If government gets involved it's always immoral, but there's nothing wrong with monogamy, that's between the people themselves.
Also don't bring in human nature, cause it has nothing to do with human nature, basically nothing we see humans behave like has much to do with human nature, it's conditioning. human nature is that humans are programmable.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LQCU36pkH7c

The person who wrote this blog doesn't seem to understand anything about the battle between beta-males collectively and the alpha-males. Women are drawn to hypergamy. Monogamy is an institution created by the beta-males to compete against the alpha-males. The alpha-males (elite) have been successfully employing mind-control (via mass-media) to fool the beta-males into abandoning their strategy of collective enforcement of monogamy (and control over the hypergameous females).

I see a lot of guys upvoting the idea of multiple wives in an open relationship, but have they actually considered that means their wives falling in love with other guys and fucking them. So that means (unless you are into destroying your wives' bodies with birth control pills) very likely your wives pregnant and needing your financial support to raise children fathered by other men.

So if we are actually talking about multiple wives who are not given reciprocal freedom, then you will need to be supreme alpha-male if you expect to women to put up with this asymmetric arrangement, unless you are using some means of preventing the women from knowing or acting on their choices, such as some form of mind control (religion, cult, etc) or isolation. It is not realistic for most men to even be entertaining such a delusion.

Most men have enough trouble just maintaining exclusivity over one women, so that he isn't raising the kids of another man. Women are naturally drawn to hypergamy, so the idea of a monogamous relationship was created by the beta-males so their genetics would be competitive with the alpha-males. Otherwise, the alpha-males would impregnate all the females and the beta-males would be stuck raising all these children they didn't father.

The alpha-males typically don't have wives. They fuck 'em and leave 'em. Perhaps some very wealthy few maintain concubines.

I think that people should have the right to chose for themselves, that includes this as well.

Great post @msgivings. This is very true for me. I am in a monogamous relationship right now and I struggle with that concept. It makes me feel trapped. I love her though and have been very open with how I feel but she does not feel the same way. 

I have been very repressed because of the concept of monogamy and how its been push onto everyone. When I was young, I was given the impression that men who sleep with multiple women are bad.  Now I feel like the more I denie  myself the freedom of being with who ever I want in any moment, the more I dull myself inside. At this point I really dont know what to do cause I love the person I'm with but i just want the freedom to be with whoever I want.

I can't believe that this fucking bot got me in an argument with my girlfriend over my comment and its not even human,fuck me.

>Researches show some ethnographic evidence that suggest that human nature is adapted to an ancestral mating system that was predominately polygamous (one husband, multiple wives).

Do you support polygamy but not [polyandry](http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/02/when-taking-multiple-husbands-makes-sense/272726/)?

In effect monogamy was produced and idealized as a way of producing guilt in the individual which is a powerful manipulative tool for churches and to some extent governments.

Doing things we're not inclined to do by our nature is what makes us civilized. Do you also plan on advocating for every other impulse people are born with like violence, deception, jealousy? Should everyone just impose their will on everyone else just because they're born with the inclination to do so? Should alcoholics and overeaters simply reframe their weakness as strength?

I get what you're saying in your article, but I wouldn't call monogamy a lie.  I would call the social conditioning that people grow up and *must* get married and be with that person until death do you part more of a lie.   It's all about choices and those choices should be made not based on societal and cultural expectations, but what's going to work for them.  However, with that choice, comes responsibilities and consequences.  As long as the person is truthful and honest about that, and can live with their choice and feel good about it, then they can have what they want.

I understand the Steemit concept of "rewarding content creators for producing good content" and that's great and all... but then I read $2,200+ valued articles like this and suddenly I want to slam my head in a very thick, lethally-heavy door.

Once upon a time, there was a really dumb hot chick who went to college. Often instead of studying, she would frequent the bars with the mission to win the attention of all the fuck-worthy dudes. She would hook up with guys regardless of their relationship status, regardless of the evil looks from the other women, simply because she loved being desired. She also loved breaking rules, because in her mind - rules were made to be broken. At first, it was a thrill - free drinks, fun times, great sacks, rinse, repeat. She thought of herself as a strong minded woman with little obligation to any one individual. However, before her college experience came to a close, Ms. Hottie finds herself with a few STDs, a bad reputation, a low GPA, and an even lower self esteem. Our polyamorous heroine comes to a crossroads - does she continue to make reckless choices? 

We all know at least one.

I feel guilty for even accepting that this post may have a point! Please God don't let my wife learn of my sneaky thoughts!

WHO FLAGGED THIS POST!? I'm putting 10SBD that this person has been cheated on in the last 4 weeks. Any takers?

Here is my problem, I am not going to put in extra effort to provide for someone who I know is going to be sexual with other partners. I dont just  mean money. I would fail to provide anything besides sex. Not only that it would leave many women in the "who's this kids daddy" situation. No one likes guessing  and who wants to pay for DNA all the time?

So are you advocating we screw with any one we lustfully desire and be unfaithful as possible???

I have a hard enough time dealing with sharing my time and thoughts with one girlfriend, I would probably go completely mental to have to deal with 2 or more; unless they are just pseudo-pieces of meat just there to fulfill my sexual cravings - let's not kid ourselves this is what this post is mainly about the rest is just a bunch of boloney.

If you want sex with a lot of people just go to a sex club, it's not that hard to figure out this day in age - is it??

I see some contradictions in what you say, the most clear for me is that you first take one argument to say something then you destroy that argument that is supposed to support your point. See:
- "Just like gays have a right to express love to whom they choose, I am of the opinion that people who do not find monogamy part of an ideal relationship goal, be allowed to set the rules that suites them"
- "human monogamy will forever remain what it is- a LIE!"

Monogamy is not a lie for me and for most of people. Perhaps it is a lie to you and people that share your point of view... guess you mean that right?

Also you talk about other species, like birds or lions. Every species got different ways to survive, also there are some breaking the rules, but in general all animal societies are ruled by a common norm they have hard written into their cross-generation memory.

Yet, why do you compare yourself to another species? That only opens the debate and sounds more like an excuse...

Lifetime monogamy to me is almost like a penitence.

I have been through much heartache due to my inability to embrace monogamy. I just do not believe in it. I love people too deeply to limit myself to one love forever. The woman I live with knows this. She doesn't like it though. I get kicked out every once in awhile. Thanks for writing.

Monogamy is a challenge, do you choose love or lust? Who has convinced us that sex is mandatory like brushing teeth in a relationship. life moves in a cycle as do we. When times occur where sex is not on the agenda in relationship we feel somehow that it is wrong? That is the subliminal messaging of capitalists ads telling us that if we are not lusting there is something wrong in our lives (after products, objects and people). We are a product of our over-sexed society. Sex in the long run with robots is not fulfilling so if we cheat and suddenly have sex again we imagine that is love and dump our long term loyal partner for a newer sports ride. The challenge is not to be influenced by our corrupt society and live according to our deepest values and soul knowledge, after all we will all die eventually and physics say there is a life after death...

If you truly love some one, then let her/him be free to do whatever. What's up with having restraints in a relationship? It only causes pain!

I dont know who you are, but the way you are conveying these concepts
is frankly, brilliant.
Congratulations for the quality of your thinking and writing

Sure, free love.

Then children.

What then?

I await your answer.

Yours truly,

A married man of 24 years, who can't figure out how free love, as much as he might want to partake of it, wouldn't destroy his family and, if adopted by a sufficient number of others, civilization.

I heard an interesting story once about a poly couple who had several kids. Sometimes the man would look after the kids while his wife was out for an all night date with everything included in the company of an exciting stranger. Other times it was the other way around. When the children asked where the other parent was they where told "Mommy / Daddy is out on a journey". The word "journey" gave rise to thoughts of fun and adventure and discovery  Which was not so far from the truth. As the children got older they were told about the benefits of freedom to enjoy quality time with different people as long as honesty and respect is maintained. Therefore more details could be revealed without harm to the psychology of the children. In this way the family delevoped trust and open mindedness in their relations. Over time they learned more about freedom in relationships based on quality time together instead of ownership with fear of losing control. I am not sure if everything  was as rosy as it this but the story does make me smile :)

Having sister wives sounds like a huge headache to me.

It's equally a lie to say monogamy isn't the right thing for some people. Pushing your personal belief upon others is equally wrong. Plainly put the government should have no ability to intervene in the decisions of and transactions between informed, consenting adults.

'Do as thou wilt shalt be the whole of the law' - Aleister Crowley

I personal can't "love" two different people at once, but I personal have no problems with other people do what they please, unless they don't physical touch me

That post just remind me Milan Kundera : "The best progressive ideas are those that include a strong enough dose of provocation to make its supporters feel proud of being original, but at the same time attract so many adherents that the risk of being an isolated exception is immediately averted by the noisy approval of a triumphant crowd."