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【Vicky's 影评】《准许》：开放式关系没那么滥交，它比传统两性关系更有原则#3 by nostalgic1212

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【Vicky's 影评】《准许》：开放式关系没那么滥交，它比传统两性关系更有原则#3
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<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important;text-align: center"><strong>「开放式关系中的注意事项」</strong></p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important">如果我们听说一对情侣/夫妇选择了开放式关系，最先冒出在我们脑海中的八成是“这也太自由了吧”的想法。事实上，在建立开放式关系之前参与者们大多进行长时间、仔细的讨论，内容涵盖了交往方式、身体健康、约会、安全信息分享广度和深度等诸多方面。</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important">从这个方面来说，开放式关系比一对一关系更依赖于参与者之间的信任、坦诚。</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important"><strong>1、充分有效的沟通并达到共识</strong></p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important">彼此感情最稳定的阶段，是建立开放式关系的最佳时期。身边有些在一对一关系中挣扎想向开放式关系转变的朋友，其中不乏<strong>对目前关系不满意以图改变</strong>的人。在我看来这并不是一个好的时机，更像是纠结于“继续交往”还是“果断分手”下的一种逃避态度。</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important">影片中的威尔，就是被动接受最好的例子。在他看来满足自己深爱的未婚妻最迫切的要求就是对她爱意的表现，却忽略了自己其实并不接受（认可）这种相处模式。在整个过程中他对开放式关系并不了解，只是一步一走的紧追未婚妻的步伐，这也成为后面两人没有继续走下去的导火线。</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important"><strong>2、坦诚是最重要的</strong></p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important">这次的受访者中，“坦诚”二字是她们说的最多的。其中一位朋友更加直言不讳地说，选择了开放式关系对她来说就是选择了诚实（坦诚）。</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important">在出去约会前，她会告诉男友自己什么时间去哪里和谁出去约会。与《完美陌生人》中视手机为毒蛇猛兽不同，他们两人的手机都是可以让对方随意滑开的。周末或者假期的时候，他们会在对方面前打开探探、陌陌等软件“物色”人选，彼此还会为对方提出参考意见。</p>
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 <li style="margin: 0.5em 0px">Movie URL: (<a href="https://www.themoviedb.org/movie/390059-permission">https://www.themoviedb.org/movie/390059-permission</a>)</li>
 <li style="margin: 0.5em 0px">Critic: AA</li>
 <li style="margin: 0.5em 0px">영화 URL: (<a href="https://www.themoviedb.org/movie/390059-permission">https://www.themoviedb.org/movie/390059-permission</a>)</li>
 <li style="margin: 0.5em 0px">별점: AA</li>
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谢谢新手村

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