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Sometimes I usually envisage myself as the embodiment of complexity and this is because I feel that I'm a complicated entity not even fully understood by myself. This is to say it can be impossible to place certainty to our attitudes, behaviours and personalities. Our experiences in life often shapens us as we continually exists. 


This shows that we're open to diverse experiences , either good or bad and this aren't just experiences, they're learning curves which inadvertently develops us. We're always open, this means that no matter what we have endured, seen or gone through in life, there's always s space to contain even more and sometimes this is how I often measure my endurance level. 


Due to the fact that deep down I feel complex, I use to try as much as possible to seem plain, seem simple and appear readable. In life, a lot of us do this, we take it as a coping mechanism. So many people cannot even explain their state of existence and that is why it's difficult for them to talk to a friend or talk to a doctor. 

Truth is, when people choose to remain mute over the diverse circumstances, it's not because they choose to deal with "things" alone, it's because they're scared of reactions of others and also the inability to express fully the extent of their predicament in a way that will feel relatable. This is to show that sometimes we lack the right express to narrate things that are going on with us and this is why people choose to go through things rather silently. 

However is this right in the actual sense? I wouldn't really say. When it comes to the mental state of different people, we cannot generalise. This is to say that one person cannot fathom the extent to which pain can deal differently. Sometimes we claim to know what pain is, but then the degree of our own elasticity would actually be reliant on the type of painful experiences that we've actually gone through. 


This is to say that, different people would understand pain or its effect rather differently and this is why it's always difficult to express pain vocally in a manner which isn't to to be compared with how you've experienced it. It's why I don't like pretending to understand what people truly feels, because when I pretend to do, i might unknowningly downplay their experiences, sometimes we downplay people's experiences by actually trying to imply that what they're going through cannot be compared to what we have gone through. 

Everyone is equipped rather differently and when we see others dealing or coping with pain rather well this doesn't mean that their pain is not to be reckoned with. But then in life, one thing we do well is adaptability. The power to cope or live with an discomfort when there's no other choice. This shows that survival is the ultimate thing. 

People would choose to stay alive Irrespective of the circumstances holding onto hope that even if their pain doesn't disappear totally, it would one day reduce. In my case, I use to try to wear a seemless personality, this is because most peot you'll met are only interested in knowing what's going on with you, they're not interested in helping you find answers or solutions.

I don't usually tend to judge them (people) for this. This is why I always try to deal with things in my own way. Sometimes there's a connection between people who are going through pain, it feels like kindred spirit. But it feels rather lonely when it feels like you're the only one going through a type of pain, it's why we'd rather have people who are going through things similar to us than talk to people who would absolutely feel alien to our experiences. 


Like I said, not talking about what we're going through might act as a coping mechanisms to actually live through these things. It's why I chose not to dwell on things. Sometimes talking about issues and not actually finding solutions to these issues feels baseless. In life however, people are different. 


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**(I may not reply your comments immediately i've been in hospital for 3 days now, half conscious at almost all time)**


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