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「生活」钢琴路上的矛盾与纠结 by mrspointm

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「生活」钢琴路上的矛盾与纠结
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在我们家，每天你一定会看到这样的场景。Sheya坐在钢琴前，手指摆放在琴键上，弹着不太熟练的乐曲，听起来断断续续，而她的妈妈就是我在旁边皱着眉头，时不时地指出她的错误，这时她一脸不耐烦，紧接着是我那拔高的音量训斥，她一阵沉默，最后哇哇大哭。

我对于她学习钢琴这件事情挺矛盾的，当初只是为了培养她对音乐的热爱，从中获取快乐和熏陶，并希望她在以后的生活学习中如遇到什么消极情绪或者压力之类的，可以找到一个排泄的方式，所以从始至终我也没让她去考级，这已经是降低要求了，我只跟老师说她只要学到能给看着谱子熟练弹奏歌曲就行啦！

可理想很丰满，现实很骨感。

Sheya从去年暑假开始接触钢琴，至今已经快一年了，到现在她对于钢琴是完全提不起兴趣，一味地觉得枯燥和辛苦，但凡当天上完钢琴课，让她回家练一下，她就特别抗拒，软磨硬泡让她弹一会儿，换来的又是我们之间的不愉快。

练琴这件事情本来就要日复一日的坚持，孩子太小很难主动去做，只有靠大人监督，认音也会慢很多，有些知识性的东西需要去识记，练习越多，肌肉记忆就有了，而且小时候学习的话，手型会比较漂亮，不像我现在，弹奏乐曲总是折指。

我有几次都狠下心来干脆就放弃吧，可老师给我的反馈却让我特别纠结，目前已经学完了两本小汤，进度比有些同龄的小朋友快。我们要是半途而废的话好可惜啊，之前的付出全都白费了，以后再拾起就更难了。

之前缴费的课上完了，老师让我们考虑一下再说，我回来跟点哥商量了一下，还是决定让她继续学。

每天保证半小时的练琴，老师说以后会教些流行曲子，这样可以边弹边唱，同时我也得尽量克制自己的情绪，耐心地纠正，不然亲子关系再度紧张，我们之间又要爆发“大战”。

在孩子学钢琴这条路上，我始终是矛盾的，一方面我在用力push她，另外一方面又怀疑自己做的这一切是都值得，不知道接下来还会遇到什么，万一哪天就突然喜欢上了钢琴呢，也只能是走一步看一步吧，想那么远也没用，永远都是计划赶不上变化。

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@davidke20 · 
我家沒有一個在音樂上有我一般的成就，但別人的娃，由我教出來的卻沒有一個比我差，百思不得姐 😞

多年後，我問我娃為啥就是不肯練琴？誰誰誰的娃都是你老爸我教出來的，為啥就差別那麼大？

原來，我讓誰誰誰的孩子練他們喜愛的小毛驢3遍，不喜愛的考試篇1遍。道理在於，讓孩子建立興趣，同時培養一個順便練考試篇的習慣。考試篇練得再順，在朋友面前也不過是在“對牛彈琴”，但那篇仿似沒用的小毛驢能在同學面前彈奏210鍵的速度，才能促動孩子對練習的激情。

我不是讓你這樣教導你的孩子，你不讓他考試已經很好了。不如考慮陪她一同練習，先找出哪一首歌她最喜歡的開始練。基礎有了，先讓他背起她最喜歡的曲子，比如C大調，客人來右手32132135312221235533221。如果熟悉了，左手配音51315131。沒有人說這樣練琴是正規，但如果這樣能突破“興趣”，那又何嘗而不為。

等她習慣了馬上再來一個乾坤大挪移，轉成C小調客人來🤣所有3變成#3，我包你女兒笑到地上打滾。

純屬個人思維。不喜略過。我家娃娃已經太大我才發現我教人的方法跟自己在家的督促有這麼大的分別。
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@iris085 · 
我家的刚琴失业很久了，我反正很闲，跟着拉叔的321353…开始学习下, 开启我的音乐梦想😀
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@davidke20 · 
居然冇啦啦收左个学生😮
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@mrspointm · 
真的可以呢 陶冶情操😁
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@mrspointm · 
谢谢拉叔的分享！看来是在这方面很有心得体会,没想到拉叔还懂音乐哪~滤镜又加了一层😁 

好的，我试试。其实我自己都很没有耐心，尤其是我指出错误的那一刻，她给我脸色，我就要上头。冷静想来，我是想让她通过学习弹钢琴陶冶情操享受音乐，应该是感到舒适比水平高低更重要！

>先讓他背起她最喜歡的曲子
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@davidke20 · 
加油嘿！记得，用她的年龄思维去“一同”练琴。
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@enzzykk · 
反复的练习总是枯燥的，她需要正反馈，可以邀请一些好朋友来家里听她弹琴，朋友夸奖她说不定就更有动力学了😂（一些孩子的虚荣心）
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@mrspointm · 
是的 小朋友还是得多夸夸
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@neithya · 
但有的时候不监督孩子的话，长大后小朋友有可能会说当初要是我父母强硬些或许结果不一样。图片中感觉小美女很认真，这么小很厉害了呀
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@mrspointm · 
是的 换个方式看看会不会坚持的久一点
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