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Learning to Be My Own Friend Loh #250 by royaluy

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Learning to Be My Own Friend Loh #250
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Hi exceptional Ladies,im so happy to be sharing this based on experience you see Loving yourself sounds like something easy, but in reality, it’s one of the hardest things to do. When I was younger, I didn’t even know what it meant. People will tell you “you should love yourself more” but no one actually teaches you how to do it. I used to think it means looking in the mirror and saying “I love me,” but it’s deeper than that ooo.

For a long time, I compared myself to others. I felt like I wasn’t enough,not pretty enough, not smart enough, not successful enough. Anytime I made a mistake, I would beat myself up in my mind. I thought if I was hard on myself, I would improve. But instead, it just made me feel smaller and smaller inside.

The first time I really started to love myself was when **I decided to treat myself the way I treat the people I care about.** I asked myself, “If my best friend made this same mistake, would I be this harsh?” The answer was no. I would comfort them, encourage them, and tell them they are still amazing. So why not do the same for myself?

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For me, self-love started with small steps. **I stopped saying mean things to myself in my head.** When I look in the mirror, I try to notice one thing I like about me, even if it’s small,like my smile or the way my eyes light up when I laugh. I also started spending more time doing things that make me happy, like reading, listening to music, or watching my favorite dramas (k dramas).

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Another thing that helped was **setting boundaries**. I realized loving myself means not allowing people to treat me in ways that hurt me. I learned to say “no” without feeling guilty, and to walk away from things that drain my energy. At first, it felt strange, but slowly, I noticed I was feeling more peace inside.

**I also stopped waiting for people to validate me.** Before, I would feel good only when someone complimented me or approved my choices. Now, I try to approve myself first. If I’m happy with what I’m doing, that’s enough.

I am not perfect at it,some days I still fall into old habits of self-doubt. But now I know how to pull myself back. I remind myself that I am worthy, not because of what I do or how I look, but simply because I am me and nobody can be like me.

Loving yourself is not a one-day thing ooo. It’s a journey, And sometimes it’s slow. But each small act of kindness towards yourself builds up into something powerful. And one day, you wake up and realize that you are your own best friend, your own cheerleader, your own safe place.

That’s the kind of love I am learning to give myself, and it’s the most freeing thing I have ever known.Thanks  
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@cautiva-30 · 
It is certainly not easy to love yourself, as it takes time, the decision to choose to treat yourself as your loved ones and learn the value of accepting yourself as you are is great, without a doubt as you say, it is liberating, thank you for sharing your experiences
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