Exactly. Allowing feelings, and not feeling shame. We all know the classic "trying to keep the tears in while at the movies" Which is OK I guess. It's a social thing. But when you do that when you're alone watching a movie..that's not good. Why can't you even display feelings to yourself? Why can't you allow yourself to have feelings? 

I'm convinced that in order to become strong you must tolerate all aspects of yourself. If you're a walking shell, you can probably kick someones ass. But you're weak because you get so quickly aroused (not sexually..) and your adrenaline goes off too quickly. You have no control over your emotions. A strong person is someone who is composed and deals with issues. Someone who is in balance. 

When someone approaches you agressively on the street, you should not immediately kick him in the face. Nor should you start crying and begging him to stop being aggressive. You should stay focused and composed and in control. 

I think we're having a mutual understanding of what strength is my friend :)

Oh..and btw, just so that we're clear..I believe its a virtue to be strong. And with strong I even mean almost dangerous. We should be boarderline dangerous. Not weak and harmless. But it does not mean we should act on it. But have the ability to be if needed.