fear is known to be a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain etc. Whether the threat is real or imagined, the feeling or condition of being afraid is disastrous and heartbreaking. All of us want to be strong. πͺπΌ. We want to be called *THE ROCK*. We want to act like RAMBO.... π. We want to be in control of most things. We want to show others the kind of stuffs we're made of. We want to make it known to the rest of the world, that, we can compete with the best. But, it's quite unfortunate..most people miss out due to fear! They may be as a result of bad experience(s) or they may just pop up one day and catch us off guard. You know that funny situation when an armed robber points the gun to a policeman from the back.... π. The policeman automatically starts to wet his trousers, because, he was caught off guard Fear comes in all shapes and sizes. It might be a fear of heights, beauty, intelligence, wealth etc or of animals.... Some people are living in fear of failure. Some in fear of criticism. Whatever your fears may be , they can halt you in your tracks. That's if you're not careful.... Mark the conditional word *IF*. Here, I'll like to make a biblical illustration.
Let's take Peter for example. When the disciples were on the sea and storm came, They were surprised not to see Jesus in their midst... Until later when he showed himself walking on the sea. He (Peter) asked for the permission from Jesus to walk on water just like him and he was summoned. In the Bible, we weren't told that it was his first step that got him to sink in the sea. He had taken some steps on the sea...That time, he was looking at Jesus not minding the dreadful look of the sea. Looking at Jesus gave him much courage. But, storm came in its fast and furious self, He then fearfully took his eyes off Jesus to look at the storm....... We all know what happened next...he sank like a stone thrown in an ocean.
There's absolutely nothing like fear until we manufactured it ourselves. It is always from what we are thinking in our minds that manually create fear. Fear can make you feel embarrassed in a gathering. When you live in fear, you automatically feel alone. Fear is not real, and it's quite perilous if it should overcome and govern your life. If there's one thing that encumbers millions of people from reaching their goals, from growing as individual, from achieving high levels of success and becoming the best version of themselves, *fear* is definitely at the top of the list.
High achievers, regardless of occupation, understand that taking risks and massive action is a vital part in getting from where you are to where you want to go or be, and that goes for in life and in business.
"You do not get ulcer from what you're eating; you get stomach ulcer from what's eating you" Dr. Joseph F. Montague.
But often, these risks are met with fear, which can cause people to question their ambitions and prevent them from taking actions and go after what they want in life.
"If you looked into the river before you jump in, knowing fully well you couldn't swim, your courage would fail you. Instead, you should just jump into the river and start to battle for your survival"_ Tai Solarin.
Sidney Bremer also said and I quote, _"Courage is not the absence of fear, but the conquest of fear."
Fear is a chronic disease that's ready to attenuate you from making progress in your endeavors. DONT SIGN THE CONTRACT! β
```WAYS TO OVERCOME FEAR
There are various ways to overcome your FEAR. 1. *REBUILD YOUR BRAIN*ππ½ Rebuilding your brain is one of the surest ways to overcome your fears and develop the courage that's needed to get to where you want to go. You have to develop mantras and affirmations that build you up and increase your self confidence. *Always* try as much as possible to read uplifting books to help interrupt the negative inner dialogue that goes on in your mind (remember I told you, Fear comes from what you're thinking or assuming) From childhood, we were told negative things that we can't do, be or have. If you don't take the initiative to rebuild and rewire your brain, life will do it for you (I'm sure, we all know how life lectures people...)π
2 *HAVE A WELL THOUGHT OUT PLAN* Sometimes, we begin to worry and over analyze situations when we don't have detailed and well thought out plans for our lives. Set extremely lucid goals with a detailed plan on how to achieve those goals. After you might have gotten yourself a well-detailed plan, take actions. Taking actions towards meaningful goals helps to relieve stress and gives you a huge sense of enjoyment. Fears creep in and paralyzes us when we don't take the time to plan our lives.
3 *VALUE COURAGE OVER SECURITY* Repeated Researches had shown that most people value "security" over just everything else in their lives. People will put up with jobs that they hate, marriages that make them miserable, and nugatory habits that are killing them, simply to feel more secured. To attenuate fear, you must consciously dethrone "security" as the thing that you value most in your life and replace it with "courage"
4 *DIFFERENTIATE BETWEEN FEAR AND PRUDENCE* Most fears are irrational and unreasonable. For instance, you might be afraid to confront a co-worker who acts like a bully, or to start your own business because you're not certain you've got all it takes. It's these irrational fears that hold you back and keep you from being more successful. That aside, there are other kinds of fear that are actually just simple prudence. For instance, you might be afraid to drive aggressively because of accident. Or you might be afraid to sell fake products because of arrest. Prudence is surely a good thing. Just make sure you're not pretending to be prudent, when you're just trying to avoid reasonable business risks or putting yourself on the line to do what's necessary.
5 *DO THAT THING THAT FEARS YOU EVERYDAY* I always say, living in our comfort zone is not the best way to live. Not doing the things that frighten you will increase the likelihood that your fears will become bigger and taking over your life. It can even be something small that you choose to do, but do something daily that scares you. *Step out of your comfort zone and work on becoming comfortable with the uncomfortable.* Sometimes, as a writer, I write when my muse is not serving me. I just write. Then, I'd go back later to develop and edit. I don't have to wait until my muse serves me drinks to quench my thirst. When you form the habit of doing something daily that scares you, your courage grows little by little. Soon, the barriers that were holding you back vanish and your potential maximizes tremendously. Making the bold decision to not let fear hold you back anymore is one of the best decisions you can make to ensure future success. It's not something that happens overnight, but taking intentional action and running towards your fears daily will give you a promising result in the long run. Everything that you want in life is past your comfort zone. DON'T LET FEAR BE THE REASON YOU LIVED A HALF-LIVED LIFE
6 *TREAT FEAR AS A CALL TO ACTION* If what you fear is outside your control (like an economic downturn), write down a specific plan of the exact steps that you'll take in order to adapt, if and when it happens. Once you've completed that task, put the plan aside and have the courage to forget about it. You've done what you can; it's time to move on. But, if what you fear is inside your control, some actions that you're afraid to take, that is, take a few moments to prepare yourself, then do the thing that's scaring you. I MEAN NOW. NOT TOMORROW ; NOT NEXT WEEK. *RIGHT NOW!*
7 *REFRAME FEAR INTO EXCITEMENT* Finally, tune in to the aspect of fear that's really fun. Think about the first time you learn to drive (for those that know how to): you probably felt plenty of fear, but you were also having a great time... π Let's face it, a life without fear and without courage to overcome fear, would be pretty blank and insipid. One thing I want us to understand is that, fear is absolutely normal. Even *the best* experience fear from time to time. The key is to not let fear hold you back and prevent you from taking actions and go after what you want in life. This fear of a thing is an enemy to success. Having large rewards only result from taking comparably large risks. OPERATION *LARGE REWARDS, LARGE RISKS*π If you are ruled over by fear, you'll never take enough risks and never achieve success you duly deserve. Fear is a wonderful, paralyzing emotion. It can make grown up men seem like frightened children. (chuckles ) Do you know that, the first step to defeat fear is to face fear? Yes! You have to face it to defeat it. While the Israelites were in fear of GOLIATH, David faced him and conquered him. Take a look at the STONE. It is fearless. Whatever you like to do with it, it does not fear you - kick it, throw it, hit it, use it against any object - it does not fear. Not the doer or the action. IT SIMPLY DOES NOT FEAR. Close the door of fear behind you and see how quickly the door to faith will open before you.
"There's no peace or happiness for man until he has erased all fear from the subconscious."_ ```Florence S. Shinn.```
8 *FEED ON GOD'S WORD!
what better way to deal with the devil's tool than through God's tool. Fill up the apartment of your heart with God's word, and fear would take leave. True love casts out all fear.
Permit me to end this write up with Nigeria pidgin, "wetin u dey fear, dey fear u too! "(that thing you are afraid of, is also afraid of you)
Fear is nothing but an instrument that devil uses to exhibit his plans.
DON'T TAKE FEAR TO BE SUPERIOR OVER YOU, BECAUSE, GOD HAD MADE MAN TO BE SUPERIOR OVER EVERYTHING .
Your friendly steemian
GODWIN OBOT
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