I have not been keeping up with anyone, I don't even get notifications from people I know!  :(

I happened upon this and you poor girl! How often do I think of you, having cared for both of my parents, while living in another State and putting my family on hold to go take care of them, bring them home with me, bring them back after a few months, stay there... My dad has Alzheimer's. My mom was just frail like your mom. I never did put them in care, and my father wouldn't let a caregiver come there, he got violent.

It's sad. It is. We all get there, but, it sneaks up on you. What you are doing out of love is still admirable. I love your heart. It is genuine and true. I never thought I would even think about a care facility, but, when it starts affecting the caregiver, such as yourself, you need to take another look. It really takes a toll. 

In saying that, we all must do with what we can live with. You will make the right choice for yourself and for your mom, but, please, please, don't be a hero. You need to continue to live and be in good health too. It is a hard decision. 

Much love to you!xoxo

I'm sorry, Lizelle. Supporting your parents in this stage of life is so hard sometimes. Seeing everything my Dad had to go through with battle with Alzheimer's then passing from Covid a little over a year ago made me think hard about the end stages of life and how fragile it all is more than I ever have before. Most days I still can't believe he's gone but I go about my business just fine but some days are darker and just really hard. I start thinking about all the times I missed with him since we lived so far away. 

I love that quote you've posted, *"Whether we think you can or you can't -- either way you're right."* That is so true. We must "keep on keeping on" no matter what. During the dark days I go seeking for a glimmer of light. Your Mom is so lucky to have such a great daughter to take care of her. 

I see my Mom getting less mobile and more fearful now too, almost like she's retreating into a shell. We invited her to spend time with us in Sedona but she won't come due to her fear of flying. I don't always understand her decisions or thought process but I try because I don't want to impose anything on her that she doesn't want to do. Her freedom of choice is about all she has left but I feel time slipping away and I just want to spend all the quality time with her that I can.  

Keep your head up as best you can, I will do the same.  Good night my friend!

Hello dear Lizzy, @thebigsweed told me about your post about your mom. I am sorry I have not kept up with you, but to be honest, I have been in the doldrums since Christmas. My two youngest granddaughters came down with covid just a day after we left them. I was upset and worried about them as well as worried about us for being exposed to the virus. As it turned out, they were sick but not too bad, cold symptoms, cough, fever, and general grumpiness. I had a terrible headache and slept most of the day after we got back home, it was pretty much the same for my hubby. We never tested, but I am sure we had it. Thank goodness it wasn't worse.
The weather here has been dark, snowy and very icy, keeping us cooped up, too afraid to venture out, we don't need to flop outside in the cold.
So cabin fever is setting in. It sucks.

Good news is, we will be leaving soon for the sunshine state of Florida at the end of the month. Can't wait.

I pray for you and your mom, may she be at peace, without pain, love in her heart knowing you are there for her.
much love farm-mom.

Ah,Lizelle, I don't know how you manage. I completely ~~understand~~ agree with your sentiments. It's a conversation we often have. 

A brave piece that says much that people will not.

Beautiful and heart warming (*and ***heart** **breaking**) article. I am one to appreciate the wisdom and life experience that comes with age. What's important to me is to live a full and healthy life. A lot of us could live better and longer if we lived more natural, organic lives.  I am avoiding GMOS, drugs and most processed foods. I fast every day till noon, and I am surrounded by people who love and want what's best for me. I recognize I have been INCREDIBLY blessed and it's important for me to emphases where I used to be and what I come from. I was poor now I'm rich helping lift the poor up by providing them knowledge inspired by  first hand experience 

I love the phrase, 
>"You just have to get on with the job of living!"

And we certainly need to. I am with you on the thought of just sleeping peacefully when time comes. Also heard others say the same, not wanting to live long if they will only become a *'burden'* to their families. I wish you great health and more strength to take good care of your mom. 

That is a hard choice to make when it comes to our loved ones and you are right about life being a job, especially when it comes to turbulations in our lives or when we have to make those hard decisions.
God bless you @ lizelle and your precious mom

**Sterkte**, there is no easy answer except know you are in our thoughts, look after each other.

oh dear Lizzie, so sorry to hear about your mum's condition. The road ahead is not going to get any easier, but you know that already, so stay strong and take good care of yourself if you need to take good care of your mum.  Do you still have the wonderful helper who was was looking after your mum previously?  Can she help with more hours to give you some breathing space?

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Yes, this is a difficult situation, and to have proper care given is very expensive. To car for an elderly person at home is also not easy, especially if a couple is still working full time. We are sitting in the same situation, where my father in law must be on oxygen full time and basically cannot leave the house. (My wife's brother is looking after him, but it makes it very difficult for him)

All of the best with your mom.

I really feel for you. My mother had vascular dementia and after my father passed away, she would ask every day where it was. She had type 1 diabetes and we cared for her in her own home, but it is really sad and takes a massive drain on you, both emotionally and physically!