「生活」婚姻是一场合作吗 by mrspointm

hive-105017 · @mrspointm · Jan 11 '21

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「生活」婚姻是一场合作吗

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最近在观看倪妮、刘诗诗主演的《流金岁月》，有一个片段令我印象深刻，是蒋南孙和李一梵见面时的对话。
 
李一梵是一个离过婚并带一个孩子的男人，经济条件不错，在认识了蒋南孙一段时间后开始后追求她。
 
他的追求不是用浪漫或细腻的方式，而是把蒋南孙约在咖啡厅，直接向她表明了自己在寻找适合过日子的人。
 
同时，李一梵还表述了自己的关于“婚姻合作精神”的观点，大概意思是他认为恋爱和婚姻虽然是感性的事情，但如果将“合作精神”放在这件事情上就会更顺利。
 
站在宏观的角度细细一想，李一梵的观点还真的不算错。婚姻和审美一样，没有绝对的标准，只有适合与不适合。
 
充满浪漫、甜蜜的婚姻就像园丁将情感注入花草树木，那就多了几分价值和意义，如果没有这些，像大城市的成片绿化也可以欣欣向荣。
 
追求不同，幸福的方向也就不同，也无所谓得与失、对与错。而对我个人来说，婚姻虽然需要“合作”，但这种合作也是需要基于情感的融合的。

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