Plenty of, dare I say it, positive comments. Where have all the "think-positive" adherents scuttled off to? Perhaps they are detoxing from the negativity.

Anyway, well said. One deep problem about *any* doctrine that says "think only X" is that it hides the full spectrum of experiences. Once one limits one's experiences, then one is easy to indoctrinate - *then* the way out becomes harder.

I often use the analogy that the next mountain peak can only be reached by first going down into the valley.

In a crisis I always image the worst scenario possible. It never happens, so by thinking the worst, the situation is more tolerable because things are never as bad as they could be. Most of the things that we worry about don't actually happen. Which just goes to show that being optimistic works. 

It doesn't cost any money to think positively and doesn't require the guidance of any self-help books. The truth is that unfortunate things happen, life throws curveballs, and unpredictability reigns supreme, but just as researchers have shown that the physical act of smiling and laughing can improve one's mood, so too can optimism improve the mood of your entire life. As a recent fortune cookie informed me (just as I prepared myself to have a Sinus removed from my nose, I might add), "It is better to be an optimist and proven a fool than to be a pessimist and be proven right." And I'd have to agree. What's the harm in seeing the good in a world/situation you can't control anyway?

Th above two paragraphs are just two examples on how I handle things positively in my life. However, there can be some bad consequences ignoring the negative side of the things all the time. 

>Adopting positive pattern of thought only, inherently causes us to ignore other parts of our reality.

>if you are insisting on thinking all the time you better think happy thoughts

That's the most foolish thing anybody can do. 

Positive thinking should always being about making the very best of what you’ve got, and working towards change in those aspects of life which are actually changeable. <b>Think realistically positive</b> and be aware the possible outcomes of the situation you are in the near future.

>In the next article (will be published tomorrow) –The benefits of adopting a more holistic approach to life, one that is beyond "good vs bad"; "light vs. dark".

Waiting to see what you have got next.

Wow cool times Yes your post. I love ride it @nomad-mag

That way of thinking is not right. If people do not allow themselves to think about problems or sadness or other forms of emotion other than happiness then such attitudes will not help at all.
 
In difficult times in our lives, all we need to do is let ourselves grieve and feel the various emotions, because it is a natural part of the healing process.

Well said @nomad-magus... 
I some how agree with you but on other hand I going to disagree with you. 
When I agree with you so it is quite clear to you that what is my point of view ... but on another hand while i am disagree and why?
Dear friend, life is so previous and we have to make it more valuable by our daily routine which involves all our activities whether it is relationship, office work, our journey, our spare time etc. We have to enjoy all the time happily and effectively. 
If we have any problem in anyone of that mentioned above we have to compromise on it as you mentioned the story of Daniel, if she wants to have a boy friend, who tell her that this one is suitable for her why she not think before act, if we decide wisely it will never happened with us.
Dear I tell this because  in my society we have to decide who is best for whom. As a elder member of a family, they have to check the character of the couple and the family background of both the family. Wether they can live with each other or not. If the elder feel that something is wrong they refuse to marry these couple. 
The reason behind this boundation is that the teenagers are not well mature that they can decide his / her life partner. So we have very little experience of divorce. Because they are well judged by both the families. 
Now the question of love has question mark... so we don't like love marriages because in our society maximum amount of love marriages are converted into divorce, so we don't like to have love marriage. 
Other question that how the couple live togather if they have no love before marrying? 
I going to tell you in this answer that maximum couple see each other on the very first day of their marriage for the first time... but when they meet together they fall in love and this love is endless for their life.... 
So I think positivity is more important than negativity. If you have some time we will more discuss this topic privately. I have allot of arguments to convene you to positivity. 

Thanks for your time to read this reply.... 
Forgive me for any spelling or sentence mistakes.

This post is very useful for me. Thanks for the great post.

I would like first to thank you giving your opinion about having a positive thinking. Positive thinking is how you choose to view things that are happening in your life and understanding that there are a good thing that happened without ignoring the pain and the darkest side of the event. For example you mentioned the story of a woman who get divorced,  I am very sorry for her but she will have to continue with her life, so she will need to make some homeworks to make less mistakes and hoping a more suitable person will come to her life. There is a reason for everything,the life is continuing , the question is how do you take it, you can stay stuck complaining or you can believe what happened this is the best things that could happen, you had a lesson to learn, a mission to achieve, now it is time to go on. You mentioned in your post that people are expecting from the universe to something to happened like the "secret" or other books, when you are expecting from something you are doing actions towards it and seeing it happen everywhere, the answer is definitely not sitting and waiting for things to come without your involvement.

I agree with you and i do not agree with your statement.
Every one had thier own opinion.But my saying is not seeing evil of anything and not only look at it.
See both the way.
But think Always good.
Beause good thinking then it will be good.
Thank you momad magus.

*Really great work done and in my opinion you are right because if we push ourselves towards two words that is Positive Thinking then we are misguiding us because you always think about these two words because you are facing negative situations and without understanding the root cause of negative situations we are running towards positive thinking and yes you will get positivity for some moment but you will going to move towards the negative aspect because you didn't worked on that, means to control an situation we have to control that situation so don't divide your thoughts into positive and negative instead in my opinion keep it everything neutral because that way you can explore all the aspects of life. Thanks for sharing and wishing you an great day. Stay blessed. 🙂*

Balance is perhaps what matters most. That we acknowledge *all* aspects of our feelings — good, bad, sad, glad, angry, euphoric. 

Somewhere along the way, it seems that Humans lost their way. There are sayings such as "Misery loves company" and so forth, but where are the positive versions of these? Perhaps the positivity movement merely started as a counterpoint to the tendency to see "the little black cloud" in an otherwise cloudless sky? 

As you suggest, excess focus on the positive does us no favors. But perhaps a broader truth is that *any* lack of balance — that is, taking *any* extreme excessively to heart — isn't particularly good for one's mental health and general feeling of well-being in life.

Judgment can be a slippery slope. I believe Humanity is already experiencing that, in ways we don't think about. "Negative" or "sad" feelings are increasingly scorned upon — and increasingly classified as "conditions" for which treatment is needed. It is an unfortunate process of "medicalizing" emotions that previously were considered simply a normal part of the spectrum of human experience. Once upon a time, someone might have been described as having a "melancholic temperament;" and they would go off and write maudlin poetry for six months. Now, they are told they are "mentally ill" and forced to take various pharmaceuticals, as a result of which their creativity is lost in a cloud of altered chemistry. 

And that's a great shame. But what do I know? I'm just a little black cat!

=^..^=

This is the first time I’ve heard someone actually have new way of thinking besides positive thinking. It makes sense , because only seeing the world as positive and negative will indeed make us feel wretched about ourselves if “negative thoughts” come in the mind. This is a very good write up and I’m looking forward to the next one where you explain this new wholistic approach ! Well written !!!

Great post

Strength in belief is what matters.. If someone is quite unsure about whst he is doing but believes  in himself he may or may not be right but still he will be strong to believe what he is doing. On the contrary if someone is cent percent right but still doesn't believe in himself he may end up somewhere where he doesn't wanted to be.... 

I might have been awkward with wordings. Try to understand whst i was trying to say @nomad-magus. If not then will give a try tomorrow. Anyways i also got to comment about what dream meant. I will also do that tomorrow. I m quite tired and very much dizzy.

i tried adopting a positive thinking approach and even left positive quotes around my home to help but in the end i choose to ignore too many other aspects that have negative effects but found my life was getting very dull and uninteresting. my glass is always half full but that is all only half you have to leave room for emptiness other wise you havnt enjoyed lifes contents.

Amazing traveling @nomad-magus

think positive and observant in focus @nomad-magus

Complete along with didactic story, before I would disclose lie in the region of why not heart raw also weak is better. condition Danielle, daughter popular your example, accepts her mother’s counsel then she finds her feel affection for of her energy soon, she would befall extraordinarily thankfull headed for her mom. except what did you say? happens rider she doesn’t? numerous epoch sure judgment ego becomes weak minded also maybe regular greedy. proviso it doesn’t move her way, the method she is all set next to her “only” affirmative accepted wisdom than it wish finally finish now depression, than en route for drug user... I constantly participation “hope in favor of the greatest with organize on behalf of the worst” You definately say on the way to reason positive, however, you enjoy toward breathing dressed in truth in the same way as well.

Thank you for your article made me more understand about positive and negative thinking

very nice. I like all of your stuff because your content type is very educational

Very well made content, so inspiring and mind openning. Thank you sir. I will be following you to keep up with your posts.

very inspire post....keep sharing for us :)

Great and educational story, or I would say story about why not being naive and weak is better. If Danielle, daughter in your example, accepts her mother’s advice and she finds her love of her life soon, she would be very thankfull to her mom. But what happens if she doesn’t? Many times positive thinking person becomes weak minded and perhaps even greedy. If it doesn’t go her way, the way she is prepared by her “only” positive thinking than it will eventually end in depression, than to drug user... I always say “hope for the best and prepare for the worst” You definately have to think positive, however, you have to live in reality as well.

Absolutely, also one should prepare himself to deal with consequences if negative will happen but in a happy way...this outlook  won't bother us in the end...

Wow amazing

People who use positive thinking as a defense are trying not to feel anxious when they should, Some amount of anxiety is often necessary for motivating us to act in certain situations. Covering up this anxiety with a cheery face can actually make our situation worse because we’re less likely to address the underlying issue. But the sooner we take action, the less likely anxiety is to interfere with whatever it is we’re trying to do.

Thoughts really convert into reality, one should always be positive, think positive, however people say but they dont implement it in their life.

**Adopting a positive thought pattern, inherently causes us to ignore the other parts of our reality.** Frankly, I am astonished by this phrase. This is a dialectic that I did not realize before. I used to write about; "throw negative thoughts into place". It's as if the negative thoughts are just plagues of the mind, and must be discarded. yes, it turns out I ignore reality. A holistic approach (this is a keyword). Really, today's intellectual wisdom. Great.

I agree, while it's good to keep your spirits up, you should never ignore what doen't fit into that positive pattern. There can be no light without darkness, no good without evil, that's how balance works. "Bad" things should not be ignored, but addressed and dealt with.

It is true positive thinking is linked to both the opposite ends but it is better to always be on the positive side coz there is nothing to be on negative one ....

I agree with you that positive thinking won't get us anywhere just by thinking, but why don't u  add that we need to ACT, thinking about anything won't get us anywhere, you could have all the information, knowledge and positivity in the world, but if you don't do what you want to do and get better at it day by day by day you won't get anywhere. So this post isn't about positive or negative. You just ignored the second part of thinking in general - acting. 
Judgemental attitude can't be connected with positive thinking - Feeling sorry for ourselves isn't positive thinking, and I don't know why you even talk about it. It's negative, because if you are down then you need to extract the lesson of why are you on the ground and get up stronger than you were - that's positive. 

Disclaimer: this is not a personal debate, nor an attack on you, I do not know who are you, I just stumbled upon your post and I would like to discuss further, maybe you change my perspective on life, who knows...

Nice post keep it up, thanks for sharing.

One of my teachers talks about 'leaning into feeling' - that's what I think about everytime my brain begins to think about things that aren't typically construed as 'positive' - grief, anxiety, etc. I try to be compassionate and experience it as part of the spectrum of experiences of feelings that this body has. They pass much quicker that way. And gratitude is a good one too. Good post.

oh and Rumi again says it best for me: 

THE GUEST HOUSE

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.

Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond. 

– Jelaluddin Rumi,