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Being a mediator could be sweet as much as it could be bitter. Sometimes things just go smoothly and it all ends happy, while other times things get out of hand and anyone including the mediator could be hurt.

I remember when I had to meditate an issue between a friend of mine and his girlfriend. It was a relationship issue. 
It started when my friend went through the phone of his girlfriend and found some lewd chat she had with some some other boys. 
He got heartbroken and although he had no concrete evidence, he accused her girl of infidelity. 

The issue escalated and he had to stay away from her for a while. He was angry and said he didn't want to have anything to do with her again. 

She became devastated. She cried bitterly and nearly got insane. The issue had affected everything about her and she could no longer do anything. she loved him so much and didn't want to lose him. 

My friend on the other hand was really hurt too. The issue also affected him and he wasn't himself anymore. Although he tried to act like he was fine, I could tell that he still loved her and needed her back into his life.

They were both students and the fracas was also affecting their academics. Exams were fast approaching and I couldn't just sit back and allow them take the exams in such state so I had to step in and try to broker peace.


I was the only one who was close to the both of them so I had to do it. I met them individually and tried to talk things out with them. They both had their excuses and grievances and didn't seem to comply.

I advised them not to let the issue affect their school work because academics was the reason they came to the university. I advised each of them that if they couldn't settle, they should forget about the relationship and forge ahead with their lives.



They both agreed that it was the most reasonable thing to do.
Through dialoguing with each of them, I was able to resolve the crisis although they didn't agree to come back together.
 My friend particularly said he couldn't go back to her again and as such he just had to move on with his life.


I was happy for the both of them. I was happy that they had decided not let their relationship issues ruin their lives and academics. I was happy that they would both regain their sanity.

It seemed like everything was over but it didn't end there. I left the environment for a while and when I came back, I saw that they had reconciled and were now lovebirds once again. Everything was now good for them but somehow things turned against me. 

I began to hear rumors about how I was against their relationship and didn't want it to progress.  It was so ridiculous and annoying. It got me really pissed. I really didn't know what I did or said to warrant such remark but I had to let it all slide. 

I realized that they badly needed someone to put the blame on and I had made myself available. Ever since, I had decided not to mediate relationship matters. I wouldn't have someone using me to settle their issues again.  Once beaten twice shy .


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Thanks for stopping by. I hope you found this interesting. 

`Note that the real event didn't happen exactly as written above`