Challenging Love to Be Unconditional - Part 16 by everlove

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love · @everlove · Feb 14 '19

$4.49

Challenging Love to Be Unconditional - Part 16

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<p><strong>PERSPECTIVES, COMMUNICATIONS AND REFLECTIONS</strong></p>
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</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-1"><strong>Part 1</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-2"><strong>Part 2</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://steemit.com/love/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-3"><strong>Part 3</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-4"><strong>Part 4</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-5"><strong>Part 5</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-6"><strong>Part 6</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-7"><strong>Part 7</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-8"><strong>Part 8</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-9"><strong>Part 9</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-10"><strong>Part 10</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-birthday-intermission"><strong>Birthday Intermission</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-11"><strong>Part 11</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-12"><strong>Part 12</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-13"><strong>Part 13</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-14"><strong>Part 14</strong></a><strong><br>
</strong><a href="https://busy.org/@everlove/challenging-love-to-be-unconditional-part-15"><strong>Part 15</strong></a><strong><br>
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I grew up in a family where people didn’t talk. &nbsp;It always seemed to me that if there was something that was uncomfortable, we would just pretend it wasn’t happening. &nbsp;It was easier to ignore the “problems” and just go away than it was to face and talk about whatever was bothering us.<br>
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I carried a lot of this type of behavior into my adulthood, and over into raising my children. &nbsp;Though I did my best to break the mold I grew up in, I could have been way better at addressing things when they came up instead of just hoping/assuming things would always work out.</p>
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<p>I always wanted the very best for my kids (as most parents do). &nbsp;I wanted to provide them everything - for their friends too - and give them the best life they could possibly have. &nbsp;I felt I teetered between &nbsp;giving them too much, and encouraging them to take responsibility for themselves. &nbsp;I could see in some ways I was over compensating for their dad being gone, and at the same time getting frustrated for not getting what I felt I deserved in return. &nbsp;&nbsp;The kids also had some things that they didn’t talk about either. &nbsp;Being frustrated and not talking much about it is a poor combination. &nbsp;</p>
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<p>Quinn didn’t get in the middle of any situations that arose, but at one point he did tell me that he felt I had dysfunctional relationships with my children. I didn’t really understand what he was talking about, but &nbsp;I do remember thinking -- “You’re just a kid, and you don’t even have any children! &nbsp;Why would I take advice from someone who has never raised a child?” &nbsp;This was the same kind of response he got from many parents who would ask his advice--to whom he would respond: &nbsp;“Maybe not, but I was a conscious child, and I know how I would have wanted to be treated.” &nbsp;Oooooo….good point! &nbsp;I had to really consider that statement. &nbsp;From which perspective was I choosing to parent?</p>
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<p>This wasn’t the first time I was shown that Quinn had a brilliant connection with children. &nbsp;Kids were always attracted to Quinn. &nbsp;They always respected him, loved him, gathered around him, sought his advice, and confided in him. &nbsp;He wasn’t a parent, though exemplified some of the most potent nurturing, responsible, supportive and caring qualities I had ever seen. &nbsp;He held a space where they could be themselves, empowering them to be strong, stable and accountable to and for themselves.</p>
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Quinn once had a friend with a two year old boy. &nbsp;This boy would cry almost all the time, even through the pacifier he constantly had in his mouth. &nbsp;The mom was dealing with relationship issues and the child was reacting to her stress and frustration about being an overwhelmed single mom. &nbsp;Once when she was at her wits end and the child was crying inconsolably, Quinn scooped up the boy and held him naked chest to naked chest. &nbsp;The child’s sobbing body was nested in the crook of Quinn’s elbow, while the child’s head pressed in relief over Quinn’s heart. &nbsp;Quinn’s gentle sway immediately calmed the boy as he carried him around the pool deck for several hours. &nbsp;The boy wasn’t asleep, but was melted in Quinn’s arms in a connection I could only call divine. &nbsp;I was incredibly moved by their interaction. &nbsp;I had never seen this child so calm or at ease, and never a man so sensual with nurturing feminine grace.<br>
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<p><em>I realized this 24 year old had an even deeper perspective on the ease of raising children than I did. &nbsp;He also &nbsp;never shied away from talking about things like I did. &nbsp;There was never anything he wouldn’t be able to hear or share. &nbsp;His example showed me how limited I was in being open to giving and receiving, and how poor my communication skills were.</em></p>
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<em>Quinn also showed me how my children were a reflection of me, just as the two year old boy was a reflection of his mother, and a reflection of Quinn. &nbsp;There was no denying that children are sensitive to vibration. &nbsp;I began to see myself in every situation -- both those that felt good, and those that felt bad. &nbsp;I wish I had known all along that my world revolved around me and that everything in my experience matched my own frequency--I was essentially responsible for it ALL! &nbsp;Keeping my own vibration in check in every situation was incredibly challenging. &nbsp;I began to really see myself in others--they were indeed showing me who I really was.</em></p>
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<em>I still had a lot to learn about being a parent, though I felt I was doing a way better job than my friends or family. &nbsp;Sometimes I forgot to tune into the perspective of my children, as I was often busy being both parents, and trying to figure my own shit out! &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;I had some regrets about the way I handled some things with regard to my children and I wasn’t always the very best mom I could be. &nbsp;Damn! &nbsp;Why couldn't I just have the answers and do a better job?&nbsp;</em></p>
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<em>Becoming aware of what I was doing (essentially the outcome of how I was BEing) was sometimes frustrating and complicated the situation. &nbsp;Instead of one dysfunction, now I had two ---not doing my best as a parent--and judging myself on top of it. &nbsp;&nbsp;Double whammy and a perpetual endless cycle!! &nbsp;Aargh!</em></p>
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<em>Go with me on the journey toward Unconditional Love!</em><br>
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<h3>Stay Tuned for Part 17</h3>
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@emmakkayluv · May 14 '19

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No wonder Quinn turn out to be a great lover. Anybody that come to the level of children like he did would end up being a great lover. 
It takes great patience to deal with children..

You are not just a parent too, but a very good one, any parents that want to improve the lives of his or her children is a very good parents.

Still marvel at the description of this one of his kind man called quinine....

👍 everlove

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@everlove · May 15 '19

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Quinn has an incredible balance of nurturing and protecting--the yin and yang--masculine and feminine.  His gentle touch shows me how remarkable it can be to be so connected with children and how potent love can be when we are tuned in with them.  Quinn was and is an incredible inspiration--OMG!  I can only imagine if children all over the world were loved that much!

An amazing lover indeed--he has shown me how!  I'm grateful for my connection with children too--the purest and most loving BEings on the planet.   I am blessed!

👍 saramiller, mbot

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@joalvarez · Feb 14 '19

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I have only been amazed by @quinneaker and his beautiful soul and his love  the universe and it's people.
His works are so beautiful and so sincere and at such a young age.
So beautiful.
Thank you for sharing your story @everlove and showing us the beautiful person @quinneaker is.
Sending lots of love to both of you

👍 quinneaker, everlove, rissa-keeps-on

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@everlove · Feb 14 '19

@quinneaker is truly an angel, bringing so much light into the lives of so many people!!  I'm super grateful to share some of his wisdom through my story and that you're able to feel it.   Thank you for reading it and for the comment.  I'm grateful for your presence @joalvarez.

👍 bosman

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@saramiller · Feb 14 '19

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You're a really great mother and it seems to come very natural to you. You are an angel for children and you get so much joy from them too! It's admirable that you were able to acknowledge that you still had much to learn from Quinn, and that you were actually able to receive it. I know hundreds if not thousands of people who have come through the @gardenofeden have been drastically upgraded by your parenting examples, and so many children improved because of it. So so so important and respectable in this day and age!

👍 everlove, rissa-keeps-on

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@everlove · Feb 14 '19

$0.57

I was definitely attempting to follow my heart with my children, even in the face of so many other traditional ideas that just didn't feel good at all but were somehow what was expected.  There were a lot of conditioned barriers to break in even considering attempting another way.

I'm so incredibly grateful for Quinn's upgraded perspective and his ease in living what he believed.  His inspiration has lifted me up to really love and honor children and myself even more.  I'm super blessed to be sharing my more  solidified awareness of what is important at the @gardenofeden.

Thanks for being here with me @saramiller.  I too appreciate all you bring to the table!  💗

👍 saramiller, interfecto, rissa-keeps-on

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