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Sometimes we're caught up in the web of secrets and as a result of this we find ourselves always being too articulative in our speeches so that we wouldn't contradict what we have said earlier with what we are currently saying. We seem to be lying to the people we love, hiding things from them about our core self, being overly sensitive about matters to discuss and matters not to, and as a result of this we often find sadness that we can't unburden our might or the core essence that makes up our true self without really giving off our personality in totality. The world is knowingly stigmatizing by default and the only reason why we don't notice this is because we ourselves are often quick to recognise our flaws and try to change them but humans aren't understanding or basically considerate as these are the values we actually learn while existing or going through life.

In essence keeping secrets sometimes helps you to stay off stigmatism especially when that particular secret might make people look at you differently, pity you or even start thinking less about you. In truth we aren't defined by our status, both physically, financially, health wise, morally or emotionally. However a state of an existence sometimes can make us stay off people, associating with them and even getting to make friends or find love. I saw a girl recently in my college department and she had this physical health challenge that seemed obvious, so she secluded herself from people and wouldn't even make friends. This is because her mindset has keyyed to the opinion that people will make jest of her for her appearance, mock her and might not associate with her. In all honesty part of her assumptions are right there are 65% chances that people will do that, so a particular day I was saying hello to her and she didn't respond and kept walking I just smiled and walked away. In truth she's been sequestered to the opinion that she may never have friends or find love.

Make no mistake, secrets are like burdens and sometimes we fear to unload them off our shoulders by talking to people. In essence the people who are our friends or people who we deem to be our friends might not even get to be our friends anymore the minute we tell them our secrets about how substantial we might be or how we've been suffering and sometimes it's even More painful or more relaxing when what you're going through isn't reflecting on you. But there's just one thing about keeping secrets of the things we are really going through and that's the fact that it might have even been out without our fore knowledge and people are jeering us at our backs, or these secrets will absolutely come out one day without us knowing and the trauma that might follow it might be uncontrollable so at what point do we make decisions? Do we choose to tell or not to tell these secrets? Will people we call our friends understand the reasons why we were hiding it in the first place? Will it justify our actions? Should we be cut some slack? 





So many questions as regarding keeping secrets, but what decisions do we really make? Without mincing words, experience teaches without comforting the person who's went through situations. We are often halted and haunted and making progress sometimes seems a fairytale. I've kept secrets, very deep secrets from people who I dine with and it's because we as humans are not understanding by default we're more of *"take action, think later"* irrespective of the repercussions and we often see weakness where there are truly weaknesses instead of changing the narrative to give a more positive outlook. So we often bear to much instead of allowing others to help us and this is because in the process of helping us they might discover this carefully shelved secret and we might loose social relevance, gain more pity rather than encouragement and the stigma that might follow will seem invincible but it's absolutely there. **In conclusion** I don't know how to deal with this situation myself but I feel when we're aware rather than ignorant, it helps our endeavors richly. But I'm truth people will discover everything we're keeping secrets someday it wouldn't just be now it might be when we're no longer around and that's the comfort I find in every situation of secrecy in my life.