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像农民一样思考
前几日的时候，跟一个朋友聊天，提到说，
>发现一个现象就是越大龄的越成家越难，难就是不想成家了。我好多朋友就成什么家呀。我感觉，如果是我要是拖拖到现在，我可能也不想成家了，这也没啥意思的。

我当时就回应说，我可不那么想。但一时不知道怎么说出自己的想法，只是从心底不太认同她的这个观点，直到无意间看一本书时，中间提到一句话，

>抚养孩子会让人成长，使人内心变得强大。

这句我觉得说的很对。

抚养孩子也让我更加了解父母当初的不容易，也让我更加珍惜当下。

我认为这也是有家庭的意义之一吧。

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《活得通透》

这本书我看的是电子版，全书不长，很容易就读完。这本书没有太多大道理，就是通过一个长寿老太太的聊天，来讲述许多可以让你心情愉悦，不再内耗在各种事情上的心里话，看完后很治愈心理。

最近这段时间，学到了一个新的思考方式：像农民一样思考，我认为对我的心里和以后做事，有很大帮助和改善。

所谓“像农民一样思考”，指的是农民种植庄稼时，不会对着庄稼大吼大叫，不会抱怨庄稼长得太慢，不会在庄稼长成之前，就将其连根拔掉。。。

而农民通常做的事情，就是灌溉、施肥，定期除草、打药。。。

从前，我做事的事情，比较急躁，甚至急于求成，比如教育孩子，恨不得孩子一下子就学会，看到他做事学习不认真，心里就生气，甚至火冒三丈，大发雷霆，弄的孩子和我最后心情都很差，但是事情过后，发现大多时候于事无补，反而落下不好的回忆。

学到这个“像农民一样思考”的技巧后，我尝试去改变自己的想法，教育孩子时，不再大吼大叫，不再气愤孩子为何接受那么慢，不再。。。

总而言之，学会了这个新的思维技巧，我感觉跟孩子之间的相处，变得比先前融洽多了。

哦，后边我准备将这种思维方式，也带到自己其他生活、学习和工作方面，做事不急躁，一步一步来，期待着做的更好。

像农民一样思考。
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@acactus1013 · 
养孩子可比种庄稼难多啦😆
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@liumei · 
播种和收获不在同一个季节

静待花开 
静待小草茁壮
静待大树参天
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@rivalhw · 
有一天，小草也终会长成大树。
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@love5200 · 
一切随缘，想开了，哈哈
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@rivalhw · 
是的，一切随缘，都想开了，但绝不是躺平意思哦，哈哈
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@lovelingling · 
大伟哥这两个故事都挺有教育意义，年轻人应该多看看。
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@rivalhw · 
主要是写给自己的，勉励提醒自己
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@mrpointp · 
物欲横流、信息发达的今天，很少有人能够沉下心做事情，甚至认为内卷、内耗是人生常态。
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@rivalhw · 
确实如此，但若认为长期的内卷和内耗是人生常态，这个就很不正常。
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@trina77 · 
我家有个90年未成家的哥，等我回去好好跟他说叨说叨
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@rivalhw · 
哦哦，希望对你有所启发和帮助
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