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Humans, as long as they live and interact with others, will constantly experience one form of conflicting situation or the other, but the most important thing is to learn how to resolve these conflicts so as not to blow them up into something catastrophic. More often than not, conflicts start little and when they are neglected, they tend to grow out of proportion. This is the reason we have to learn early resolution of conflict. In our [last episode](https://peakd.com/motivational/@samminator/peaceful-resolution-of-conflict-part-1), we looked at ways to resolve conflicts which can also come in handy to prevent the conflicts in the first place; which include welcoming of people's ideas, avoidance of assumption, and taking of responsibilities. Here, we will take some more ways on how to resolve conflicts.

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### 1. Analyse the source of the conflict

If you do not know why a conflict arose in the first place, it may keep repeating because the same thing that led to the conflict may be repeated without even knowing. So to avoid or to resolve conflict, you have to find out why the conflict happened. The truth is that, it is the knowledge of a problem that will be instrumental towards solving the problem. In this instance, it is the analysis of what caused the conflict that will aid to resolve it. Defining the triggers of conflicts is the first step towards proffering a solution to it. 

There may be something that if you do, it will cause friction between you and others. It is by analysing it that you will discover such things. Like I always say "most conflicts are easily avoidable but only if you can discover the root cause." Sometimes, when one ignores the things that easily lead to conflicts, then they have subscribed for conflict. Remember, you do not win a battle by avoiding the battle, you win it by confronting it. So you have to consciously analyse and uncover the situations that led to the conflict and solve it from the root. Just the same way as if you want to kill a tree, you do not just remove the leaves and expect for the tree to die, you have to uproot the tree for it to die.

### 2. Mind your speech

There are times that people's speeches can incite conflict or might blow an already existing conflict out of proportion. Before you speak in reaction to a situation or to an event, you need to ask yourself about the potential outcome of such speech. Sometimes, it will be better to keep quiet and just do more of listening than to make a comment and put "fuel into fire." In the face of conflicting situations, especially the ones caused by dissimilarity in points of view, it will do you more good to remain calm than make an implicating statement that may cause more conflict.

When making a statement in the face of conflict, you have to have one thing in mind: the idea is not to prove a point but to settle or resolve the conflict. More often than note, in an attempt to resolve a conflict with anger and temper, you may cause more harm than good, so learn the act of controlling your words when angry. Also learn the act of maintaining a calm spirit and speak only when it is necessary. You will be surprised that when you refrain from speaking out of anger until everything has calmed down, you will discover that what you would have said at that point may have triggered more conflict.

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### 3. Learn to apologise when your are wrong

Humans can err from time to time but a simple "I am sorry" might be all it will take to prevent it from being blown into a full conflict. It takes a considerable amount of maturity to know when to apologise. If you are wrong, there is no need to claim right or to give excuses, just apologise. Once you realise your mistakes, the next thing to follow is apology. A prompt apology can go a long way to calm an impending conflict.

There are so many conflicts that would have been avoided if the people involved deemed it important to apologise at the initial stage. Saying "I am sorry" does not make you the weaker person, neither does it makes you a loser, it only means that you are the better human and that you have mastered the act of controlling your strength. More often than not, it is an exhibition of pride for someone not to apologise when they are obviously wrong. Remember this, following an offence with another offence will only lead to conflicts. So, as much as you learn to apologise, also learn to forgive others of their offences and do not be too quick to take revenge.

***Thanks for reading***

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