Very interesting. I think we have been programmed to believe monogamy is the only way and in my opinion at our primal core that is not what we were designed for. In the same way I feel like I could only be in a monogamous relationship myself out of jealousy, which to be honest is probably from being told all this time that if someone isnt 1 on 1 with you then they are a bad person. Very good read though!

An open relationship isn't a real one

I stumbled across an eye opening article about a year ago:
http://i0.wp.com/polyamorydiaries.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/09/img-why-men-cheat.jpg?w=400
http://polyamorydiaries.com/why-men-cheat/
It is wonderful and should be read by everyone. Even those that have no intention of breaking away from monogamy.

This path  lead me to read the book "Sex at Dawn" by Christopher Ryan.
That's a great read as well! It touches on the evolution of our species and how our psychology and physiology is geared towards polyamory. Agriculture and private property is what changed our environment to make it economically beneficial to move towards a culture that encourages monogamy.
The economics behind the paleolithic period is explained very well by Hans-Hermann Hoppe in this (free!) book:
https://mises.org/library/short-history-man-progress-and-decline
Highly recommend you nerd out on this one!

Everyone trying to live a happy life should UNDERSTAND these concepts since otherwise you will fall into a bunch of mental traps including this infamous false dichotomy.
When someone is cheating people often say:
1. You should stop craving sexual novelty. You are bad for thinking about other men/women.
2. Be a man(or woman) and break it off. And find someone else... (with whom you'll end up doing the same thing - craving novelty)

People actually give advice that equates to: "ignore your feelings and thoughts and throw away the most important relationship of your life"
Yes.. give up on your best friend, the mother/father of your children, the person with whom you have a mortgage, the person knows you better than everyone else. All because you are hardwired to crave novelty.

There's also the zero sum game that's assumed with relationships.
You can have multiple friends that each have their own flavor/spice. A person with whom you party with, another with whom you go hiking with, another friend to have deep discussions with, etc. None of these friends take away love from the others.
This logic is not applied to someone with whom you have sex with though.
Relationships are not black and white, there are infinite shades of grey. There are infinite ways to set up a life with other humans. Some people are monogamous, some dig orgies, some have a main spouse with a few friends with benefits, some go out hunting WITH their spouse, etc.

I think this is the next logical step for western cultural evolution. To understand our biology, then design a lifestyle that takes this into consideration in order to maximize happiness and avoid the far to often depression associated with modern culture.

Good post. Relationships are extremely hard and extremely necessary.

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One wife is enough @rainbowdash lol
Imagine if they both take the stage at the same time #99problems  @cob

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Enjoy every moment.  The best thing in our life is love.

This is an interesting story, thanks for sharing it.

I have two burning questions though.  You mentioned you got pregnant.

* (1)  If your child becomes aware of your lifestyle, how will you shelter them from it, "until" they are the right age to understand it?

This is a complex issue, that I personally don't believe a small child should have to deal with at too early of an age.  Just my own view.

* (2) So far you've been lucky and really dilligent.  What happens when a situation that you couldn't possibly foresee happens?

For example, you are with someone "new" who seems like a normal, sane person.  6 months later they lose their job, they go through a psychiatric breakdown, become clingy and weird, and make you and your partner's life a living hell and start stalking.

You know those oddities, like movies are made about? :)

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Very interesting post. Personally not for me but each to their own.

Well, monogamy, yes :)

I tried three years living in a kind of open relation.
My GF was married...he knew me, liked me.

They had two kids and in the weekend we were having excursions all together like a 3-parent family with two kids.

I am sure that was a good experience for the kids as they could see that life is more than just thhe conventional :)

It lasted almost four years and he was my best man at the pagean weddingceremony I had with her.

We considered buying a house all together but then life happened and things turned out differently.
I don know, if I would do it again...propably if I love "her" enough, yes.
For sure it is an experience I do not want to miss in my life.

For the moment I am super happy in a (hopefuly) monogame relation.

My excuses for my terrible typing today...It even does pain to me as linguist..but I typed too much during the day.

Enjoy every phase of your live, because thats what it is: phases :)
Try all you want, but do not hurt anyone and u will be happy.

Awesome, we need much more openness and clear communication in the world. I'm happy for you ;)

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