Trust me @oluwatobiloba, the guy is tired of the lady's company. I know that feeling. My personal advice is that she should sit him down and trash things out. He might not want to say that he is tired of the relationship but the lady should find an alternative before it becomes late. The guy is seeing someone else apart from her.

Very engaging show. Keep it up
; Rome wasn't built in a day. For sure, masses are coming; also the steem. Wishing you the very best.

@eurogee

I dont think going through gadgets should be any problem if you are not hiding anything but at the same time why will my gf go through my chats. Does that mean she does not trust me. 



As for the person that has reduced the calling. It might just be that he is busy or that he was calling frequently at first because he just had her. Now he is back to his normal self. At the same time it can also mean that he is no longer interested. I wish you luck

Coming around late... Gosh, the weekend has being boring and dull.
## My gadget is mine
Yes i use that sub topic to cap my explanation. If we can communicate verbally why should i check your gadget. I have live to understand that the more one tends to intrude into a partner privacy without his/her approval the more problem/heartbreak one get. My answer is **NO!**. 

## Miss X the lover
Hmm... Just ignore this man, make sure you stop calling. Look happy everyday, look beautiful each moment, if you are the picture type then snap more picture and upload them often. My man will die of jealous and if he wants you in his life, he will crawl back begging. 

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Keep up the good works friend @oluwatobiloba.

You deserve all the success @oluwatobiloba and I hope more blessing will come to you. Keep posting good stories :)

To herny9ja I will keep on love you till the end of time u mean the best to me love you

You are such a beauty and this is becoming more captivating

Am happy that mr lover feels better
The audience are very good with advice,am learning

wow @oluwatobiloba these is really great, To be honest I enjoy these series of yours and am gonna keep following every Saturday!!!!!
Keep the good work going.....

On the subject of going through your partners gadgets. I think it not something to be considered, once you begin to consider this then  I'm sure you are beginning to have elements of distrust. 
It's understandable that sometimes we cannot but help the urge to go through our partners gadgets. But I have learnt that it is best not to because what we don't know cannot hurt us.

On the issue of miss x. I think 4 months is too short a period for a relationship to be experiencing these sort of issues. If you ask me,  miss x should cut her losses and move on because non of the above stated reasons are enough for him to act the way he is acting. Unless there there is something else she isn't saying. 

*Just my opinion*

Much love to @oluwatobiloba for bringing this idea to together. It's an opportunity learn from the experiences of others. God bless you

@oluwatobiloba, I love this series. You obviously have a heart for people especially when it comes to matters of the heart. It won't be a bad idea to start thinking of running some sort of NGO. You definitely have what it takes.

Let me share my thoughts as per going through your partner's phone. I have been married for 12 years now and I have learnt a thing or two. I have learnt that it's best to respect your partner's privacy just as you want yours to be respected. No matter how in love 2 people are, they can't be everything to their partner and because humans are inveterately social, we always find someone to fill our empty spaces. If you go through your partner's phone and find a conversation with one of such, no matter how innocent it is, the natural tendency is for you to build a mountain out of a mole hill out of jealousy or insecurity. So it's best to leave their gadgets alone. However, if you have a nasty filling or a premonition that something is wrong, please face it head on by talking to your partner and asking to go through their phone to confirm. This may sound simple but is actually a very tough delicate process which requires the doubting party to be very calm and very smart. I could go on but let me not bore you...lol

As for Miss X, one needs to know a few things about the guy to answer her questions properly. What does he do?  is he really very busy? What is he facing at work and in School? Could it be that he has serious challenges that she is oblivious of? If he has legitimate reasons for the reduction in calls, she has to let him know clearly that communication and quality time are her major love languages and the fact that she isn't getting enough makes her feel unloved. No good man will hear that he is inadvertently hurting his partner without making a conscious effort to change. If he is however nonchalant at her observation or angry about being called out on it, I would suggest that she dust herself off and move on. It is a horrible thing to stay with someone who doesn't really care about you. 

As per his issues regarding their age difference, she has got to check herself. Respect is to a man, what love and mushiness is to a woman. Could it be that Miss X is being unknowingly disrespectful? If he needs to feel celebrated and respected and she isn't being either, believe me, he'll move on pretty soon in search of both with someone else. She could seek an impartial 2nd opinion from the guy's close and honest friend. If it so happens that she isn't doing anything wrong, it could be that the guy is insecure and insecure men are dangerous husbands. They are  often the ones who end up beating their wives or competing with them creating very unhealthy relationships. 

I hope I have been able to help a little and not confused the young lady further...lol.

Concerning checking of your partner gadget, Believed me if your partner is being holy enough. I don't see crime in checking that, but if you know is not trustworthy person don't do that to avoid high blood pressure.


For miss x my advice for her is that, she should have it at the back of her mind whatever belongs to her will ever be her own forever and don't have this mindset of without this thing, you won't be able to cope. Don't attached your life to one particular thing. Lastly don't allow your emotion to run you down. 

@oluwatobiloba thanks for good work you are doing for the general public. God will reward you with more sbd and steem power.

Another episode of let talk with @oluwatobilola another good topic today issue has ranging in the heart of many young lady to marry a man age in a relationship is not a barrier to me when the age is not that long i can marry the person but on today issue i feel the man doesn't not love the girl again because the man has know that is older than the girl so the young girl should move on with his life and find another man that is interested in her and love her either is older than him or not

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Yes ooo.. Big sissy, i have come this time.. You accused me of not contributing in the last episode so i have decided to restructure my self. Ok first about the checking of gadget thing, i feel it is a bad thing because it is when you begin to dig up into things, you begin to get unnecessary information that might just bring suspicions in a relationship. For instance, there is this my female friend that kips checking her boy friend's text message. When she sees stuffs she is not supposed to see, she begins to cry and this only hurts her more. On the second issue, I hate it when a girl is foolishly in love. I hate it when you are not even married to a man and u just accept some certain things hoping he will change. As a lady, if i notice the guy is begining to use his age as a superiority advantage, i might just backout before it is too late. I was a guy that gives attitude to girls that i know are really in love with me. I was always on the top of the food chain because temmy was always calling me, texting me and i was always giving her excuses. The moment she stopped, i started feeling her impact and i had to come back to my senses and this time, i was really begging for her love. I think the lady can try the same method. If the guy really loves her then he should feel the absence and go back to his senses.. But if not, i dont think that guy is meant for her. Thanks.

Finally somebody gave me a shoutout.. I will always repeat this.. ** I am not gay but i love you so much @official-hord** It is just me and you against the whole world.

Big sissy.. I see you @ the top

The moment you decide to get married, everything me becomes us. Therefore every friend, gadget or whatever in an ideal situation shouldn't be hidden. In marriage, if a partner decides to start hiding, something is definitely wrong somewhere. Na d marriage we sef dey! Before marriage, you can be possessive but after marriage, if there is no skeleton in the cupboard, nothing should be hidden and if there is a skeleton in the cupboard, that marriage never existed and should be dissolved. 
Miss X, if the young man has suddenly become busy, what happened? Maybe he has got what he wanted and feels he doesn't need you again. You know what? Stop calling up and down with credit you should use for constructive things. Love no be by force. Let him go. Your own will come. It's obvious he has moved on since and you need to do the same my dear sister.

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