![C7033F2F-6714-41EC-8D06-4ECADC19B90C.jpeg](https://s2.loli.net/2023/04/02/oaHXA2qnuymT1Jr.jpg) 最近因为沉迷上网课不可自拔,下午的时光都埋头在B站,以至于看文码字都不那么积极。一本中长篇小说《撒野》看了好久,周末才看到二人远距离恋爱。 蒋丞自高考倒数100天开始,除了备战考试以外,就开始为过一天朝夕相处的日子就少一天的现状开始焦虑。踩着ddl才买车票,再多的欢愉里都存着分离的不安。 顾飞陪着蒋丞到学校以后,看得出两人都打不起任何精神。不想办手续、不想沿着学校附近看看、不想谈论分别这件事,一想到这些就焦虑到呕吐。 这段文字看得我感同身受,我谈的绝大多数恋爱都是远距离的异地恋。那种即将要见面的兴奋期待感,以及数着日子要离别的焦虑,不禁感叹太太遣词造句太精准了。 抛开见面和离别这两个点,我是很喜欢远距离恋爱的。说这句话并不是逞强,而是对比过N段恋爱以后的结果——我实在太爱自由了,黏糊在一起的恋爱让我觉得疲惫。 当然了,在远距离恋爱中我并不是没有诉求的。我需要双方的信任感,需要忠诚和坦诚,需要大家朝着相同的方向努力。在此基础上,我可以是个很完美的恋人。 生病了我有家人朋友陪着去看病(自己去也完全可以)、不会忘记带伞、自己也会做饭、工作不顺心也可以同姐妹聚会吐槽…谈个恋爱没必要把自己变成废物,对吧? 然而,远距离恋爱的弊端也是显而易见的,尤其是遇到与自己步调不那么一直的对象。 如果对方让我有一种不可控的感觉,那我会迫切地想抓住对方,这种紧绷的关系本来就不是良性的。某一方突然有了别的方向想要放弃,被留下的那个会很无助。 [写到这里,我又想起了2018年那段失败的恋爱,一声叹息…] 这点我就很感激遇到了程老师,性格需求同步,我内心一直很peace。我和他虽然都在杭城,但不是时时处在一起。一般晚上会有半小时左右的通话,白天抽空发短信就行。 你经历过远距离恋爱么?又是如何看待远距离恋爱的呢? [All Image Source](https://www.pexels.com/photo/white-light-forming-heart-on-black-surface-3633016/) (本篇完) ———————— 喜欢影视剧、美食和旅行的天秤座80后妹纸,喜欢一切新奇温暖的事物 如果你喜欢我的文章,欢迎留言与我交流
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dumping | 0 | 108,428,712 | 100% | ||
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forykw | 0 | 15,563,761,960 | 2% | ||
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mrpointp | 0 | 181,382,237,718 | 50% | ||
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cn-book | 0 | 402,310,281 | 100% | ||
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cn-movie | 0 | 191,976,453 | 100% | ||
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