Settling fights or quarrels has never been my thing right from time especially when it involves people who were once in love or people who were once very cool with each other before. I try not to get involved to avoid becoming an enemy to one or to the both persons involved in the quarrel because I know if I involve myself, I'll definitely take sides with the one I love most.. It takes grace not to take sides while being a middle man between two persons quarrelling.. *Trust me!*

But somehow recently, I broke the rules and it has painted me as the bad one😑
**The middle man has now become an enemy to both**

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This is currently happening like I said earlier.. In the place where I live, it happens that the two ladies living in my compound do the same kind of skill which is *"hair making"*  They were once cool when they moved into the apartment, but along the line they started having issues for no reason. For a better explanation, let me use *lady A* and *lady B*..

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Lady A used to be my hairstylist even before we became neighbors, So due to the issues she's having with lady B, she gets to paint the other lady black with her gossip each time we get to meet.. *You know what I mean*
I didn't know what her intention was earlier but I kept on telling her to overlook those things and be at peace with her whenever she tells me her gossips. 

Now, Lady B also saw the attitude Lady A was giving her and complained to me about it. I also told her to ignore and move on with her life..
She normally comes to my room for us to gist and all and I was also very careful not to let out the gossips coming from lady A to lady B or the complaints coming from Lady B to Lady A.. But one day the topic of our gist was about lady B because she did something very bad that everyone in the compound didn't like.. *Lady A can do and undo shaa oo!* Anyways that is a gist for another day☹️

I got pissed  at lady A and started reducing the way I used to flow with her little by little...*She wasn't remorseful at all for what she did and she never cared*. Lady B was more than cool with the way I withdrew a bit from her at least she has me on her side now.. *I can't be a friend to her enemy right?*
So along the line I saw that the way we flowed each and also with the way I patronized her regularly would cause more problems for the both of them and even for me especially for the fact that we live in the same compound. I just had to be neutral with both parties but I guess it was already late because Lady A was already having the malice mindset for I and lady B. 

I'm sure Lady B noticed my cold attitude and was wondering what could be the problem.. So I made my hair one time, and she just concluded in her mind that I've started patronizing Lady A again and not her.. *heeeee!*
This became the turning point of the whole matter.. Lady B stopped talking to me.
More like keeping malice with me now.. What even shocked me the more was when Lady B posted Lady A pictures on her WhatsApp status praising and adoring for being a true friend to her😳
*What part of being neutral didn't she understand? If only I continued being neutral how I was from the beginning.. It was already late after all!*

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Funny how they are now best of friends in the compound while me as the middle man has now become their enemy. I wonder how they even did it ..
But anyways, I have learnt to be neutral and not take sides when two persons are quarrelling. Infact, when such matter arises again, I'll try as much as possible to avoid becoming a middle man. Never again!

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