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I was talking to someone recently, and I mentioned a significant event in my life, which surprised this person because I had not told anyone yet. However, it was not my intention to reveal such information to them; I did so because I wanted to use that event to make a completely different point. A lot has happened in my life, and while I used to focus my content on personal matters, I have now **developed a filter.**




This filter was intended to keep some information from the public and only release information that I had vetted as *"not sensitive.** It was uncharacteristic of me. Reading my posts used to reveal a lot about me, but I do not think they are as important anymore. While I will not go so far as to hide my face or other personal information, I do believe that the information I have given off in the past has not served me well, and it is now available for anyone to see because the eyes of the chain are omniscient. 



Essentially, I believe we all require a **perceptive filter;**  I simply believe that some of the things we say or do when we are hurt, vexed, or experiencing emotional trauma can stay with us indefinitely, especially if there is a place where the things you can do can never be erased; another person can simply access these information from other interfaces, and there you have it. 




## We Can Be Changed, With Retrievable Proofs

I used to watch videos of people who had quit adult movies and claimed to be changed people. While it is true that people can change. The evidence of who they once were will stay with them forever. The world never forgets. The internet immortalizes people; their actions and accomplishments can live on indefinitely, which can be frightening at times. 


You cannot control how others perceive you. They choose to see you the way they want and to judge you based on what they believe they know about you.  It is life. I know it is harsh that we are no longer the same people, but others can not seem to see us the way we want them to. They may prefer the previous version of who we were, whether for vanity or other reasons. However, it is difficult to have people who can see us as we are now.

> This is why I believe the concept of friendship is flawed. 

We mostly have people who want us to be who they think we are to them, and then we are no longer that person; it is as if they have no use for us. For example, I am coming to terms with my illnesses, complications, and diseases while also finding my place in my new faith. So, basically, I can not go drinking or womanizing anymore, not only because it is unhealthy, but because my faith no longer approves of it. 


As a result, I will and should lose over 90% of the people I used to do this with. I expect to, and ***this is reality.*** Mostly because these guys have no use for me anymore, and if I do not fit into that category, the friendship ends. So we can not force people to see us in a new light. It is their choice, and you have to be prepared to see that side of reality.


 ## We live in a world of labels.

 We will mostly be labeled based on what people want to know about us. We do not always want this, or we used to like it but changed our minds, so we do not anymore. Sometimes it feels like betrayal, and sometimes it hurts, but only because you do not understand what reality really is. I am no longer afraid of labels. We live in a human society with labels and titles that some people prefer and others dislike.


 However, life changes, and we are no longer who others think we are. It is similar to referring to an ex-convict as such. Regardless of whether they changed. It is a label that follows them around in life, including job opportunities and other places. We cannot simply tell people we are not who they think we are. The records are there. 

Sometimes signs are written there. Personally, I am coming to terms with my own reality. While I despised some labels and identities. Some of them define who I am, and I strive to find solace and acceptance every day.











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