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Recognizing the problems
Recognizing the problems in a relationship is not that easy. It takes years in some cases and by that time, much damage would have been done. The emotional setbacks and the sacrifices would far outweigh any good that was to come out of separation if it was possible. So, there are many things to be considered before ever committing to such a long-term relationship. Never consider stepping in if you are not satisfied or have to compromise because it could hit back like a boomerang. 

I have come across many instances in my society recently where newly married couples are opting for divorce. When earlier, the bride was told to adjust according to the whims and fancies of her husband's family, now, the bride is bold enough to face her relatives and walk away if needed. Times have changed and it is better if the so-called cultural rules involving systems such as DOWRY or bride price is stopped. People still expect the bride to take charge as the servant of the house after marriage. In many houses, the woman has to go for outside work besides completing the housework and looking after the children without any help. So, it is a huge task and many women look haggard and worn down after a few years of marriage. 

https://cdn.pixabay.com/photo/2021/07/18/14/59/family-6475821_1280.jpg
[source](https://pixabay.com/photos/family-love-parenthood-vacation-6475821/)

The above is an observation based on families in India. I am not sure if it is the case outside India. 

The above was in respect of the treatment of women generally but many have moved on and are now giving respect and care to the woman and also helping her in her work. 

Now for the relationships part. There are many males who are abused too. It is often hard to recognize because males do not cry easily and keep quiet. They are also afraid to speak out or ask for help in case of abuse because they probably believe that no one will believe what they say. Some women take advantage of this and often walk away with their husband's wealth and children. 

 How to recognize the problems in a relationship?
* Do you feel free to talk with friends when your partner is not around? - It indicates trouble
* Do you trust your partner with money? 
* Do you feel the urge to talk about your relationship with other friends or relatives rather than having a heart-to-heart talk with your partner itself?
* Do you remember past hurts and spill it out each time there is an argument? - Try to be more forgiving if possible
* Do you remember the last time you enjoyed watching a movie together or going out?
* Do you have fun times together with the children?
* Do you have  'the disease of suspecting' your partner?

The above are just a few examples indicating that there could be problems in your relationships that can be rectified if you have the will and wish. It takes years to build trust and it should not be thrown away like a used garment because the emotional damage is high and will of course affect the children too. So, think about it. 
















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@wongi ·
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>I am not sure if it is the case outside India.

It isn't so different in my part of the world too. I feel that couples should always lend a helping hand to each other. Leaving a majority of the duties to the ladies is never the right thing to do. Unfortunately, not so many ladies know how to speak up or defend themselves. This often causes disharmony.


And some men also go through the same predicament but the world has given men a stereotype, leaving the men 90% helpless when such situation arises.



Tackling such issues at an early stage is always a wise thing to do as it eventually saves the marriage/partnership. 
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