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My Best & Worst Personality Trait
"Don't be too emotional" is perhaps the most devastating remark that people I love have directed at me. Emotions are who I am. They've always propelled me through life. I sail a changeable sea of feelings that need constant processing and understanding, and achieving equilibrium on a calm shore is a rare (though more achievable, as I get older) and tricky feat. 

![image.png](https://files.peakd.com/file/peakd-hive/riverflows/23xVD4s1bfEm54WDTwjhCwtsaSHMLkqpUZPZaMwkasKjMdmSTWMdqCRCJFdSsTMjbTxTf.png)


AS I grew up, I internalized the idea that being emotional was a flaw to be suppressed and hidden and *managed*. It took years to recognize that the qualifier "too" was a judgment against others whose emotional responses were not better, but different to mine. 

Now, I am proud of my emotional depth and expressive self. If I need to gush, effuse, or cry, I damn well will. 

I'm a moon girl, and my emotions are tidal, ebbing and flowing.  I've developed a toolbox of tricks to manage it - meditation has helped me understand that I don't have to 'lock in' or identify any particular emotiona at any particular time. My emotional intelligence, or intuition, has been beneficial in guiding me, making decisions with my gut. My emotions, a source of caring and empathy, help build and nurture meaningful connections with family and friends. Jamie cherishes my emotional soul, as do those who truly love me. 

I also channel my emotional essence into creativity – writing poetry, stories, and building a harmonious home and garden. Yet, vulnerability prompts me to retreat into a protective shell, a behavior that has caused me to lose some friendships. Despite explaining my need for solitude when I'm overwrought, stressed, or just going through a tricky time, a few friends failed to comprehend this, much to my devastation. 

Being emotional has its downsides, but I've learned to embrace it as an intrinsic part of myself. I am not 'too' anything; I am perfectly me. 


With Love,

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@chris-chris92 ·
Wow! You remind me to an older version of me. Full of emotions and feelings. Your post has touched me deeply. Lovely, lovely, lovely. 
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@creativemary ·
Oh whenever I hear someone saying this old cliche line "you're too emotional" it makes my brain spin lol. It shows that whoever is telling you this has no capacity to sit with their own emotions and this is why they are disturbed to see someone embracing and showing what they feel. I believe that it is the healthiest things to show emotions and embrace them, it is the beauty of being a human.
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@genesisledger ·
I too struggled with the weight of my emotions, internalizing the idea that they were a weakness to be muzzled. But like you, I've learned to embrace my sensitivity and recognize its strength. Even if I think I still have a lot of trouble doing that. 

I have a lot of situations to live through where I have to be very strong mentally and, at the very least, I have to appear strong. Indeed, having a digital business, when I meet customers, I have to be persuasive. And what could be more persuasive than someone who is confident? 

But I have absolutely no confidence in myself. That's something else I'm working on at the moment. 

But now I'm not fighting my emotions (or less). When something doesn't please me, bothers me, hurts me, makes me sad, etc., I say so. And finally, to feel all these emotions to the power of 1000 and to be able to get them out of your head and tell them to others is extremely liberating. 

You're right, emotions are the driving force of our existence. They guide us, inspire us and connect us to others. Without them, life would be a barren landscape.

I admire your courageous authenticity. And I think that's exactly why I express my emotions now: to be authentic. The great thing is that it attracts authentic people too!

Don't be afraid to withdraw into your protective shell when you feel the need. Solitude is not a weakness, but a necessity to recharge your batteries and regain your equilibrium. 

I often use my shell. In fact, when I was in my first years at school, my teachers always drew shells on my notebooks because they said I was too much in my shell. 

It bothered me for a long time. But in the end, it's a real strength (which isn't always easy to accept).
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@riverflows ·
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> they were a weakness to be muzzled. 

This is especially common with men. In Australia there's a really high rate of male suicide so they're trying to encourage boys to talk about their emotions. WE're getting there. 

> But I have absolutely no confidence in myself.

When I tell people i don't have confidence they're so suprised. It's not how I talk. We all wear our masks. That's why I try not to judge people too much - everyone's hiding something. 

> The great thing is that it attracts authentic people too!

YES!!!!! 

>  Solitude is not a weakness, but a necessity to recharge your batteries and regain your equilibrium.

Yes. It took years for my hubs to truly 'get' this - but now he fully does. And I just tell my friends now outright - that's just who I am. 

> my teachers always drew shells on my notebooks because they said I was too much in my shell. 

That is rather cute! Here's to being shell-fish! 


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@goldenoakfarm ·
Yes, you are! My sister is more so than I, but we both cherish our time alone. And it is a hard thing for others to understand.
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@honeydue ·
God, *YES*. Same background here. Used to feel so ashamed and weak when I started crying (I cry pretty easily). Didn't really fit into the whole "oh your tears are your strength" vibe. I don't know that they are. I think you need to accept this is what you are like. I'm someone who cries a lot and is quite emotional. It's just how it is, and as you say, it can't be too much or too little anything.

Love this <3
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@jenthoughts ·
Me too are always emotional, I cry easily and I think that is the biggest weakness I have. I can't control my tears and it will drop so easily that I can't stop it and can't understand why it is like it. 

They used to call me a crying lady during college days because I can cry so easily.
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@juwel11 ·
I think 🤔 you can help me for growth my account 🙏
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@riverflows ·
Maybe. But a comment like this makes you the last person I want to help. You haven't commented on my post and you have basically just begged for support. 
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@juwel11 ·
No ... I need support but not a begging system.. i want to support for my hard work.. i just say this one it's force 💪 thanks for replying 😘
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@trucklife-family ·
I love this.
Being able to embrace ourselves for who we are, as emotional bei gs is so important. Making space to allow ourselves to feel, that's where real growth comes from. 
Oh the amount of times I've been told I'm too emotional. Now I just say thank you xxxxx
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@uchelee ·
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This is great. People tend to project, or disapprove of things they don't understand. Some people would break down and continue to fuss about how to "act right" and what people might think... it's great that you don't care very much and are self-aware, letting your emotions out and managing them properly when need be. 

Kudos. 🌻 
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@riverflows ·
Thanks. It's been a long journey. In hindsight I can't believe I ever thought there was something wrong with me.. ! 
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@uchelee ·
Hehe, happens to the best of us. 
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