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Age to some people is just a number and to some it's a thing that has no importance in what they do , say or achieve. There are others who look at age as the basis of experience, achievement... to me , age matters and yet it matters a lot in its common sense
A= Attitude

G = Generates
E= Experience .
It's the type of attitude you generate while dealing with others that produces the distinction called **age**.
>Anyone who keeps the ability to see beauty never grows old.

~Franz Kafka.

To your parents you're still a child though 40 years.
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It's very normal to see parents still remember the days of your little hands, when you could not do nothing for yourself and seeing how big you have become gladness their heart 💜 giving them the joy happiness to love longer for you and their grand children.

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*When ever I'm around I go to the farm with mother , this gives her joy*.

>How often do you remember you're a son.

There's a huge difference between being being a biological member of the family and being a son/daughter in same family. The truth is a biological member is just there as a member but a son or daughter ***touches the heart of parents*** . 

No parents wants their children to stay unproductive, unsuccessful, hence they do their best ensuing that you stand by placing the ladder the much they can. But I still see some children blaming their lack of progress on their parents saying they were not trained nor giving the grounds to grow. Yet , parents ought to be given their place whether or not they provided all you needed to be your best.

>The place for self improvement.

Any one who banks on parents to provide the needed facilities to attend excellence or success can't be as proud as one who understood the missing link and struggles for daily success and progress and it's this daily, and consistent attempt to keep improving that I see as ***sonship***. Who would make himself, and everyone proud. 
As wealth as 50 Cent is he seems not of the school of thought that he should still be providing for his 26 year son.
> After Marquise Jackson sent word to his father, 50 Cent, that he wanted to sit down with him to talk about living expenses, the latter replied. And the answer was not exactly what the young man expected.

This is coming from a wealthy man who in his capacity feels he had done enough for the son to understand that at 26, he ought to be a brand of himself and not hoping or depending on the family wealth.


Could still not be a son.
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My immediate elder brother hasn't been in a cordial relationship with our parents as he feels parents didn't do enough for him. He's the same person that was sent to learn **auto spray painting** and he couldn't finish it, later, he demanded to change to auto mobile electrician and parents still paid for him to learn and within his three weeks of apprenticeship, he a had an accident with a customer's vehicle, which our parents paid for damages and still told him to continue he refused to continue learning. 
**Father** ; what do you want to do now?
**Son** ; nothing, I can take care of myself.

After 16 years he had become a terror to himself and he feeding his kids with false information that no one took care of him that's why he's poor.
>My question.

Where is the space for self improvement if all we can do is blame our parents or our past choices or decisions  . 

Picking up your broken self is key|
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*Helping my elder sister in harvesting cassava root . She lost her husband three years ago I try not to let her cry*.


If there's one person who should be angry for not getting the best from parents should be me because I was not given any handiwork, nor education but I still understand the place of parents in my life and I give them that space.
I was always living with distant relations just to reduce the load on my since they have us (10) ten and the resources available isn't enough to give us the best but from observation, decision and determination, I saw myself through secondary school by pushing wheelbarrow in our local market every Saturday, and sold firewood and vegetables to buy books trying to rewrite the family history understanding that parents are poor and can't help me so I decided to help myself.

***I have not regretted being a son in this family. I don't have to love my parents base on what they provided but because of the position they occupy in my life***.