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I am a person who is very keen on relationships, because I feel goals are aspects of life you need relationships to achieve. For example, building relationships on a place like Hive can be very dicey, while people can form relationships based on monetary intents, it takes a deeper level of psychological underspending to keep relationships running when the Initial motive is no longer being satiated.

 This is to say that sometimes it's possible to try to build connections without emotional attachments, but this only happens when you see only a means to an end in a relationship. When people put their needs as the sole reason for building a relationship, they miss out on the deeper benefits because everything they embody is extrinsically motivated.


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It's okay to have aims, agendas and list of things to benefit from a prospective connection you intended to build, but do not mask your intentions, else, it exposes your level of fakery. It's always Important to be transparent about what you want from a prospective connection, because like it or not, we're always building things to our benefit whether we admit it or don't admit it. Nevertheless, while *selfish aims* are parts of our agendas, *selfless aims* needs to be part of our aims and objectives in other to create a balance. 

This is why I believe that in a healthy relationship all parties must create and ooze value that are transmissible, irrespective of whether it's equal or not equal, **value is value** because the intent is what gives it a feature of pricelessness. We all have needs, but then how far do we go in recognizing the need of others irrespective of what we perceive of them? It's often natural for some to feel that because they're needy, it's difficult to ooze any value of a sort, but the truth is, value is always in the intent and the actual worth.


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I've formed some of the best relationships of my life on Hive, these people have gone on to actually impact my life positively, and sometimes I weigh their impact on my life, try to measure it with the impact I've had in their lives and when it feels like I'm lacking behind, I try to balance the books and even do o more. This is because you can't be valuable to me, without me being valuable to you, when a relationship is otherwise, then there's no symbiotic essence. 

When a relationship is *"one-way"* it doesn't take too long before that imbalance is felt. I don't know how people are okay with that *"imbalance"*. Everything comes through you, but nothing goes out of you. As much as your extrinsically motivated at least try hard to be a team player, so that people can find an essence to you. I'm the type of person who's hardly vocal when it comes to these things, I don't openly tell people to show the value they want to receive, because when you have to *"talk"* then whatever effect it'll leave will not be genuine.

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When you're chasing, growth, money, dreams, goals and aims, always double back and do a sort of mental accounting. Sometimes, even the best of us get caught in this *mad frenzy*. It's difficult to be always maintain that sanity. Fighting against our impulses and instincts can be difficult especially when we want to be better people but the circumstances that surrounds us makes it rather difficult. I'm the kind of person who feels that we as humans, we need to be flexible as much as we need to be rigid. 

One of the most terrible things in life is never stopping, doubling back to check our actions, check if it's flawed and working to making them better. When we stop making some meetings about money, goals and aims, a lot of people find no essence to us in their lives and this is where it becomes problematic. When you let people go because they're no more monetarily valuable to you, what about being with them when they were monetarily to you? Life is a cyclical process, sometimes we should learn to know when it's our turn to be valuable to people as much as they've been to us.


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Because I'm not perfect, I feel we're all flawed differently, but not working hard to be better people is the bigger sin. I use this opportunity to appreciate the people that have made me complete, through my journey on this blockchain. If you feel I've not been up and doing, or I haven't been there for you as much as you were for me, maybe in your expectations of me, by all means please tell me and let me pay my dues. I feel it's the right time to genuinely cut off a lot of people.


 We're differently needy in so many aspects of life but the most beautiful aspect of it should be complementing ourselves in places where we might be individually lacking. But if we cannot see beyond the charade of the money *(not that this isn't very important)* and fame then I don't see a relationship. I've been musing for the past two days and I think I know the people I do not want in my life and the people I want, however, I hope for the energy and means to eschew value to others at every point in time of my life.



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