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Learn To Say NO - Setting Personal Boundaries
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<p><center><img src="https://picload.org/image/rdrdlgro/saynocover0.jpg" width="322" height="157"/></center></p>
<p>Humans are very social beings. We want to be part of a group, be liked and have friends, and that’s a totally natural behavior.<br>
But sometimes, this goes too far – we probably all know someone who is being used because of their inability to say <strong>NO</strong>.<br>
And this can become a real problem, because it hurts the person from within and they can actually end up being left alone because when times get tough, those people that used them usually disappear. &nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<h3>Reasons why you can’t say No:&nbsp;</h3>
<ul>
  <li>You want to be liked and accepted by others.&nbsp;</li>
  <li>You want others to think positively of you.&nbsp;</li>
  <li>You don't want to hurt or let down anyone.</li>
  <li>You want to avoid conflicts.&nbsp;</li>
  <li>You want to be (or stay) part of a group</li>
  <li>You are afraid to address your opinion out loud. &nbsp;&nbsp;</li>
  <li>You want to show people that you're a good person and are willing to help.</li>
</ul>
<h3>Essentially, it’s a trade: I help you with this, but in return I expect to be liked or respected.</h3>
<p>But this is an issue that's not only about being used by others - <strong>it's also about not being able to voice your opinion.<br>
</strong>When someone is cutting the line at the grocery store, bumping into you on the street, or annoying you on the subway - these are all situations where you should learn to <strong>voice your own opinion </strong>and make it clear that you are not comfortable or happy with the situation.</p>
<h3>Start with small things and then gradually build it up!</h3>
<p><br></p>
<h2><center><img src="https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/564x/a3/70/2b/a3702b1a2750051a5c7a6ce1cf56c822.jpg" width="550" height="600"/></center><br>
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<h2><center>Here are some Tips to remember when learning to say No: &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</center></h2>
<h3>1) You have a CHOICE!</h3>
<p>Remember that you are not obligated to say yes – you always have the choice, even though sometimes it might not feel like it. You can decide what is best for your own good. &nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<h3>2) You don’t need to justify your decision.</h3>
<p>If you say no to someone, we often feel like we have to tell them an excuse or an explanation. But you are not obligated to justify your decision at all. Of course most of us wouldn’t say “I don’t want to help you because I don’t like you”, but you don’t have to be as drastic! &nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<blockquote>"No" is a complete Sentence. It does not require justification or explanation. &nbsp;- Unknown</blockquote>
<h3>3) Don’t answer right away!</h3>
<p>Sometimes when someone asks us for a favor, we have the reflex to say “sure!”. But take a few seconds to actually think about if you want to do it, what the consequences would be, if you have enough time etc. &nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<h3>4) Set your priorities!</h3>
<p>You live your OWN life. Which means that YOU come first, and your tasks/goals/wants come first! You are not obligated to help out someone else before finishing your own to do lists (unless of course it’s a serious emergency.) &nbsp; So before making a decision, always ask if it's worth it!</p>
<h3>5) It’s OKAY to say No!</h3>
<p>Just because you’re not used to saying it, doesn’t mean other people aren’t used to hearing it. Sometimes you hear a No in life and you should accept it – even if it comes from you. Real friends should be respectful enough to understand that! &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
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<p><center><img src="https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/564x/9f/a3/9d/9fa39d6741060794c9ac88fdf77a83d4.jpg" width="564" height="797"/></center></p>
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<h3>Be prepared that people will try to persuade you anyway, even if you learned to say No.</h3>
<p>They will say things like:</p>
<ul>
  <li>If you were a good friend/colleague, you would...</li>
  <li>You can do this much better than I can!</li>
  <li>But we always do it like this / you're the only one that doesn't do it</li>
  <li>But we're friends right?</li>
</ul>
<p>Those are really just forms of <strong>blackmailing</strong>. They try to make you feel bad about your decision, tell you that you are the only solution, or try to make you somehow feel obligated to agree.</p>
<h3>Don't be irritated by that. You have just learned to say No, now don't buckle but stick with it!</h3>
<blockquote>"Givers need to set limits because Takers rarely do. - Rachel Wolchin</blockquote>
<p><br></p>
<h3><center>So how can you stop being used long-term?&nbsp;</center></h3>
<h2><center>You have to set new boundaries for yourself.</center></h2>
<p><center><img src="http://www.crystalandrusmorissette.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/08/images.jpg" width="322" height="157"/></center></p>
<p><br>
To do that, first of all you need to be <strong>aware</strong> of your current boundaries.<br>
Think about different scenarios when someone asks you for a favor, and write down if you would say yes or no depending on the circumstances you're in <em>(and also write down if you actually mean to say yes or not!)</em><br>
Also think about situations where you first agreed, and then later on you were mad at yourself.</p>
<p><strong>Now think about </strong><em><strong>when</strong></em><strong> this happens </strong>- &nbsp;<br>
Is it with certain people? Or when you are in a certain condition? How do you react when your boundaries get crossed, and how would you prefer them to be?</p>
<p>There is no general guide to your personal boundaries because everyone is different, so I can't give any step-by-step instructions.<br>
But what's important is that you simply listen to your own feelings, your own wants and needs, and think about how you could alter your boundaries to feel more comfortable and happy, in combination with the tips listed above.</p>
<h3><br></h3>
<h3>And just a small heads up:&nbsp;</h3>
<p>When you actually start following through with these Tips, some people will probably tell you that you’ve changed and become “more egoistic”. <strong>Even if it bothers you – don’t let that get to you.<br>
</strong>They don’t see the bigger picture, and don’t see how you were being used before, so they can’t judge! &nbsp;Learning to say No is not about becoming more egoistic, but respecting yourself and being used by others less. &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
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<p>Image Sources: <a href="https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/originals/a3/70/2b/a3702b1a2750051a5c7a6ce1cf56c822.jpg">1</a>, <a href="http://www.askingforwhatyouwant.com/2015/02/03/12-ways-to-say-no-gracefully-without-saying-maybe-later/">2</a>, <a href="http://www.crystalandrusmorissette.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/08/images.jpg">3</a></p>
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@andrew6 · 
this is a really important topic - being able to voice your opinion is a necessity for mental health!
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@sirwinchester · 
definitely - no one can be happy or live freely if they're constantly oppressing their own needs and opinions!
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@annabartels · 
<blockquote>Givers need to set limits because Takers rarely do. - Rachel Wolchin</blockquote> that quote is DEEP. Love it.
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@sirwinchester · 
yes I like that one too!
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@anns · 
Cool Post!
Steem On!
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@beckygee · 
"If you were a good friend/colleague, you would..."
I HATE when people do that, so manipulative!
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@sirwinchester · 
and the problem is if you THEN agree after they said that, they know you'd agree in the future too as long as they put some pressure on you! so this has to be stopped from the beginning!
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@bitcoinpros · 
I know that this is a big problem for many people (luckily I don't suffer from it), and they get used all the time. I will share this with my friends to help them
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@sirwinchester · 
that's great, the more people can benefit from this, the better!
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@citruss · 
very very helpful, and great topic choice. I know many people that suffer from this!!
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@sirwinchester · 
unfortunately it's a growing problem in today's society, where everyone wants to be liked so desperately. thanks for your feedback!
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@emily-s · 
This was exactly what I needed to hear right now. Since growing up I've always wanted to please everyone, and I'm only slowly larning that saying No is okay too!
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@sirwinchester · 
that's great to hear!
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@galaxy77 · 
very helpful advice, no wonder your hashtag is trending! I can see all your efforts, good job
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@sirwinchester · 
thank you, appreciate your kind words!
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@jamesab · 
very inspirational as always.
I think the quote about saying NO is my favorite - there is absolutely no justification or explanation needed! when you want to say no, it's a NO and that's it!
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@sirwinchester · 
100% agreed! We are so used to excuses and white lies but they're not always necessary.
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@jenniferchen · 
I think the key is really to care less about what others think of you. It might be hard at first, but it's the best solution to true inner happiness.
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@sirwinchester · 
That's right. Not caring about the opinion of others is probably one of the most important lessons to learn in life.
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@juvyjabian · 
Its a matter of acceptance of what a person cant do. Its hard to pretend that a person can do all things just because he dont know how to say NO.  

To others, saying no is a sign of weakness but they are wrong. Learning how to say NO is a sign that you are a strong person, a person with good personality, a person that knows his limitation, and a person that is honest to himself and towards the people around him.
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@neowenyuan27 ·
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Have to agree with you on this as well @juvyjabian. Sometimes we just can't explain human characters by itself. Some were born strong-willed, stubborn. I've seen people, a man, not a kid, who says no to everything as well. Some would just submit to the people around him to gain friends, and learn to say yes to everything. 

Hopefully this post reaches to somebody who needs help saying "NO", and hard-willed enough to follow through all the steps above. Nice post @sirwinchester
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@juvyjabian · 
Others would take NO as total rejection, which is not true. People just have to learn that not everything they wanted can be given to them. Its a fact that we are not in control of everything.
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@sirwinchester · 
very nicely put, and I agree with you. 
If someone tells them no, they might be offended or view the person as "bad human being". But it actually just shows how much they respect themselves and how strong they are!
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@juvyjabian · 
Those who do not know how to accept NO as an answer to its request is a sign of being immature.
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@kyusho · 
What is needed is more de-programming of what people have endured for decades.  But few now have the personal incentive or focus to do it on their own.  

Now that said, this social media outlet (Steemit), has a better chance of helping people break from the facebook prison.
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@meesterboom · 
I really like this post as it is a skill which needs learned and can be very difficult to even start with. Most especially good is the note at the end  about peoples perspectives on the new or more assertive "no" saying you. I have had this and its good to call out that its not about ego and all about your own increasing self respect :O)
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@sirwinchester · 
you put that nicely - it's a SKILL. some people have it naturally, some need to learn it, but it's essential to become (or stay) happy!
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@najibnoesis · 
"Anything that costs you your peace is too expensive" — great quote. I like it!
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@peacemaker · 
if everyone would follow your advice, the world would be a better place!
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@sirwinchester · 
thank you :)
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@samether · 
Good fences make good neighbors!
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@sirwinchester · 
very fitting!
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@sourcandy · 
that last part is sadly very true - the ones that used you before will tell you you have become egoistic once you change. But actually, losing them as a "friend" might be a good thing.
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@sirwinchester · 
definitely - you don't need these people in your life anyway that only "like" you if you are of use to their personal gain!
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@team101 · 
Great inspirational post needed in today's world!
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@sirwinchester · 
thank you! :)
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@tee-em · 
In addition,  the law of scarcity makes you more desirable if you don't make yourself overly available, too. Good article,  as well as timing for a refresher for myself to remember that.
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