The journey of life does teach us a lot. Every step of life has a lesson for us. It's on us how we are going to take and work that out in our life. We need to interact with many people around us, some are our close ones and some are not so close. So today I am gonna write on three things. When you are in a relationship you would feel today's writing is a very common incident. You would also know how important is it to keep these in mind. I am thinking about whether to mix three of them together or separate those points. Let's move on.


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Quarrels in any relationship are very common. Small or big ones are not rare cases, you can't always have peace without these tiny disputes sometimes which leads to the big ones. Hehehe, part of the relationship, aren't they? So in those moments, this is very important to keep track of what we are replying to being angry about. These are the moments when we do speak many unwanted things which we were not to utter with a cool head. It was our anger that made us do so. In the end, these words do leave a big scar. I have experienced this a lot, when angry I did say a lot of things for which I used to regret later. But those were too late to repent.

Another one is not making a promise when you are happy. We do promise many things many times. Sometimes we do them at the wrong time when we don't really think they will be able to be fulfilled or not. When we are happy we should also control our heart not to make any promise which is beyond our means. Let's assume someone accepted your proposal and you are the happiest person in the world at that moment. Out of so much happiness, you promised to bring her the moon if she desires. Hahaha. Will it be ever possible?  Well, we do such kinds of promises sometimes when we are out of reality being too much happy. Need to control that habit too.

Another thing is that never make a decision when you are sad. During sadness, we are controlled by our emotions which sometimes lead us to wrong steps. What we can do about those decisions is to revise them later and make a final move with a cool head. I have seen many incidents of suicide and they are because of extreme sadness or whatever craziness we can call. Those heinous steps can't be taken with a mind of peace. They take such decisions when they are in an unstable state of mind. It's not about suicide only, applicable to any decisions.  So it is wise to not take any final decision when we are sad, we must recheck them when we are good for the best outcome.

Whatever there is saying that "Everything is easy to say but hard to do." Yeah, I do also agree with this. But the thing is that it is hard but not impossible, right? If we can train our-self slowly but gradually in these zones then I am sure we can have good control over ourselves in these moments. Truly speaking, I have encountered these problems a lot in my life. Some did incurable damaged too. Later I regretted a lot for that wrong steps. Alas! Those were too late to regret. Everything doesn’t have that undo option in life. Some do cost a lot to make that change. So I wish that we would be able to manage these things so that we don't need to regret them later.