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Texting your partner hundred times a day or checking his/her whereabouts? You are insecure in your relationship. And if so, it’s a big threat to your relationship. People make it a habit that destroys everything. So, what you really need??

You need fuel. Insecurity is like fire and security is the fuel to make the insecurity off. Where will you find the fuel? You have to give it to yourself. You must have self-respect. Don’t seek for others recognition. You don’t actually need it. You love someone, it’s ok, but if the person doesn’t show the respect you deserve, don’t fuel your relationship rather fuel yourself. Find some good work, read books or pick a passion.

And keep your fuel independent from your partner’s. Because when you become too dependent on your partner, the relationship draws boundaries. If you don’t depend on your relationship, you become secure in every possible way. Maintain self-identity that keeps you alive. You have it. Everyone has their own fuel to make them secure. Other people won’t do it. You should do what makes you feel confident and worthy.

 **Light your own fire.**