Dads have to be careful about going into passive mode. Kids start to doubt if they are loved, if they can trust you, or count on you when you don’t lead . If you see any insecurity in your family, look at what you’ve been doing the last few days, weeks, or months. It comes back to leadership. You can’t control their feelings, but their feelings can tell you something about where you are missing the boat.

Who is responsible for what happens under your roof?  Fatherhood is the highest form of leadership. Fatherhood is not about a title. It’s about influence. Influence requires time.  Is the concept that you need more money to spend more time with your kids a reality?

You can spend more time with your kids now. What things are you doing to fill your time that is just being busy—not effective? Write three things that you often do that are probably a waste of your time:

Things I do that are busy but not effective

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See if you can start spending time with your kids in replacement of the above three activities.

Providing financially and providing time are two separate things. It's not about having a present but a presence. Make an inventory of your weekly schedule and analyze how you can spend more time with your kids. Shoot for at least an hour a day.