-30-days-writing-challenge-life-hack-day-fourteen-improve-1-per-day)
* [June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Thirteen: Get Rid Of TV. For Good.](https://steemit.com/writing/@dragosroua/june-30-days-writing-challenge-life-hack-day-thirteen-get-rid-of-tv-for-good)
* [June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Twelve: Save 10% Of Your Income - No. Matter. What.](https://steemit.com/writing/@dragosroua/june-30-days-writing-challenge-life-hack-day-twelve-save-10-of-you-income-no-matter-what)
* [June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Eleven: Set - And Keep - A Monthly Personal Expense Budget](https://steemit.com/writing/@dragosroua/june-30-days-writing-challenge-life-hack-day-eleven-set-and-keep-a-monthly-personal-expense-budget)
* [June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Ten: Set A "Main Task" For Each Day](https://steemit.com/writing/@dragosroua/june-30-days-writing-challenge-life-hack-day-ten-set-a-main-task-for-each-day)
* [June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Nine: Keep A Journal](https://steemit.com/writing/@dragosroua/june-30-days-writing-challenge-life-hack-day-nine-keep-a-journal)
* [June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hacks - Day Eight: Keep An Activity Log](https://steemit.com/writing/@dragosroua/june-30-days-writing-challenge-life-hacks-day-eight-keep-an-activity-log)
* [June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hacks - Day Seven: Implement A New Habit With A 30 Days Challenge](https://steemit.com/writing/@dragosroua/june-30-days-writing-challenge-life-hacks-day-seven-implement-a-new-habit-with-a-30-days-challenge)
* [June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hacks - Day Six: Put It In Front Of The Door](https://steemit.com/writing/@dragosroua/june-30-days-writing-challenge-life-hacks-day-six-put-it-in-front-of-the-door)
* [June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hacks - Day Five: The Pomodoro Technique](https://steemit.com/writing/@dragosroua/june-30-days-writing-challenge-life-hacks-day-five-the-pomodoro-technique)
* [June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hacks - Day Four: Keep A Clear Mind By Unloading Ideas Immediately](https://steemit.com/writing/@dragosroua/june-30-days-writing-challenge-life-hacks-day-four-keep-a-clear-mind-by-unloading-ideas-immediately)
* [June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hacks - Day Three: Intermittent Fasting](https://steemit.com/writing/@dragosroua/june-30-days-writing-challenge-life-hacks-day-three-intermittent-fasting)
* [June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hacks - Day Two: The "2 Minutes" Time Management Rule](https://steemit.com/writing/@dragosroua/june-30-days-writing-challenge-life-hacks-day-two-the-2-minutes-time-management-rule)
* [June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hacks - Day One: Avoid Fighting With A Simple Visualization Technique](https://steemit.com/writing/@dragosroua/june-30-days-writing-challenge-life-hacks-day-one-avoid-fighting-with-a-simple-visualization-technique)
* [Announcing The June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hacks](https://steemit.com/challenge30days/@dragosroua/announcing-the-june-30-days-writing-challenge-life-hacks)
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