All my quarrels with men are allegorically reduced to this situation:
ALLEGORY
I go to the toilet, and I see that he did not wash the water behind him (an example not from life, fortunately, but very clearly shows the extent to which the question is important to me and how little effort I usually ask to commit)
I take him by the hand, lead to the toilet, I say "dear, maybe you'll be washing away now, would not you be so kind?"
And he answered me: - "No. You do not understand anything, I will not wash myself."
- Well, please, it's unpleasant and it's not good for me to see it and I'm not ready morally to go to the toilet and see it there.

- No. it's a part of me. You want to change me, break me, but I will not change. Never! You can not change a man, I'm not a henpecked man here to shampoo you to wash yourself off

"But you understand that this is so disgusting that I can not even look at you afterwards and how much it hurts our relations." You would not want to see my waste of life every time? You would be uncomfortable!

- And I do not care. I said, I will not. This is my essence. And you do not accept me as I am.

Then, after my long constructive explanation, they nevertheless condescend to the fact that it would be nice to wash it off.
One time. Well, or a week.
Then it repeats itself again. I think "I probably forgot, I will not say anything."
But you need to know that there will be no more clearance - he does not wash the water in the toilet from the principle of fidelity to himself. And if then this issue is raised again, then there is no logic anymore. You can persuade for hours, without quarrels, with explanations of clear cause-effect relationships, with an explanation of how this dirty toilet spoils your relationship and how you do not sleep at night in horror from what you saw ... - it will not help. You can make a scandal - and then you will become a disgusting, querulous woman who rested.

When I see that someone from non-regular lovers suits me this - I do not care, I give him a ticket to nowhere, and I sit quietly.
But when a serious relationship that you build is not one year, then this little detail is gnawed at by your brain, because you immediately think about who is what and how much. And whether it is necessary at all.
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