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Pressure comes in many forms, and inasmuch as it can rightly push one it can wrongly incentivize one as well. Pressure has been something I have succumbed to most of the decisions I've made over the years, it makes it create a sort of scenario where you see all the advantages of the decisions you're about to make. It doesn't make you see consequences, you see the things you're going to miss out on, you see opportunities that can only suffice once in a lifetime. 

Sometimes we align our life goals with how pressured we are, it's difficult to find uniqueness, silently ask ourselves what we really want, this is because we don't even know what we want, even when we do, we don't consider it to be viable, because we're extrinsically motivated by factors, jived up, pressure makes us impatient: we don't see us, we see fail to see consequences, hiding the reality of consequences under the guise of positivity. 

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 I've found myself second guessing my abilities, my longevity and this has crippled my belief in the fact that I might still find acceptance even from where I feel I might utterly fail. Why is this? I used to feel too **much of a baggage**, I'm someone who cannot handle people who are too much of a baggage, I can be roughly selective.

 I can be oddly discriminative when it comes to making choices, in fact I could be obsessed with *having* and *owning* *the best*, but I've taken a look at myself, I cannot match some requirements of things I want in people and even if some of these goes beyond my control, I've come to trim down my expectations of people. I've come to the conclusion that flaws are meant to be dealt with and there aren't really people in the world without faults. 

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It took me the perfect discovery of **self** to come to this conclusion. From where I come from, one's inability to hold down attraction from another person can be considered **failure**, but people forget that attraction can be faked and then gotten. I used to present my weaknesses before I present my strength, this is because I feel that using deceptive whiles to induce attraction from another person to yourself can only last until when they truly discover who you are. 

It's important to question the things that attract people to you, else you might find out you're alone when you cannot offer these things anymore. Like I said earlier, when you cannot hold down attraction from another person, the society feels something is wrong with you, this is a voiceless pressure that can overwhelm you to forcing attraction since you cannot naturally induce it. 


But then I'll tell you, it's hard. It's hard to be different, it's hard to have to work harder for something that you shouldn't naturally have to. An uneducated man will have to work twice hard to get a woman, he'll need to have something of a secondary or artificial inducement since. **Money**. In a place where his manly attributes is considered to have failed then his money would step up and do what is necessary, however what if he doesn't really have all the money forever? What would be the lifeline?.


 It's hard to find real people in a world that's materialistically motivated, due to the fact that people are secretly attracted to things they'll rather not say, it's hard to find attractions when you don't have any popular form of attraction, you're considered to be disabled and this is why the pressure to induce attraction has caused a mad frenzy in so many human societies. 

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Personally, I have my own issues, whenever people are coming into my life, I present these issues to them and leave them to decide if they want to stay or not. I do believe there are things we cannot hide, they'll reflect immediately we give people the key to our private lives, in a bid to form closeness, a bond. We often let down our guard, allowing people into our lives, this is how they eventually discover who we are.



 It's however better to tell people who we are: our failings, frailties, pain or passions, especially when they begin to feel that they're meant for us, and we're meant for them. We have to solidly spell out the things that attracts people to us and us to them. It's important to know if people are being misled by the things they see. Sometimes attraction can be totally selfish. People only see what they want, and this makes them endeared to you. You discover that they're totally different people when that ephemeral attraction fades. The reason why we often feel betrayed is that we fail to ask questions like *"what"* or *"why"*. It's important to know the motive of people by asking the right questions. **(In my next post I'll be talking about how to ask the right questions when it comes to attraction)** 





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