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I've always questioned people's Priorities, because it defines everything about them and even when it isn't clearly or verbally stated, it's evident in their attitudes, their lifestyles, their ways of reasoning and their deposition towards a particular thing. Someone messaged me sometimes ago so as to know why I've hardly given her any attention, but then I searched deep down within me, questioning myself as to why I did a despicable thing as that, then I remembered it was their Inabilities to directly Influence the way I needed them in my life that made me pushed them down my scale of preference. Truth is when you don't make yourself indispensable to someone *(no one is indispensable but an attempt to be, means you'll be held in total valuation)* then they won't find a need for you and believe me if a person loses a need for you it's naturally that you'll become less relevant to them.


Naturally I believe we should love people unconditionally, I believe we don't need a reason for people to be important to us, sometimes someone might not be directly influencing on us, but then they're still valuable to us and why is this? **This is because irrespective of valuation some people to us are totally priceless** however there is something that negates this particular phenomenon and what is this? *The phenomenon of competition* sometimes competition for places and slot takes center stage. **Now take for example, the attention of a lady given to a prospective wooer is determinant on how many wooers she's got and the attention is cut and divided into the level of relevance of each and every of these people.** Even when I feel this phenomenon isn't well placed because it doesn't entirely read the relevance of people,it's a working phenomenon which we can do nothing about.

In essence we should know that sometimes the wrong things are made the normal things because it's gained popular acceptance, however while we're trying to change we must understand that the world wouldn't work on our own rules and regulations. Life would not stand still for you to put your affairs together and the more you become indecisive, the more you stand on a fence and the more you're *neither here nor there* the more people understand that you have no goals, no sense of urgency and no Sense of purpose within you. I see a whole lot of people with this attitude, they give excuse that they're poor, not having a bedrock to define their goals or having a platform to show their relevance or even opportunities but then, this is actually the reason why there's height of unseriousness in the life of so many people who are trying to step their feet on the ground.

One thing is, it's never easy to be definitive but it shows you have a roadmap, it gives you a badge of conciseness and people see this in and want to either work with you or be with you. Don't ask, allow another to perceive that you need or want this means that the fact they they could percieve shows your relevance and it's a pity that people don't actually want to understand one another in other to know how to relate or behave with one another. **In conclusion, don't believe you're important if there's no cummulative reason to prove your invaluability** people don't owe you loyalty if you're actually having no dispensation towards their gesture. So quitting seeing that you don't have to prove yourself to be relevant. **Of course this can sometimes be true but only in a few cases with many terms and conditions applied** letting people understand your goals and your stand plus your stances on a whole lot of issues it gives them that inkling to be into  you or out of you.