Don't Let Your Rejection To Define You by samminator

motivational · @samminator · Aug 18 '21 (edited)

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Don't Let Your Rejection To Define You

I know many of your must have been in a position where you have been rejected - maybe in relationship, job application, favour, etc, but in that case, what you do will matter and will go a long way to define you. Some people may have wrapped their heads in depression while many others have risen up as if the rejection never happened; it is only a matter of the choice you make. Note this, however: that someone rejected you does not mean everyone reject you. Many people will accept you.

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<center><sub>Image from [Pixabay](https://pixabay.com/illustrations/brain-think-throughts-psychology-4065092)</sub></center>

In the face of rejection, there are things to know and do in order to cushion the effect. Firstly, you have to resolve within your mind to accept the situations that made you to be rejected. For example, in a relationship, accept the fact that you were rejected because you approached the person for a relationship. This is because, living in self-denial or trying to shield yourself from the truth will further weaken you. Accepting the fact that you were rejected and allowing it to define you are two different things. You have to know the difference.

When you accept the fact, you are only coming to terms with the problem at hand, and having the knowledge of the problem is the only potent first-step to solving it. However, allowing it to define you is to live with the problem and accept it as your fate without moving to solve it. Do not beat yourself over a "no". You have two options in the event of a "no": to try again or to move on.

Another thing to know about accepting the situation that made you to be rejected is: you can only solve a problem that you are aware of its existence. That is, there is no way to proffer solution to something if you have denied their existence. So you cannot fight denial with denial. Most times, denying that you were rejected is only a sign of weakness. Imagine someone that just suffered embarrassment trying to convince himself that he was not embarrassed, he may end up hurting himself and imploding inwards.

Imagine someone that attended an employment interview and at the end of the day he was not taken, if he does not accept this fact, he may spend his entire life hoping against hope. But accepting that there is no vacancy for him there will allow him to explore other opportunities and may even get something better than the one he was denied. Always have in mind that you will do yourself more good to accept and move on that to live in false hope.

Another thing that should provide a comfy for you in the face of rejection is "at least you tried; you made an attempt." For the fact that a moment of rejection arose expressly indicates that you have made an attempt. After all, no one gets rejected without having put an attempt. This reminds me of a popular adage in the part of the world I grew up:

> Onye mmiri furu ukwu ya k'ona eri.
Meaning: the water cannot drown you until you step into it

In this context, for you to have been rejected should give you the hope that you are not dormant but actively making moves. Many people that got accepted in many big places had suffered rejection in the past but they neither allowed the rejection to deter them from trying nor to define them. You may not have had a choice over what led to the rejection but you can choose how to respond to it.

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<center><sub>Image from [Pixabay](https://pixabay.com/photos/sculpture-sculpture-park-2613506)</sub></center>

One thing to always have in mind is that: making an attempt and was rejected is still far better than staying hibernated without making a single attempt. The person that was rejected the first time is already a "doer" and will yet again try until he gains acceptance. But the other person will not know if he will be accepted or not because he has not made any attempt.

***Thanks for reading***

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