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· @rivalhw · (edited)
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不得已出手
昨天真是把我气炸了!

事情最早还是要追溯到两星期前,老大说前额有些不舒服,晚上便早早上床睡了。先前老大也有过偶尔头疼这样的现象,稍微休息下就好了,我们当他是没睡好,再者,之前带他也去医院检查过,验血、拍高清CT都是正常。只不过这阵子次数多了些,孩子妈妈和我商量了下,决定再约个专家专程给他看下。

于是,这两个星期因为时常要带他去看医生,做检查,而其中两项检查经颅脑多普勒报告和MR核磁共振,当天做不了,要预约,而且没法同一天做,更是分开两个儿童医院,一个是老城区的,另一个是珠江新城那边。

问题来了,也正是这样多次带他检查,可能影响了他最近的学习,再个我们自己也粗心,没去检查他的作业完成情况,每天就只是简单问下,他都肯定回答完成了。

直到昨天上午,孩子妈妈问他作业是否完成?老大又故伎重演说完成了。结果检查之后,发现不仅这周末的数学作业没完成,先前老师要求每天晚上做的数学作业,好多都没做。。。

这真是气炸我了!


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我对孩子的教育,一向是比较宽容的,学习学知识,可以不会,可以听不懂,但绝对不允许不懂装懂,自欺欺人,以往碰到不会做的题目,孩子妈妈会有些不耐烦地吼孩子,多数时候,我都会出面劝说,口头禅就是,

“就是不懂,不会,才去学校学习嘛,如果都懂了,什么都会了,哪里还需要学习?”

但是这次,显然违背了我对学习的原则,也触犯了我的底线,这是无论如何都容不下,也不能接受。

我跟孩子沟通了几分钟,他支支吾吾,虽然没说多少,但可以看出,对这些事情,他自己是心知肚明,这就怪不得我了。

愤怒之下,“啪啪啪”一顿自然免不了。。。


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晚上睡觉前,这小子一声不吭,自己爬到床上睡下。我推开卧室门,站在门口,看着他,但没说话。

过了一会,老大轻轻叫了声,

“爸爸。。。”

我“嗯”了声,走了过去,坐在床边,想起了前几天二宝提醒我的,教育方法要对,不能太啰嗦,

“这次的错误教训,记住了吗?”

老大点点头,没说话。

“以后还会再犯类似的错误吗?” 见他意识到了错误,我的气消了许多。

“不会再犯了”,老大还是那般轻声回答。

“睡吧,儿子!” 说完,我起身离开了房间。

打不是目的,我平日里很少动粗,只是这次真的触犯了我的底线,违背了我一贯教育的原则,还是那句话,我不指望孩子们以后有很大出息,但求他们从小就能养成好的习惯,建立良好的三观,长大后对得起他们自己就好。
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@acactus1013 ·
我昨晚才把老大暴揍一顿,相当理解那种情绪失控,秒愤怒🤝🏻
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@rivalhw ·
难怪我次日测量,发现血压比往日高了。。。
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@acactus1013 ·
要保重啊!
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@angelina6688 ·
你们还是太相信孩子了,每次我问作业做完没,我起码50%概率会翻一番他们作业本 确认下是不是真的做完了。我虽然很相信孩子,但是小朋友嘛你懂的,总有时候会干些让你“气炸”的事儿啊
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@rivalhw ·
是的,之前是过于相信他,才导致出现这次的扯谎。今天开始,我们会留意这方面,不仅听他讲,还要检查,也算是要“知行合一” 囧
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@angelina6688 ·
>我对孩子的教育,一向是比较宽容的,学习学知识,可以不会,可以听不懂,但绝对不允许不懂装懂,自欺欺人,以往碰到不会做的题目,孩子妈妈会有些不耐烦地吼孩子,多数时候,我都会出面劝说,口头禅就是,
“就是不懂,不会,才去学校学习嘛,如果都懂了,什么都会了,哪里还需要学习?”
但是这次,显然违背了我对学习的原则,也触犯了我的底线,这是无论如何都容不下,也不能接受。

哈哈,这简直是和我家如出一辙,囧,永远是我吼的比较多,爸爸在一边那啥。。。不过关键时候(触及底线 需要好好修理下小孩),爸爸的威力还是比我这个妈妈震慑力强多了
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@davidke20 ·
完全说出了我的心声。我的问题是,教育了以后,孩子怀恨在心,解释也不听。多年后,现在来跟我算账😵 我心里现在想,真是生了块叉烧。我已经完全没有办法了。也不是我不爱他们,只是觉得实现宠坏了造就了今天的局面。也不能怪我家母老虎,责任是我给她的,要怪也只能怪我自己。
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@dengyanping888 ·
教育孩子真的不是件容易的事儿哈哈,我现在几乎是用理解和“夸”的方法来跟姑娘说话,她才会愿意把她自己的事情跟我说。记得初中时候动过一次手,她现在还偶尔提起,记得呢哈哈。所以还是别动粗了。
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@rivalhw ·
主要是这次太生气,但还是要跟孩子确认下,让他知道是自己错了。无论责备还是动粗,都是无奈之举,我还是爱他们的,也平抚下他的心情,让他多些理解。
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@dengyanping888 ·
我感觉大伟的脾气性格很好吧,这次应该是你家大儿子欺负你了哈哈
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@rivalhw · (edited)
的确,差点被这小子忽悠瘸了
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@love5200 ·
每个娃都逃脱不了被打屁屁的时期,但求轻一点,唉,大家都是过来人。
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@rivalhw ·
>唉,大家都是过来人。

大家都是过来人,唉。
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@lovelingling ·
大伟哥教育的对,这方面不能马虎和纵容,孩子至少在父母面前应该诚实。
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@rivalhw ·
我倒不是非得要求他对我绝对诚实,只是觉得他在那里自欺欺人这就实在太荒诞了。。。囧
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@mrpointp ·
赞成👍🏻诚实比学习更重要
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