Things do happen and there will be times you will not win that Filipina woman you are eyeing on. It might feel you have faced the worst rejection of your life. After all the wooing for months or so, it can be traumatic. Westerners are not used with the Filipino style of long courtship only to find out that they have failed. How do you deal with the emotions now? Or how do you find love when there seems to be no light at the end of the tunnel?
Understanding Rejection
Rejection is a natural phenomenon that helps singles that are not for each other recognize that fact. You won’t see this definition in any love dictionary but that’s what it essentially is. Being rejected is something faced by both men and women today and it could stem from many things, such as lack of chemistry, lack of any common subject of interest or even because of differing basic values. It is not uncommon in the Philippine culture that you were rejected because you were not favored by the Filipino woman’s family, you were perceived as a playboy, you were not consistent enough in following through your interest, or even questioned about your varying religious belief.
It doesn’t mean that you don’t need to feel bad about it, but, you would need to stride and move on. Unless you’re ready to overlook the rejection, you’ll find it hard to not be apprehensive the next time around. Remember though that the perfect relationship may be just one rejection away.
How to Deal with Rejection
It’s easy to say “get over it” but not that simple to actually do it. Don’t deny your emotions – just try to find an outlet for them. You could talk to a close friend – and that applies to men just as well as women; you could get professional counseling; you can even talk it over with the person who rejected you – but only do that if you’re sure it will help you.
At times, it’s a good idea to just get away for a while for a different perspective on things. You may find out while you’re enjoying the sun somewhere that she is not really the one you would like to be a part of your future anyway. Whatever you have reflected upon, there is no doubt that there is going to be a Filipina woman for you.
Nevertheless, at a time like this, it is not be a good idea to try falling in love again too soon. Let the wound heal and recover. Take time to love yourself.
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