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When people ask me if I’d love to be a man in my second life, I would always give them a resounding NO! NO! I don’t want to be a man, NO, I don’t have the power to go through half of what these people go through.


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Writing about men could invariably lead to an epistle that most of you might not want to read. On this note, I’ll be narrowing this post to Men approaching ladies.

Men approaching ladies is sadly one aspect of manhood and social interaction we do not pay attention to and by paying attention I mean the emotional factors involved in approaching ladies and applauding these men for their bravery.

This post was inspired by a conversation I had with a friend. His friend tried to speak to a lady at the mall, she was both snobbish and rude. According to my friend, the situation was a bit messy and he said he had warned his friend not to bother approaching the lady in the first place.

While my friend continued ranting about men and women he said something profound, he said;
>*Do you ladies know the amount of courage it takes for men to approach you all  while having it at the back of their minds that they might be snubbed, looked down on, or spoken rudely to?*

Ladies and gentlemen this question did hit me. I was speechless and for the very first time, I saw men differently in this aspect of social interaction.


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It sure does take a lot of courage to approach a stranger and it doesn’t end there, you’d have to ask for her number? More like a permission into her life? 

Now, you don’t know if she’s having a bad day, if she’s hurt, or even mourning. You just put yourself out there against all odds and if that isn’t being bold and confident I don’t know what it is.
Bro that’s a whole lot and frankly speaking, if I was a man I think I would flop in this department.

Asking is one thing and being rejected is another thing as you would have to wear your big boy boots and walk away with your dignity intact, woah!

We ladies would always be ladies but in situations like this, a polite no and a little smile could go a long way rather than being mean or rude to these men.

Now I understand why some men would resort to insulting some ladies, as some of them cannot deal with this rejection or rudeness as some of these ladies do not make it easy for them,  then again,  I could be wrong but this is what I could deduce from everything.


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[source](https://pixabay.com/photos/merry-christmas-man-woman-dog-pet-2425121/)

Do you now understand why people commend ladies who are bold enough to approach men and ask for their numbers? Because that’s some fierce move and it isn’t a walk in the park as it takes a lot of courage to pull this off.

As much as some of these men can be naughty and could sexualize anything at your first contact with them, it is of great importance that we spot the good ones and be nice to them.

In conclusion,  if she says no or start acting in a type of way you dislike please dearest men, walk away without making a fuss or creating a scene. Some of these ladies aren’t worth the stress. This seems like a better option than exchanging words with a total stranger in public. 

In as much as there are no rules to these things, we just need to be careful when it comes to interacting with people.
 
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