## Have you ever stopped to think about how many systems you are a member ...? Ask you yourself how to be happier? How to feel good about yourself, or how to make the right decisions?.

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## "But we do not always bear in mind the enormous influence that the systems to which we belong have in all this."

> And it is that you, like everyone else, for the mere fact of having
> been born in a family, for having joined a group of friends or for
> having enrolled in a given time to a certain organization, you have
> the right to belong to those systems.

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Regardless of what we have done or have stopped doing; No matter what happened, the First Order of Love is that we all have the right to belong to one or more systems. In your origins are the keys to develop your full potential. Say "No way" to this,  is as absurd as to be denied. And, as we will see, excluding someone from a system is always the source of conflicts, if not serious upheavals of all kinds.

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## Do you agree or something resonates in you, with this reflection?

## OUR SOURCE SYSTEM

***Bert Hellinger***, in developing his theory of ***Family Constellations***, discovered that there is a core that is a priority: The Origin System, composed of our parents and siblings, as well as our uncles and grandparents. Normally taking into account in our family constellation these relatives and we would have more than covered the quota.
However, it is not uncommon that this system we come from also receives a lot of influence from up to three or four previous generations, in those cases in which there was an ancestor of ours with a very powerful burden in our family: a great-grandfather on whom a great injustice was committed or a great grandmother who was excluded from the system, for example.
Events that can later generate many blockages and conflicts, because a descendant member, by fidelity, could be acquiring these charges and reproducing them in their destination. Take a minute to think how many great film stories and universal literature are based precisely on this same premise. 

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## Do you agree?

Just a few months ago I started to get interested in the theory of *** Family Constellations *** and although at times my intellectual condition completely distances me from it but if it managed to connect with my soul I begin to perceive from another plane, not the mental and at that moment these issues they begin to make sense ...

## EXCLUSIONS ALWAYS MARK OUR DESTINY

As if this is not enough, you should bear in mind that not only can members of your own family influence you. But, according to Hellinger, there are other elements external to it that are significant. We speak fundamentally of cases such as:
• "Abortions,"  The unborn has a place among the brothers, which is theirs and, therefore, it is important to grant them their place, both on the part of the parents and on the part of the brothers.
• Ex-partners: there are countless people who wonder how to be happy as a couple without realizing that if they want to have a new relationship after having previous relationships, it is very important that they have healed their emotions regarding their former partners.
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• Victim and perpetrator links:  for ex. related to the crimes of innocent victims during the World Wars. And it was these descendants who developed loyalty to the victims, which gave rise to tremendous emotional upheavals, and even illnesses.
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Knowing that, when we speak of exclusion, we do it of a person who has been rejected as the result of a deep resentment, a visceral hatred, or because it has been a source of shame or family derision.

## WAYS TO EXCLUDE

There are many ways to live but ways to exclude you can list two and help you identify them so that, the sooner you exclude them from your life:
• We can exclude the whole person: very common in cases of abusive parents, who are not talked about, excluded due to fear, resentment or shame ...

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• Or we can exclude their reality or their circumstances: who does not have a "black sheep" in the family whose lives seem destined to attract all the negativity? People who seem to have never done anything good in their lives and on which the rest of the family members deposit the origin of all the ills that afflict them. These cases give rise to tremendous exclusions and their descendants are blocked without knowing why, living the same patterns or situations of excluded members. For excluding-excluding links tend to be imitated and reproduced generationally.

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***This last reflexion and categorization, leads me to question other beliefs, those that tell us that each one is the creator of their destiny and that every human being is capable of moving forward and converting shadows into light ...
Personally, I do not know if my personal experiences convince me more of this last reflection, then I feel little compassionate with those who do not have the ability to realize and choose to stay out of the light, realizing this is not something I like but is what there is ... and I work on it, trying not to judge and choose to learn, as in my Yoga practices, accepting what I can do today without judging what I do not but trying to understand in order to grow.***

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