恋爱脑和安全感 by evahe

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hive-105017 · @evahe · Jun 6 '21

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恋爱脑和安全感

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前几天跟朋友聊天，他说从认识我那天到现在觉得我非常缺乏安全感，突然想起这个词（恋爱脑），怀疑自己曾经也是这样的人。这类人往往很敏感，成长环境中缺乏安全感。我之前文章提过，从小经历成长导致我缺乏安全和爱。

恋爱脑，顾名思义是一种爱情至上的思维模式，那些一恋爱就把全部精力和心思放在爱情和恋人身上的人。当然我不至于这么严重，不切实际地飞蛾扑火的付出一切。

回忆起以前谈恋爱的时候，变得患得患失，越来越依赖一个人。当我进入一段亲密关系后，就不想失去，甚至好怕对方嫌弃我抛弃我。希望对方可以永远爱自己，敏感脆弱，怀疑心强等等表现。

对爱的缺失，渴望爱，却没有爱，更害怕留不住爱，看不见前路，缺乏信任感，最后伤害自己同时伤害对方，现在想起来觉得好搞笑和幼稚，做的事太矫情和作，可能也是太年轻了！

后来慢慢懂得爱自己和思想精神独立，也学会如何尊重别人，但是还是好缺乏安全感，虽然成熟稳重好多，心❤不安啊！

对于感情唯一极端，追求比较完美吧，不凑合容不下沙子，要做唯一的那个人。自己道德感和责任感比较高，渴望另一半陪伴和懂我！其实两个人在一起更加多互相包容和理解，还有爱，我要求不并多，容易满足！

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@celeste413 · Jun 8 '21

在某乎看到一个博主的小视频，然后被她圈粉了，有段时间天天看她更新没有，她讲过恋爱脑

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@evahe · Jun 8 '21

是啊哈

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@fasiulung · Jun 7 '21

> 当我进入一段亲密关系后，就不想失去，甚至好怕对方嫌弃我抛弃我。

怎麼好像在說我的，我們都是重情的人～

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@evahe · Jun 12 '21

谢谢你的提醒哈

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@lovelingling · Jun 7 '21

随心随意，不强求，日久见人心。安全感来自已知，包括你对自己爱人的了解。没有安全感来自不熟悉，未知，跟着感觉走吧。凌儿如此优秀，会找到陪伴你一生，体贴爱护你的人。

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@evahe · Jun 7 '21

😂已经找到邓先生啦，这个回忆录以前

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@lovelingling · Jun 7 '21

看我这个记性，我都忘记啦，实在不好意思
😊😊

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@min520 · Jun 6 '21

感觉现在大多数女生都属于恋爱脑，曾经的自己也是如此，我也是一个严重缺乏安全感的人，总做梦被人追着跑，或者被狗追，甚至被妖魔鬼怪追。晚上睡觉也要把门反锁，会梦到小偷。哎。

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@evahe · Jun 6 '21

抱抱，好多女孩子缺乏安全感，哎男人不懂

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@tina1219 · Jun 6 '21

😒😒有啥安全感，只不过也是自我安慰

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@unnini · Jun 7 '21

好像莫名的对号入座了,因为我也是这样,从小不在父母身边导致的嫉妒缺乏安全感和爱😭

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