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How I Do Not Let Resentment Consume Me In A Toxic Environment I Found Myself by funshee

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How I Do Not Let Resentment Consume Me In A Toxic Environment I Found Myself
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Resentment is a feeling we have when someone does something unfair to us. when we feel cheated by the people in our life for one reason or another. This emotion can make us angry, sad, or hurts.

Addressing this feeling is very important, if not it can affect our well-being or it can even lead to frustration. 

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Thank you very much to the #Emotion&feelings community for providing this prompt of February title [Resentment](https://peakd.com/hive-102879/@hive-102879/theme-for-February-tema-del-mes-de-febrero)

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I was raised to learn how to get along with everyone even those that are not my friends. But never let anyone trample on my human right.

Growing up, I saw my dad always happy with everyone, he has a way of dealing with even the most difficult people around him as a leader of our clan and for this, I learn a lot from his character.

I tried to avoid putting myself in a situation where someone can treat me unfairly. But there are times I can't control that from happening.


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When we moved to our new apartment on the 5th of March last year. On my first night in this house I just knew we would not be able to renew our rent here for the second time as our landlady showed us that very first day to be a very toxic person, she can make the coolest people on earth lose their temper.

She seems not to have respect for anyone and does not understand the relationship between a tenant and her landlady. She is a control freak and likes to manipulate everyone around her. 

When we just arrived here, we learned that she usually has one problem or another with every single person around her including her neighbors. 

I almost blamed hubby for renting our apartment in such a house, as I was away in another state when he did but if I blamed him for this I might just end up resenting him for a very long time which can affect our relationship. So I thought is no use. I try to understand some situations that made him accept such a house in the first place. I let go of my anger and plan on how I will survive the house for one year when our rent will expire.

>**How I'm Handling Things**

Coping with the situation, for the past eleven months I tried to mind my business as much as possible. I don't meddle in my landlady's business. When she said things upsetting I just let it go immediately after I  let her know I don't approve of the way she speaks to me.

This works sometimes, as she will take correction but some other times it can make her say the worst things, and then I will just ignore her. One thing is, I never take anything she said to mind.

I saw that she is the kind of person with deeper emotional problems, and she never hesitates to let it out on anyone that crosses her part. Fighting with this kind of person is just a waste of time and energy. 

I have had to stop hubby from fighting with her many times. She seems to me she is just out to frustrate people and we won't give in to her.

>**A Kind Of Permanent Solution**

Our rent is due at the end of this month and we already get another apartment in another house away from here, this time we investigated the kind of people staying there before we made a payment so what we witnessed here does not repeat itself. This time we make sure we don't rent a house where it landlady or landlord lives and with just a few tenants in it.

 We have a little son and we want him to grow up in the best kind of environment as much as possible.

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El resentimiento es un sentimiento que tenemos cuando alguien nos hace algo injusto. Cuando nos sentimos engañados por las personas de nuestra vida por un motivo u otro. Esta emoción nos puede enfadar, entristecer o herir.

Hacer frente a este sentimiento es muy importante, de lo contrario puede afectar a nuestro bienestar o incluso llevarnos a la frustración.

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Muchas gracias a la comunidad #Emotion&feelings por proporcionar este prompt de febrero titulado [Resentimiento](https://peakd.com/hive-102879/@hive-102879/theme-for-February-theme-for-the-month-of-February).

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Me educaron para aprender a llevarme bien con todo el mundo, incluso con los que no son mis amigos. Pero nunca a dejar que nadie pisoteara mi derecho humano.

Al crecer, vi a mi padre siempre feliz con todo el mundo, tiene una manera de tratar incluso con las personas más difíciles a su alrededor como líder de nuestro clan y por eso, aprendo mucho de su carácter.

Intento evitar ponerme en una situación en la que alguien pueda tratarme injustamente. Pero hay veces en las que no puedo evitar que eso ocurra.


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Cuando nos mudamos a nuestro nuevo apartamento el 5 de marzo del año pasado. En mi primera noche en esta casa sólo sabía que no sería capaz de renovar nuestro contrato de arrendamiento aquí por segunda vez como nuestra casera nos mostró ese primer día para ser una persona muy tóxica, ella puede hacer que la gente más cool en la tierra pierden los estribos.

Parece no tener respeto por nadie y no entiende la relación entre un inquilino y su casera. Es una obsesa del control y le gusta manipular a todos los que la rodean.

Cuando llegamos, nos enteramos de que suele tener problemas con todos los que la rodean, incluidos sus vecinos.

Estuve a punto de culpar a mi marido por alquilar nuestro apartamento en una casa así, ya que yo estaba en otro estado cuando lo hizo, pero si le culpaba de esto podría acabar resentida con él durante mucho tiempo, lo que podría afectar a nuestra relación. Así que pensé que era inútil. Intento comprender algunas situaciones que le hicieron aceptar esa casa en primer lugar. Dejo a un lado mi enfado y planifico cómo sobreviviré en la casa durante un año, cuando venza nuestro alquiler.

>**Cómo estoy manejando las cosas**.

Para hacer frente a la situación, durante los últimos once meses he intentado ocuparme de mis asuntos en la medida de lo posible. No me meto en los asuntos de mi casera. Cuando dice cosas que me molestan, las dejo pasar inmediatamente después de hacerle saber que no apruebo la forma en que me habla.

Esto funciona a veces, ya que ella acepta la corrección, pero otras veces puede hacer que diga las peores cosas, y entonces simplemente la ignoro. Una cosa es que nunca me tomo a pecho nada de lo que dice.

He visto que es el tipo de persona con problemas emocionales más profundos, y nunca duda en desahogarse con cualquiera que se cruce en su camino. Pelear con este tipo de personas es una pérdida de tiempo y energía.

He tenido que impedir muchas veces que mi marido se pelease con ella. Me parece que ella sólo busca frustrar a la gente y nosotros no cedemos ante ella.

>**Una especie de solución permanente**

Nuestro alquiler vence a finales de este mes y ya conseguimos otro apartamento en otra casa lejos de aquí, esta vez investigamos el tipo de personas que se hospedan ahí antes de hacer un pago para que no se repita lo que presenciamos aquí. Esta vez nos aseguramos de no alquilar una casa donde viva la casera o el casero y con pocos inquilinos en ella.

 Tenemos un hijo pequeño y queremos que crezca en el mejor entorno posible.

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@jhymi ·
Wow....I can imagine how toxic such an environment is. You guys did the right thing by moving to a better environment. In life, we come to learn that some people would always have problems with us no matter how nice we are.
Thanks for sharing.✨
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@funshee ·
>In life, we come to learn that some people would always have problems with us no matter how nice we are.

That is very true, in her case it seems to me she has underlying issues, it is sad I wish I can help her situation but for now, all we could do is relocate from here to a better environment for our well-being.
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@jhymi ·
It feels kind of sad though. The house looks so beautiful. It's really looked like a wonderful place a child would love to grow up in.
I hope the new place is conducive and as beautiful.❤️
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@tengolotodo ·
Well I am glad you will get a new apartment!
You need to be happy now walking on eggshells because of an arse of a landlay!
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@funshee ·
Thank you uncle T🙏

We are moving to the new apartment this coming Saturday.
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@tengolotodo ·
Oh wow, you are not hanging around!
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@wongi ·
There are some land ladies that don't like peace at all.  They are always on the neck of their tenants and with the way she's going, very soon, her property may be without an occupant.
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@funshee ·
Honestly, I don't know why they are like that. In this particular one, the house agents in this area kept bringing strangers who did not know anything about her.
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@wongi ·
I'm very sure the house agent knows about it ..yet he doesn't give heads up...or does he?
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