Cheers to the weekend everyone.
My special person is my wife. We’ve been married for many years 😎and together for a few years before. She is my life partner and I can’t imagine life without her. She is easily my closest friend and the person I’m most comfortable with. She is also a great mother to our children. 

Tough one to decide around here. Hmm... I guess grandpa is out of the list because he's not around anymore, so I'll stick to Hive. My choice for this is no other than the awesome and talented Gabriela @mipiano. Not only I have the chance to be witness of her ability to play the piano, but sometimes we get to chat a bit via discord about things we are going to do in the platform of just any other topic. Maybe she thinks my comments in her musical posts are a bit too much, but having the chance to see that display of talent is a marvel and gives me the chance to exercise my music critic skills (if there's any). Hopefully, she will see this tag, blush and comment. 😂

This topic just ground me to a standstill when I read it Friday morning (my time) and still has me conflicted at Sunday Lunch.

There have been 4.  Two are dead and two aren't.  Each has been just completely instrumental in getting through a specific time in my life.  How do I put one above or ahead of another?  I really am conflicted.  

I was really have really been a babe in the woods socially for most of my life.  A big, tough nasty babe but still.  One taught me most of what I know about getting along in life.  One was part and parcel of my getting sober (with not being dead as part of that) one was there, and I mean right there, when my daughter died.  He left the hospital a couple hours before I did, but by the time I got home he'd been arrested for "Howling at God" in his back yard at 0500.  I was at least able to go give him a ride home...

And then there's Ray.  I met him when early in the life of my coffee shop.  He had just bought this house that I live in when we opened.  I was sitting on the patio after work on Memorial day when he showed up late.  He got a cup of coffee and we basically just sat.  He said he was remembering friends and his son.  I told him I was remembering friends and my daughter.  

To take a whole bunch of words out of the middle, he was the best rider I've ever known and we ended up with me following him for well over 100,000 miles.  He did crazy rides like going to El Paso for a burrito.  It's 550 miles and we were back before midnight of the same day.  It was 40C for a bunch of that ride, we looked like lobsters at coffee in the morning.

I learned a lot from Ray, not the least of which was how to die with grace and dignity and still be a tough son of a bitch.  He managed.  We would argue and trade fuck you with startling frequency and both knew that it was just words.  Often we were OK with each other in minutes.  I still miss him every day and it's been 10 years since he left.  Every single day brings something I wish I could show him or talk to him about.  

He was a cat guy (He had one called 'roof rabbit') and I'm pretty sure he'd have gotten along just fine with Sam.

So that's it.  Ray.  Damn I miss him. 

Yeazzzz S P E C I A L , whats special in your eyes, the fact that one does life alone, or life with 5 kids, with the same gender, recovering or in illness? 
I know that my special for one special lady is always the same and thats my MUM and for the rest its changing with age ( said the women	who has age a year again and is heading to the big 5 in a few years ) The older you get, the harder it is to make new friends, they say, well not if you work online aswell.  But many old friendships can also be watered down.  Research shows that this is very normal: you go to college or you get a busy job, you move to another city and maybe you get into a relationship.  These are all things that might cause any friendships you had to lose.  But there really does seem to be an age when you are actually less likely to make new friends, friendship is like hiving and blogging it all needs work, to become OR stay something special.
So there are many that are, and when someone says you are thats something to cherish!
( note to self OWN IT , it was in the comments sooooo......... 
happy weekend 

Ok, This might be a little bit different now. Someone special. 

For the longest time I didn't think this person was special. Special in the meaning of worth being treated well, being recognized as who this person was. I was denying her values, I was observing her attempt to please others. I saw weakness. On the other hand I observed that person being strong and good-natured, idealistic. Still I didn't allow the person to be special too me.

I saw her value others and share love, I also saw her fail and hurt to an extend that I couldn't forgive. But I started to take a closer look and opened up towards her. That was when this person started to become more special to me. I realized that each one is special, every living being, every bit of existence. With this I understood that even the person I never valued much is worth being valued by me for who she is.

This special person was me.

Can I be my own special person? :P

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One day I will write a full post about it, maybe I won't. I only have one person in mind, and it's @lionmom. 
How many times @dandays, asked me to write about how I met my wife? 

I travelled 12000km to find her, I realised how much I take her for granted, but in all honesty I don't remember how life was before her, not that great... As if almost my life started the day I met her. I am not the most pleasant person to be around, but she always find the right words to get through me. 

There isn't a more generous, giving, patient, caring, intense person in the entire world, almost as if she was made for me. I know you understand @galenkp where I come from, because you feel the same way about your loved one. 

I don't know what I did to deserve someone that amazing in my life, but I thank god, the universe, and circumstances, for leading me to her!

Also, thanks to all the people that shared their stories in the comment section!